Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I'm stuck in this situation =[ Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Jay JWLH[/m] at 3:41 am on Nov. 15, 2008[quote]For now I think you should start up some honest conversations with people you trust, discussing this issue. If you do take the recommended route and talk to the police about it, I would hope they will support you through it. This whole fear of him retaliating because you snitch thing... I can see where you are coming from, and yes, maybe he can get a bit angry over something like this. But either he can continue what he is doing, or he can do worse to you. You are a weak target to him, and he thinks he can just get away with what he is doing to you. Once you start showing signs that you won't accept this treatment, he will either back off, or he will get charged with domestic abuse, or assault if he doesn't change his ways. Think about it just a bit.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 3:07 am on Nov. 15, 2008 I dont know what to do anymore, i seem to be stuck in this situation, and i can't find a way of getting out. About 10 years ago my mum met this man, who is now my step father. About 8 years ago he started getting very angry, and taking it out on me. I was only 8 so i guess i was easily manipulated, brainwashed infact because this is the first time i have ever spoken about this. It started off as a few punches here and there, but then it got more and more regular and more violent. I know people say that the only way out of this is to tell someone who can help me, but the truth is no one can help me. Although i have never told anyone about this it must have been so obvious that i am being abused and no one is helping me. I was only 8 when i started getting hit and i never hid the bruises, because i wanted someone to see them and see that they aren't just bruises all kids get. All those teachers that must have seen them and never questioned them. If nobody cared about a child of 8 being abused who will care about a 16 year old being abused? I actually feel stuck i dont know how i am going to get out of this situation unless i move out, but that is easier sadi than done. Just needed to get this out i guess. x

Replies Anonymous Posted at 9:46 am on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from J BIGGZ at 8:30 am on Nov. 17, 2008 No one can help you? There is someone who can certainly help you. You should of reported this creep to the police, when it first started happening. I know that you were only 8 years old, but i think an 8 year old can tell wrong from right. I know this experience, has emotionally scared you, possible for the rest of your life. But know that you're older you can fight back, speak up. When your teachers saw that you had bruises, they probably thought that you got those from playing. Unfortunately, child abuse is a big problem in this country. A lot of kids go thought this, but even worse. Some kids even go through sexual abuse. Speak up, don't be scared to let people know. Remember that the longer that you have this inside of you, the bigger effect that it's gonna have on you. I think that you should report this guy immediately, even if it's been 8 years since it happened. Go to the police station with a friend for support, and explain to them what happened. Also, if you feel like your mom did not protect you, then you can also report her. I don't know what kind of mom would let there child suffer for such a long time, but again, that is up to you. Trust me, once you tell the police, then they will be forced to start an investigation. This country doesn't take child abuse lightly. I know it shouldnt make any difference but i live in england. Just this week 3 children have been killed by their parents, and social services were involved. Child abuse just seems to be swept under the carpet here. J BiGGZ Posted at 8:30 am on Nov. 17, 2008 No one can help you? There is someone who can certainly help you. You should of reported this creep to the police, when it first started happening. I know that you were only 8 years old, but i think an 8 year old can tell wrong from right. I know this experience, has emotionally scared you, possible for the rest of your life. But know that you're older you can fight back, speak up. When your teachers saw that you had bruises, they probably thought that you got those from playing. Unfortunately, child abuse is a big problem in this country. A lot of kids go thought this, but even worse. Some kids even go through sexual abuse. Speak up, don't be scared to let people know. Remember that the longer that you have this inside of you, the bigger effect that it's gonna have on you. I think that you should report this guy immediately, even if it's been 8 years since it happened. Go to the police station with a friend for support, and explain to them what happened. Also, if you feel like your mom did not protect you, then you can also report her. I don't know what kind of mom would let there child suffer for such a long time, but again, that is up to you. Trust me, once you tell the police, then they will be forced to start an investigation. This country doesn't take child abuse lightly. Jay JWLH Posted at 4:28 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 1:15 am on Nov. 16, 2008 Quote: from Jay JWLH at 3:41 am on Nov. 15, 2008 For now I think you should start up some honest conversations with people you trust, discussing this issue. If you do take the recommended route and talk to the police about it, I would hope they will support you through it.    This whole fear of him retaliating because you snitch thing... I can see where you are coming from, and yes, maybe he can get a bit angry over something like this. But either he can continue what he is doing, or he can do worse to you. You are a weak target to him, and he thinks he can just get away with what he is doing to you. Once you start showing signs that you won't accept this treatment, he will either back off, or he will get charged with domestic abuse, or assault if he doesn't change his ways.    