Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I dunno what's wrong.. Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]X ffion x[/m] at 2:26 pm on April 12, 2008[quote]I'm going to try and help you..:P I'm not sure how much my advice will help. :) But I know for a fact that getting vunerable with a person can be hard. :) But, try to trust yourself, that they'll like who you are. Sometimes a risk can work. :)[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post FramingAPear Posted at 2:22 pm on April 12, 2008 I'm really afraid of letting people (especially girls) get to know me, let alone become close. I guess I'm just worried that no girl would really be interested in me if they really got to know what I'm like. And like, this is becoming a major problem for me cause I'm meeting all these beautiful girls but I basically just shun them when they show any interest. It's not even intentional, I can't help being cold and aloof. It's funny, cause It's not like I'm not confident or happy, I think those traits of mine show through in my personality, and that's what attracts these girls to me. But then, at that same time, I'm shy and pretty reserved. I kind of feel like even if the girls were genuinely interested I would just push them away. It makes me want to pull my hair out sometimes. It's like I constantly screw myself over. I guess I just have a lot of anxiety when it comes to relationships cause of my past. To be honest, I'm not very good in the sack, and I feel like couple of girlfriends I had left me for this reason. It's like, absolutely devastating. Life goes on, but I'm beginning to feel like I can't hold a relationship if I can't figure out how to last longer. Fuck. Not going to overburden the reader with whatever else. I just had to get some of that shit off my chest cause it's been stressing me out to no end lately.

Replies blahbitch78656 Posted at 12:09 pm on April 24, 2008 .... okay... anabolicbrotha Posted at 6:59 pm on April 18, 2008 I am shy as shit dude...But sometimes the right girl comes along every now and then and you will be comfy around her. You'll know it. FramingAPear Posted at 3:09 pm on April 12, 2008 Thanks of the input and advice. I'm not depressed...just kind of frustrated by certain aspects of my over all good life. blueroadrunner Posted at 2:59 pm on April 12, 2008 every one goes through depression.....get through it ...don't stay in that pool of misery.......endure it ...and watch....later in life you'll ask your self ....what was i thinking?......."remember..."NEVER GIVE UP!".........life has it's ups & downs.........gotta keep moving.........find something to do....get a job.....go meet new people at the park.....keep your self busy.....just don't sit around doing nothing but letting this thing fester.....come on dude........you can do it.........life's what you make of it.....you're young.....now git up and get out there! Just Waiting Here Posted at 2:28 pm on April 12, 2008 Hmm... well, do you masturbate?  You can practice lasting longer if you do it this way... or before getting in to bed, you could masturbate earlier in teh day so you aren't so quick to release?  Or otherwise, there are climax control condoms that might help you out? But... either way, this being said.  I think that some day, you'll meet a girl... and you might feel a bit different, or more comfortable around her.  It may not be that you shun them away, but maybe you aren't as interested as you think you should be, you know?  Looks aren't everything, and even if you think she's beautful, you might not feel like a relationship with her is right... So I dunno, it's a thought, but maybe one day that right girl will enter your life, and you'll find that your less shy than you usually are, or at least willing to open up slowly? But that being said, it's hard to open up to anyone in general.  If you know you do this, it's the first step in fixing it.  So from here, maybe you can try being a bit more outgoing in terms of this... try talking more, and maybe you'll find that the more you push yourself (As long as your comfortable) to be more open, the easier it'll get :). Austin90 Posted at 2:27 pm on April 12, 2008 Well about the confidence thing.. just quit being a pussy- yup that is the only way because i had to suck it up and be a man.. the lame in the sack part...well only advice i can think of is dont think about it when ur doin it. X ffion x Posted at 2:26 pm on April 12, 2008 I'm going to try and help you..:P I'm not sure how much my advice will help. :) But I know for a fact that getting vunerable with a person can be hard. :) But, try to trust yourself, that they'll like who you are. Sometimes a risk can work. :) All 7 previous replies displayed.