Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Cancer Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]SimShrimp[/m] at 5:50 pm on July 9, 2009[quote]So, last year, my dad was diagnosed with stage 2 colon cancer.  I was seriously depressed and was having a lot of emotional problems.  He went through all the treatments and surgeries, and was finally done a few months ago, but then he found out that it came back as a stage 4 in his liver.  For some reason, I'm not terribly upset.  Maybe it's because I dealt with the burden already, and I'm all burden-ed out, or maybe I've just learned to deal with my emotions better, but everyone expects me to be a wreck because he could easily die, and I'm just not. Is something wrong with me?[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post SimShrimp Posted at 5:50 pm on July 9, 2009 So, last year, my dad was diagnosed with stage 2 colon cancer.  I was seriously depressed and was having a lot of emotional problems.  He went through all the treatments and surgeries, and was finally done a few months ago, but then he found out that it came back as a stage 4 in his liver.  For some reason, I'm not terribly upset.  Maybe it's because I dealt with the burden already, and I'm all burden-ed out, or maybe I've just learned to deal with my emotions better, but everyone expects me to be a wreck because he could easily die, and I'm just not. Is something wrong with me?

Replies Forever Angel Posted at 6:02 pm on July 9, 2009 Quote: from MushroomSatsujin at 7:59 pm on July 9, 2009 Quote: from Forever Angel at 5:59 pm on July 9, 2009 Quote: from MushroomSatsujin at 7:55 pm on July 9, 2009 Quote: from melodramatic at 5:54 pm on July 9, 2009     Get the fuck out. You have no idea whether or not their father is going to die, and telling someone that is cruel. Once you have something bad happen to you (if you haven't already, I don't know of your history..) maybe you will learn some compassion. Idiot. You truly live up to your name. Kudos Your original comment was unnecessary and uncalled for. And in a topic like this, detestable. Im tired of being serious. Take your comments to the humor forum then. This is not the place for bullshit like that. MushroomSatsujin Posted at 5:59 pm on July 9, 2009 Quote: from Forever Angel at 5:59 pm on July 9, 2009 Quote: from MushroomSatsujin at 7:55 pm on July 9, 2009 Quote: from melodramatic at 5:54 pm on July 9, 2009   Get the fuck out. You have no idea whether or not their father is going to die, and telling someone that is cruel. Once you have something bad happen to you (if you haven't already, I don't know of your history..) maybe you will learn some compassion. Idiot. You truly live up to your name. Kudos Your original comment was unnecessary and uncalled for. And in a topic like this, detestable. Im tired of being serious. Forever Angel Posted at 5:59 pm on July 9, 2009 Quote: from MushroomSatsujin at 7:55 pm on July 9, 2009 Quote: from melodramatic at 5:54 pm on July 9, 2009  Get the fuck out. You have no idea whether or not their father is going to die, and telling someone that is cruel. Once you have something bad happen to you (if you haven't already, I don't know of your history..) maybe you will learn some compassion. Idiot. You truly live up to your name. Kudos Your original comment was unnecessary and uncalled for. And in a topic like this, detestable. melodramatic Posted at 5:59 pm on July 9, 2009 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations MushroomSatsujin Posted at 5:57 pm on July 9, 2009 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations ZenaGirl Posted at 5:57 pm on July 9, 2009 Reconciliation- you have come to terms with the inevitable which is actually a relief to the mind.   All terminal cancer victims go through this- knowing that they put up a good fight- they did all they could do- and they have nothing to regret. melodramatic Posted at 5:57 pm on July 9, 2009 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations SimShrimp Posted at 5:57 pm on July 9, 2009 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations MushroomSatsujin Posted at 5:55 pm on July 9, 2009 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations Catzcore Posted at 5:55 pm on July 9, 2009 no you're not, its normal, people learn to accept things as the come round for the second time alot more quickly kkurtz Posted at 5:55 pm on July 9, 2009 nothing is wrong with you just you need to be thankful for what you have.  Be sure to let your father know that you love him.  He will understand everything.  He may also feel bad for making you feel so depressed.  you have sorrow for your father but u cannot seek it if you have others persueding you to do so.  The feelings need to come by themselves. devilmaycrydude Posted at 5:54 pm on July 9, 2009 nothing is wrong with you you just already dealt with this. you shouldn't feel bad, because you already felt bad about this and knew what may happen, you became immune to the pain and sort of numbed it. melodramatic Posted at 5:54 pm on July 9, 2009 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations melodramatic Posted at 5:53 pm on July 9, 2009 You're not weird. Sometimes, Our hearts are miraculously capacious. I feel kind of heartless too sometimes, My mother died of the same thing your Dad has right now, I was very upset about it when she had it, but now that she is gone I feel a sense of relief almost, and peace. It feels very odd to admit, but I do. I mostly feel kind of empty and numb though, I wish I could feel a damn thing. Forever Angel Posted at 5:53 pm on July 9, 2009 I think that would be called "stress burn-out". I've been through it too. Most recent 15 of 19 previous replies displayed.