Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Cutting :-/ Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]squeekybee[/m] at 3:17 pm on Oct. 21, 2008[quote]I cut last year, a lot, I wont get into detail about back then. But now I am in a happy relationship (6 months), and I thought.. I had stopped. I was so confused about the relationship though; and I thought that it was going to end soon, and I thought if we broke up it would be my fault. But this past weekend, I couldn't take it, I tried talking to him, and it was kind of a temporary relief (talking to him), and I cut. again. I haven't in over a year. The day after I did it, we made up for the arguments and everything. And now I feel really stupid. I am still really confused. I talked to him about it because I felt like I was lying to him not telling him, but he said "People do that when they are lonely, or have lost hope." I did it for neither of those reasons. So why did I do it?   :confused: If I resulted to that, do you think our relationship is doomed now? I just really need some opinions please[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post squeekybee Posted at 3:17 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 I cut last year, a lot, I wont get into detail about back then. But now I am in a happy relationship (6 months), and I thought.. I had stopped. I was so confused about the relationship though; and I thought that it was going to end soon, and I thought if we broke up it would be my fault. But this past weekend, I couldn't take it, I tried talking to him, and it was kind of a temporary relief (talking to him), and I cut. again. I haven't in over a year. The day after I did it, we made up for the arguments and everything. And now I feel really stupid. I am still really confused. I talked to him about it because I felt like I was lying to him not telling him, but he said "People do that when they are lonely, or have lost hope." I did it for neither of those reasons. So why did I do it?   If I resulted to that, do you think our relationship is doomed now? I just really need some opinions please

Replies squeekybee Posted at 3:24 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 I might paint my nails. Thats a good idea, and I never thought of it as a one time relapse, that makes me feel a little better. Just the thing is. If I am happy...why did I do it. It's just confusing me. tearyied Posted at 3:24 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 i used 2 cut so when i say this im not judgeing u but u just have to find another way to deal with your pain for me its my music and my art focus ur pain to something positive unwantedtears xo Posted at 3:22 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 I used to do it as stress relife..maybe your stressed. get some help. tell someone who cares and you'll get over it. (its a hard habbit to get rid of) micahvortega Posted at 3:21 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 okay, i used to do that to myself too, about 5 years ago. and honestly, its really really pointless. there are so many other things you could do besides that :[ I'm pretty sure you did it because you just needed to feel, because you were not in touch with your feelings at the moment. yes? But there are so many other things you could do besides cutting. There's no point in harming yourself :[ MiaBia Posted at 3:21 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 Because it USED to be a coping mechanism for you and when you lost your comfort in him, you tried to cope. Given, it was not the most constructive way to cope, it's perfectly normal. Relapse is a part of recovery. Recovery is a process. There is nothing wrong with you, your relationship is not doomed. That s**t about "you only do it if you've given up hope" is bull crap. He was pulling that out of his a*s. Find new coping mechanisms that don't involve him, so that next time you two fight, you can dye your hair or paint your nails. Feel better! MixedDelight Posted at 3:20 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 Get some professional help I don't understand people who cut themselves. I think it's inappropriate, unnecessary and a form of weakness/giving up. If you feel down then talk to someone you trust, like a best friend. Don't just slice your skin. It solves nothing. babecakes Posted at 3:19 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 hah..help. ashleyacid Posted at 3:19 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 You just had a relapse  back into cutting. It is probably just a one time thing and you will probably never do it again. So dont worry about it, it doesn't mean your relationship is going to be bad. Gemmax Posted at 3:19 pm on Oct. 21, 2008 get some help All 9 previous replies displayed.