Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Any advice? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Enigma of Eternity[/m] at 8:11 am on Jan. 2, 2007[quote]he sounds like a good guy who made an honest mistake. if you love him, stay with him. as far as the pregnancy issue: well, even if the girl does keep it: yes he will mostlikely have to pay child support but its not like he has to date/marry her. think of this as strengthening your relationship.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 8:05 am on Jan. 2, 2007 On Saturday my bf of 2 years told me that he had a problem and he didn't want to tell me because he didn't want to hurt me, well i finally got him to tell me and it turns out that he was with this girl about a month ago and now she's pregnant.   He says she doesn't know if she's going to keep it, but he doesn't want it and she knows that so she's thinking about what to do....he told me he wants to be with me and that he only loves me but he made a mistake...He's txt me soo many times and when i called him he couldn't even talk he was just crying.....soo i don't know what to do. I love him so much and it's hard to let him go. So any advice would help right now...

Replies MsCaesi Posted at 8:59 pm on Jan. 9, 2007 I've been in this same situation before and I know how much it hurts. Based on my past experiences my best advice for you is to get out of the relationship now. It is going to hurt really bad to leave him but I can guarantee in the long run you will feel so much better about it. When my ex cheated on me I took him back numerous times and each time he cheated again and again and everytime my heart broke a little more. Then when one of his girl toys was pregnant, I couldnt take it anymore. I knew he would never change. He will say everything to make you smile, to make you want to take him back and  you will want to..you really will because you love him. But ask yourself..if he truly loved me would he have cheated in the first place? I know my ex wasn't concerned about the future of our relationship while he was laying in his ex's bed..Was your boyfriend? Since then I've moved on to better things and realized that he was nothing but a hurdle in life..i hope you will be able to do the same.   dunebug Posted at 10:57 am on Jan. 2, 2007 Hmm, well general experience has taught us once a cheater, always a cheater. I'm sure it's totally not his intention to do it again. I'm sure he genuinely feels bad about it. BUT, a situation will arise again eventually where he has an oppertunity to have sex with another woman again. And if you take him back after he does it, then there's really little consequence to him doing it. I think if you decide to stay with him, you two would do well with some sort of couples counsilling. There was obviously a reason he cheated, something in the relationship jsut wasn't there, you need to look at and fix that. Maybe it's just a matter of spicing things up sexually or maybe it's deeper than that. But acting like it was just some freak thing he did, it was all him, or blaming her 100% is just going to set him up to do it again because the real base problem is still there. That aside -- if this woman decides to keep the baby they have, it will change things for you guys as well. Are you prepared to share him with a child? And another woman (to an extent)? He will have to pay money to her, and maybe decide he wants to be involved in his child's life. Which means also being tied to this other woman, having to see her and communicate with her and be civil with her. Maybe bringing the child in to your life. They become a package. Stuff to think about. Anonymous Posted at 8:23 am on Jan. 2, 2007 Yeah, he said it was a one time thing and that if she does have it he'll make sure he gives it everything it needs. Enigma of Eternity Posted at 8:11 am on Jan. 2, 2007 he sounds like a good guy who made an honest mistake. if you love him, stay with him. as far as the pregnancy issue: well, even if the girl does keep it: yes he will mostlikely have to pay child support but its not like he has to date/marry her. think of this as strengthening your relationship. Teenage Drama Queen Posted at 8:09 am on Jan. 2, 2007 If it was a one time thing then you might have to deal with it as you would a one time thing. Ask him why he did it and try and find out for definite what she is going to be doing with the baby. Also you might want to think about if he would have told you if she wasn't pregnant. I think her becoming pregnant will have been a big wake up call for him about cheating as well so unless there is something wrong with him, I doubt he would do it again. hiphopatihop Posted at 8:09 am on Jan. 2, 2007 well if you really love him and you trust him that he's telling the truth about being sorry, then you could stay with him but it might take a lot of work to get over what happened.  so i guess you'd have to just wait and see how it works out. because everyone makes mistakes, although this one would be very difficult to forgive and forget. hope this helped a little, good luck! Bestm8ts Posted at 8:09 am on Jan. 2, 2007 firstly sorry to hear you are all in this situation.. first things first.. there is a baby.. i for one disagree with abortion so if i was in your position i wouldnt pressure him to choose (not saying you would..) and also even thou i guess he has been an idiot i would still support him.. he said he loves you and he is obviously sorry... how do you feel about the situation, do you love him enough to work through this?? 2 years is a long commitment.. basketballplayer06 Posted at 8:08 am on Jan. 2, 2007 well if u trust him then u should be with him.  u can't change the past but the future u can All 8 previous replies displayed.