Think about it just a bit. But i guess if i was to go to the police all the scars and stuff will be enough evidence to prosicute him. Im not even quite sure my mum is right in the head, so whatever she was to say in court would be pushed aside. How do you go about doin something like this tho, do i just turn up at the police station and tell them? Is it all confidential? Will i be put in some sort of care home? cos i really dont want that to happen Just try and remember that your mom isn't actually guilty. Well... maybe she is, but just for not speaking up. I recommend going to the police station when you are ready, and take along a friend who will support you through the process. For the interest of your safety, I would think the police would do what it takes to safeguard your privacy. But of course they do need to act, so only so much can be kept confidential. The police would have handled many other cases of domestic abuse, so you should be in good hands with them. Whatever road this leads you down, I think it is a better one the one you are walking down now. Anonymous Posted at 4:15 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Jay JWLH at 3:41 am on Nov. 15, 2008 For now I think you should start up some honest conversations with people you trust, discussing this issue. If you do take the recommended route and talk to the police about it, I would hope they will support you through it. This whole fear of him retaliating because you snitch thing... I can see where you are coming from, and yes, maybe he can get a bit angry over something like this. But either he can continue what he is doing, or he can do worse to you. You are a weak target to him, and he thinks he can just get away with what he is doing to you. Once you start showing signs that you won't accept this treatment, he will either back off, or he will get charged with domestic abuse, or assault if he doesn't change his ways. Think about it just a bit. But i guess if i was to go to the police all the scars and stuff will be enough evidence to prosicute him. Im not even quite sure my mum is right in the head, so whatever she was to say in court would be pushed aside. How do you go about doin something like this tho, do i just turn up at the police station and tell them? Is it all confidential? Will i be put in some sort of care home? cos i really dont want that to happen Jay JWLH Posted at 3:45 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:37 am on Nov. 16, 2008 Quote: from Jay JWLH at 3:31 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:26 am on Nov. 16, 2008 What if they dont believe me or nothing gets done, he will kill me if he ever found out i tried to get him done. Plus i know that if it ever went to court my mother would stick up for him. Have you even talked to your mom about it yet? She might actually agree with you. A friend of mine has dealt with this. She has told people, and she has gone to the police before. Admitidly, not a whole lot has been done. But if it happens again, she swears she will leave. She is really strong about this whole issue, and so should you.   My mum knows, she has been in the room when it has happend. she says i deserve it, but i dont know what i have done wrong to deserve it. The only time i leave the house is to go to college. When i am at home i try and stay im my room to keep out his way, so it's not like im some tearaway teen. I think i gave up trying to get my mum to care a long time ago. Your mom might have said that because she is afraid of the consequences of not agreeing with your step dad. In private, when she feels she can get away with it, she might actually tell you that she hates the abuse too. I hate to bring it up, but if a man can be abusive to his own step daughter, then I stand to worry about your mom as well. If she gets the same treatment as you, she also will not speak up. This abuse has been a major contribution to the bad relationship you have with your mother. Jay JWLH Posted at 3:41 am on Nov. 15, 2008 For now I think you should start up some honest conversations with people you trust, discussing this issue. If you do take the recommended route and talk to the police about it, I would hope they will support you through it. This whole fear of him retaliating because you snitch thing... I can see where you are coming from, and yes, maybe he can get a bit angry over something like this. But either he can continue what he is doing, or he can do worse to you. You are a weak target to him, and he thinks he can just get away with what he is doing to you. Once you start showing signs that you won't accept this treatment, he will either back off, or he will get charged with domestic abuse, or assault if he doesn't change his ways. Think about it just a bit. Thanantos Posted at 3:40 am on Nov. 15, 2008 you know what i had the same problem and it sucked my dad would hit me and it really suckes Anonymous Posted at 3:37 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Jay JWLH at 3:31 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:26 am on Nov. 16, 2008 Quote: from maxxie at 3:22 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 1:20 pm on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from bigdutchman at 3:16 am on Nov. 15, 2008 you're 16 and your step dad can still kick your ass?    fight back dude.       I tried to fight back once, just got shoved into the radiator and 2 of my ribs got broken, so i have learnt that it is easier to take the beatings than to fight back. Plus it's a bit hard for a 16 year old girl to protect herself from a 6ft monster Why don't you call the cops, what's stopping you?    