Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic boost your self-esteem Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]dunebug[/m] at 4:15 pm on Jan. 4, 2007[quote]I used to have the same self-esteem problems. You have to build it from the inside. Right now you've conditioned yourself in to thinking a certain way about yourself. You just notice what's wrong with you, what you dislike, why you're not good enough. That's a way of thinking. It can be changed. Focus on ONE thing you like about yourself physically. Maybe you have nice eyes or a nice nose or you like your hair. Focus on it and compliment it. Whenever your mind goes off on "I'd be so much better if I was skinnier..." "I'm so fat..." STOP. Think about that one feature. Move on to other features. Even if it's a total out and out lie and you think you're still the ugliest person EVER, lie to yourself and say it anyway. As much as possible. You will start believing it. Push yourself outside your comfort zone a bit. I felt a lot better when I bought myself nicer clothes. I use to cover up in a lot of baggy stuff. I didn't find tighter stuff comfortable at first but I learned to like how I looked and put up with it. And I felt a lot better about myself. I spent a little more time on my appearance. Making sure my teeth were just a bit whiter, my hair was always washed and conditioned, etc. Little things. It all adds up. Learn to talk to people too. Don't shy away. I pushed myself to talk to anyone and now I'm a lot more comfortable in social situations. It may start with just being able to ask a stranger for the time. It works up. Practice convos with people in your head. Have "fall back" lines so you don't get the awkward silences. Good luck. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post jess09 Posted at 6:12 pm on Dec. 17, 2006 Do you guys have any way to boost my self-esteem. I have a lot of problem with it. I feel like I'm not good enough, I'm too fat and well I feel bad about myself. I just don't know how to resolve that.

Replies MsCaesi Posted at 9:54 pm on Jan. 9, 2007 Put on something pretty, do your hair and throw on some lipgloss. I'm sure you will begin to feel a little better. And then take a look at all the people that are worse off than you and see how lucky you are. If you are truly unhappy about yourself then decide what it is you dont like about yourself and try and change it. Truth be told, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, Im sure you are beautiful in your own way. dunebug Posted at 4:15 pm on Jan. 4, 2007 I used to have the same self-esteem problems. You have to build it from the inside. Right now you've conditioned yourself in to thinking a certain way about yourself. You just notice what's wrong with you, what you dislike, why you're not good enough. That's a way of thinking. It can be changed. Focus on ONE thing you like about yourself physically. Maybe you have nice eyes or a nice nose or you like your hair. Focus on it and compliment it. Whenever your mind goes off on "I'd be so much better if I was skinnier..." "I'm so fat..." STOP. Think about that one feature. Move on to other features. Even if it's a total out and out lie and you think you're still the ugliest person EVER, lie to yourself and say it anyway. As much as possible. You will start believing it. Push yourself outside your comfort zone a bit. I felt a lot better when I bought myself nicer clothes. I use to cover up in a lot of baggy stuff. I didn't find tighter stuff comfortable at first but I learned to like how I looked and put up with it. And I felt a lot better about myself. I spent a little more time on my appearance. Making sure my teeth were just a bit whiter, my hair was always washed and conditioned, etc. Little things. It all adds up. Learn to talk to people too. Don't shy away. I pushed myself to talk to anyone and now I'm a lot more comfortable in social situations. It may start with just being able to ask a stranger for the time. It works up. Practice convos with people in your head. Have "fall back" lines so you don't get the awkward silences. Good luck. mattseanbachman Posted at 1:15 pm on Jan. 3, 2007 Keep a journal if you're anxious about things, it helps. Review what YOU think people think of you...if you have low self-worth, it's probably erronious. PM me if you want more help, I have lots of exp. with this. HeartMittens38 Posted at 4:36 am on Jan. 1, 2007 I had a sever self esteem problem as well.  It takes practice, but here are a few ways I got out:  support from friends and family (talking it out).   Reading up on a hobby/being knowledgable on something...really helps because you will notice that people listen to you and you become more interesting Observe what people you are attracted to do and imatate it.  The only way out of a vicious cylce is to change your perspective and if that means now being the funny person or the smart person, do it.   Be more outgoing (i dont know if you are or not) but it helps when more people know you and you talk more Mambo di Bango Posted at 3:05 pm on Dec. 26, 2006 whenever i have low self-esteem cropping up, I go and have a hair cut, buy a few nice clothes and change my image a bit, and when people compliment me or look at me differently, i feel good. also, if you feel bad and you're not doing anything about it, its because there's a reason.  You're probably have a comfort zone that you refuse or fail to get out of, or you're too afraid of failing in your efforts to make things better. But every good thing in life requires effort and things can't be fixed quickly in an ingenius way.  You need to 'work' solidly on your self-esteem. For example, do things such as volunteering at a place, getting a job, going to the gym or going for walks.  Cutting out junk food and sugary stuff from your diet. For example, I love most things about my body (its not always been the case), but the only thing I'm not happy with are my stomach and my love-handles.  So, this summer, I'm going to do pilates, go to the gym and be careful with my eating, because everytime i eat junk, it goes straight to my middle area. lilac Posted at 7:27 am on Dec. 24, 2006 Me 2, I feel bad about myself cause my breasts are small....There not average size like my younger sisters....... MakeUpMySmile Posted at 8:42 am on Dec. 18, 2006 What helps me out a lot is going to the gym in the morning. I didn't go today :-( but whenever I start working out a few weeks later I feel GREAT about myself and my self-esteem goes up. Then I start shopping and getting cute outfits, doing my hair, my nails, and my make-up...so try that TigerV05 Posted at 6:43 pm on Dec. 17, 2006 Get a self-esteem workbook and do the activities. saw one at hasting's. xrockMYworldx789 Posted at 6:21 pm on Dec. 17, 2006 Quote: from misspessimisitic at 9:13 am on Dec. 18, 2006 I have no clue. I have the same problem. same. ='[ evey123 Posted at 6:19 pm on Dec. 17, 2006 Quote: from emmy350 at 9:17 pm on Dec. 17, 2006 Hmm, I wish I knew, if so, I would have done it already! ditto emmy350 Posted at 6:17 pm on Dec. 17, 2006 Hmm, I wish I knew, if so, I would have done it already! evey123 Posted at 6:16 pm on Dec. 17, 2006 Quote: from Rhapsody at 9:14 pm on Dec. 17, 2006 Too fat?? Are you genuinely overweight or just think you are overweight??. lol why'd you edit? The Dark Prince Posted at 6:14 pm on Dec. 17, 2006 Too fat?? Are you genuinely overweight or just think you are overweight??. AlucardHellsing Posted at 6:14 pm on Dec. 17, 2006 Well watch tv, write, listen to music, or do something nice for other people. PetitOiseau Posted at 6:13 pm on Dec. 17, 2006 Lose weight? Most recent 15 of 16 previous replies displayed.