Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic We Rise To Fall Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]loner asian[/m] at 9:48 pm on July 20, 2008[quote]he'll leave you sooner.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post swtpie Posted at 9:45 pm on July 20, 2008 Early today you might remember that I was excited as hell cause my boyfriend was coming home. He had spent the weekend at his parents. Well, every time he comes back, we fight. They have this gift of influencing. So, right now I'm unemployed. I'm looking for work so we can get a bigger apartment, a new car and so I can get my career started. (I want to remodel homes) I've been looking into Universities for courses to take. I'm waiting for now, cause I might have a scholarship if I do another 2 courses at my old high school. My boyfriend works full time, and spends spends spends. He doesn't want to go to college or university cause apparently he'll be in debt for to long, and apparently he'll have to quit his job. (Such b/s) Apparently, it's not worth it. He was offered a job by a friend of ours who had gone far in the last 2 years. I was trying to convince him we should go. (We'd have to move 3 provinces away from where we are now) He finally spoke up and said that he'd rather not. So, I dropped it. So, he went to his parents and they went on and on about me. About how I'm not looking for a job and I'm going to get no where in life. They told my boyfriend that he should just pack up and move away and live with his aunt for free. "A great opportunity" apparently. OR he should give me a month to get a job, or send me packing. Nice, right. So he comes home and we start right off the bat. He said so many times, "What would you do if we broke up." Shocked the hell out of me. We were kissy kissy a lot lately. Hell, we've been trying for a baby. But this has been a serious wake up call. Not only is he not going or thinking about going anywhere in life, he is constantly influenced by his mom over me. He doesn't truly care about me. He is slow, and says the most stupid things ever. We've been together for 6 years. I would find it so weird without him. And hard. If i were to get a job, I would struggle....even with just a bachelor apartment. But, maybe I should end it. I love him, but I fucking sick of his family budding in. Every time a women marries into the family, they all get together and criticize her. I'm sick of this shit. I personally think I need to move on without him. I can't take being happy one minute and the next being bitched at over something his fucking mother said. I find it so fucking funny how she goes on and on about me and working, when she sits on her ass all day at home, and they struggle SO bad with their bills. I would love to tell them to fuck off....

Replies boombabyy Posted at 9:56 pm on July 20, 2008 Leave his dumb ass he cant decide himself Evolutionism Posted at 9:55 pm on July 20, 2008 Unfortunately, when two people get married, they also become a part of the other person's family. If you can get a long with your partner's family, odds are you are going to run into A LOT of problems. It wouldn't be healthy for either of you. :/ eyewonder Posted at 9:55 pm on July 20, 2008 Honestly, I think you need to move on. You're getting the shitty end of the stick here, and you sound like you don't deserve what he's doing. Have you ever considered giving him an ultimatum? By saying something like "either you stick by me, and discourage and ignore your mother, or you can go on without me." Then just leave it at that.. put the ball in his court, see what he does. swtpie Posted at 9:50 pm on July 20, 2008 Quote: from loner asian at 9:48 pm on July 20, 2008 he'll leave you sooner. Highly doubt that. He can't ever make up his mind. He just sits there pretending to think. swtpie Posted at 9:50 pm on July 20, 2008 Quote: from RockerTori106 at 9:47 pm on July 20, 2008 You should tell her off. If your guy can't come to realization that you're right (which in this case, you are), is it worth it? I mean, that's what my stepdad does. He bitches at me about not working enough when I work two jobs, have little to no time for friends, family, or even myself to get enough sleep, and he sits on his fat ass all day, drinking whole milk or beer watching TV. I've spoken to my boyfriend so many times about this. It normally takes 4 hours of fighting for him to see. But...the second he talks to his mom...we're back to square 1. loner asian Posted at 9:48 pm on July 20, 2008 he'll leave you sooner. RockerTori106 Posted at 9:47 pm on July 20, 2008 You should tell her off. If your guy can't come to realization that you're right (which in this case, you are), is it worth it? I mean, that's what my stepdad does. He bitches at me about not working enough when I work two jobs, have little to no time for friends, family, or even myself to get enough sleep, and he sits on his fat ass all day, drinking whole milk or beer watching TV. All 7 previous replies displayed.