Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Omg I can't believe what i just heard. Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from Anonymous at 3:44 am on Nov. 28, 2008[quote]Quote: from [m]partygirl[/m] at 5:42 am on Nov. 28, 2008[quote]Be strong, I had that last year with my family, pm me if you want to talk more[/quote] Its so hard to be strong about it. I've been depressed way before these things happens.. its just to hard to even think about it.. suicidal thoughts.. I've thought about it, but I'm not. Realizing the kind of pain my father is in, it will hurt him and others if they lose a close one.. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 3:40 am on Nov. 28, 2008 Before I begin, me and my dad has had our differences okay? I'm only 14 at the moment. We have our ups and downs. Yesterday was thanksgiving right? Well we all expected a good holiday, until my mom.. shes not doing to well. A few months ago, she had a tumor and a sisk, or sist or however you spell it. (Please correct). She had surgery and had it all removed. Now she's noticed a bump near her upper waist. She went to check it out, and it was that sist thingy.(Again, as mentioned above). She was supposed to have a minor surgery to get rid of it. Then next month for a major one. Anyways, yesterday(thanksgiving) at around 11am or so, something happened and my dad came in my bros room and said I'm taking mom to the hospital, he wasn't paying much attention and fell asleep. I woke up an hour later, and walked into the living room. My brother told me we aren't gonna do anything cause mom is at the hospital. So I asked questions and etc. Mind you, he is only 10. So right now, my mom is at the hospital for overnight stay.. No doctor there due to holiday.. so she has to stay there. I'm going to go there today to see if she needs surgery or not.   So my dad comes hope.. he cooks up a thanksgiving dinner.. So its just me,him and my 10yr bro. It was pretty crappy. But I don't blame anyone.. just some 5 mins ago, at 5:30am as of today.. like 10 mins ago.. I heard a like.. moan kinda cry. And next to my room is my parents bedroom. I realized what that noise was.. and it was my dad crying. I've never heard him like that before.. and it just breaks my heart completely and I just don't know what to do..   I hear him go to his bathroom and clean up though.. It was breaks my heart completely..    EDIT: I really think he had a nightmare.. a really bad one.. Please excuse typos..

Replies Anonymous Posted at 3:49 am on Nov. 28, 2008 Quote: from Ancient Rights at 5:46 am on Nov. 28, 2008 That reaction from him means that he really cares for your mom. Any time a person has to go to the hospital the situation is serious. If it is a recurrent situation, that just makes it that much harder for the people it affects. If the only time he is crying is when he is alone, it probably means that he is trying to save face around you and your brother and keep you from worrying, but I'm sure it would make him feel better for you to go and talk to him.   I wish your mom the best of luck with this and I hopes the situation can be resolved without any complications and as fast as possible. And it is spelled "cyst". Thank you. I understand about that part about going and talking to him and all.. but as I said as much as I would love to, we have our past differences. That doesn't mean we completely hate, or dislike each other. What i'm trying to say is, its going to be awkward.. partygirl Posted at 3:49 am on Nov. 28, 2008 it will hurt you too so try and talk to your father about it, and your mum she will probably be able to offer more support than you might expect, she will want those she loves to be ok if she dies so will want to help you to prepare for that possibility. There maybe more of a chance that she will be fine than you have realised, find out whats happening and play an active role in hoping for the best or preparing for the worst rather than sitting alone worrying.  Not only will you add to your depression but also to your father's worries about his wife and his children, show him you love him and though you still need him show him that you are there for him too. princess timz Posted at 3:47 am on Nov. 28, 2008 He was probably thinking the worst could happen and how could he look after you both. You have to be strong for everyone in your family. *hug* Anonymous Posted at 3:46 am on Nov. 28, 2008 Quote: from Ollie92 at 5:44 am on Nov. 28, 2008 as much as this is a trying time for you b/c your mother is sick, you're fathers' wife is sick, the woman who he promised till death do they part. You need to comfort each other, don't go in there and confront him like "dad you're crying!", but offer words of encouragement that he needs to hear , it'll make you both feel better and less awkward     all the best I understand where your coming from.. im not just gonna go in there and say that.. but he's not in there anymore.. I tihnk he probably went outside.. Ancient Rights Posted at 3:46 am on Nov. 28, 2008 That reaction from him means that he really cares for your mom. Any time a person has to go to the hospital the situation is serious. If it is a recurrent situation, that just makes it that much harder for the people it affects. If the only time he is crying is when he is alone, it probably means that he is trying to save face around you and your brother and keep you from worrying, but I'm sure it would make him feel better for you to go and talk to him. I wish your mom the best of luck with this and I hopes the situation can be resolved without any complications and as fast as possible. And it is spelled "cyst". aleiram51 Posted at 3:44 am on Nov. 28, 2008 oh and i'm really sorry and i hope everything turns out okay Ollie92 Posted at 3:44 am on Nov. 28, 2008 as much as this is a trying time for you b/c your mother is sick, you're fathers' wife is sick, the woman who he promised till death do they part. You need to comfort each other, don't go in there and confront him like "dad you're crying!", but offer words of encouragement that he needs to hear , it'll make you both feel better and less awkward all the best Anonymous Posted at 3:44 am on Nov. 28, 2008 Quote: from partygirl at 5:42 am on Nov. 28, 2008 Be strong, I had that last year with my family, pm me if you want to talk more Its so hard to be strong about it. I've been depressed way before these things happens.. its just to hard to even think about it.. suicidal thoughts.. I've thought about it, but I'm not. Realizing the kind of pain my father is in, it will hurt him and others if they lose a close one.. partygirl Posted at 3:42 am on Nov. 28, 2008 Be strong, I had that last year with my family, pm me if you want to talk more aleiram51 Posted at 3:41 am on Nov. 28, 2008 it's spelled cyst btw All 10 previous replies displayed.