What if they dont believe me or nothing gets done, he will kill me if he ever found out i tried to get him done. Plus i know that if it ever went to court my mother would stick up for him. Have you even talked to your mom about it yet? She might actually agree with you. A friend of mine has dealt with this. She has told people, and she has gone to the police before. Admitidly, not a whole lot has been done. But if it happens again, she swears she will leave. She is really strong about this whole issue, and so should you. My mum knows, she has been in the room when it has happend. she says i deserve it, but i dont know what i have done wrong to deserve it. The only time i leave the house is to go to college. When i am at home i try and stay im my room to keep out his way, so it's not like im some tearaway teen. I think i gave up trying to get my mum to care a long time ago. Maxxie Posted at 3:35 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 1:26 pm on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from maxxie at 3:22 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 1:20 pm on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from bigdutchman at 3:16 am on Nov. 15, 2008 you're 16 and your step dad can still kick your ass?        fight back dude.     I tried to fight back once, just got shoved into the radiator and 2 of my ribs got broken, so i have learnt that it is easier to take the beatings than to fight back. Plus it's a bit hard for a 16 year old girl to protect herself from a 6ft monster Why don't you call the cops, what's stopping you? What if they dont believe me or nothing gets done, he will kill me if he ever found out i tried to get him done. Plus i know that if it ever went to court my mother would stick up for him. The police will be forced to carry an investiagion about it, tell them what your step father has been doing through out the years. And that you are scared for your life and that this can't be going on. They will do their job and bring him behind bars, the worst thing you could do is let him be doing what he's been doing so far. And it obviously is too dangerous to just turn a blind eye on, you got to do something! Jay JWLH Posted at 3:31 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:26 am on Nov. 16, 2008 Quote: from maxxie at 3:22 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 1:20 pm on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from bigdutchman at 3:16 am on Nov. 15, 2008 you're 16 and your step dad can still kick your ass?       fight back dude.   I tried to fight back once, just got shoved into the radiator and 2 of my ribs got broken, so i have learnt that it is easier to take the beatings than to fight back. Plus it's a bit hard for a 16 year old girl to protect herself from a 6ft monster Why don't you call the cops, what's stopping you? What if they dont believe me or nothing gets done, he will kill me if he ever found out i tried to get him done. Plus i know that if it ever went to court my mother would stick up for him. Have you even talked to your mom about it yet? She might actually agree with you. A friend of mine has dealt with this. She has told people, and she has gone to the police before. Admitidly, not a whole lot has been done. But if it happens again, she swears she will leave. She is really strong about this whole issue, and so should you. Anonymous Posted at 3:26 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from maxxie at 3:22 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 1:20 pm on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from bigdutchman at 3:16 am on Nov. 15, 2008 you're 16 and your step dad can still kick your ass?   fight back dude.    I tried to fight back once, just got shoved into the radiator and 2 of my ribs got broken, so i have learnt that it is easier to take the beatings than to fight back. Plus it's a bit hard for a 16 year old girl to protect herself from a 6ft monster Why don't you call the cops, what's stopping you? What if they dont believe me or nothing gets done, he will kill me if he ever found out i tried to get him done. Plus i know that if it ever went to court my mother would stick up for him. Jay JWLH Posted at 3:24 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Woa woa woa! No one can help you? I beg to differ. You should never think that. It might be difficult to do something about it, but it should never be enough to give up. First off, to see those bruises, anyone that saw them would have had to pay enough attention to you to even notice. And even for those who notice, it sounds like none of them were willing to do the right thing and front you up about them. For a lot of people out there, bringing up topics like that can be really difficult. You should definately speak out. I mean... since when did you ever deserve this? If he hits you, then he could start hitting someone else. Or maybe he already is. You could be speaking for more than just yourself. How has life been for you now? Note: This is called domestic abuse. Maxxie Posted at 3:22 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 1:20 pm on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from bigdutchman at 3:16 am on Nov. 15, 2008 you're 16 and your step dad can still kick your ass?    fight back dude. I tried to fight back once, just got shoved into the radiator and 2 of my ribs got broken, so i have learnt that it is easier to take the beatings than to fight back. Plus it's a bit hard for a 16 year old girl to protect herself from a 6ft monster Why don't you call the cops, what's stopping you? Anonymous Posted at 3:21 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from bigdutchman at 3:16 am on Nov. 15, 2008 you're 16 and your step dad can still kick your ass? fight back dude. I tried to fight back once, just got shoved into the radiator and 2 of my ribs got broken, so i have learnt that it is easier to take the beatings than to fight back. Plus it's a bit hard for a 16 year old girl to protect herself from a 6ft monster Anonymous Posted at 3:20 am on Nov. 15, 2008 Quote: from bigdutchman at 3:16 am on Nov. 15, 2008 you're 16 and your step dad can still kick your ass? fight back dude. I tried to fight back once, just got shoved into the radiator and 2 of my ribs got broken, so i have learnt that it is easier to take the beatings than to fight back. 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