Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Don't know what to do. Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]fullmooncurse[/m] at 8:12 pm on Aug. 29, 2008[quote]Tell her to get off her lazy ass or get the fuck out. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 8:07 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 Ok I live with my girl right now. I love her to death but she does nothing productive. She lost her job so now I am the only one working. She won't clean. All she does all day is sleep and play on the pc. It really hurts my feelings that she does not feel like she should put anything towards what we have. I feel like that since she is not working and i am bringing in 100% of the income that she should keep the house clean. I don't even ask her to cook. I have approached her about this before and told her how I felt and all she said was that it should be both peoples responsibilities to keep the house clean. But even if I try to help she does not really even do anything. Help me please try to think of something. I don't really want to leave he because I really love her. God I am so conflicted.

Replies erolimo Posted at 3:02 pm on Aug. 30, 2008 Talk to her and tell her what you have told us. If she isn't bothered, why should you be bothered to spend rest of your life with a girl who makes you unhappy? Asia Sha Posted at 8:38 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 Sit her down and heart to heart about the way you feel towards the situation... You've the right of telling her what it is you need of her in order to have a life on such a rate. hkittyly Posted at 8:13 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 i know you love her, but her not helping with the work is saying two things: she doesnt value what you two have, and she doesn't care about herself and how she lives. I'm not saying she would have to be anal about cleaning, but she should do some of the work. I dont know you or her, but all I can say is that if I loved someone truly and they loved me I'd be more than willing to do everything 50/50. If she really cared, she'd listen to your pleas. You are not wrong to ask her for help, you need to know that. I know you love her, as you seem like a very good person although I can not tell really. I don't think she would deserve you. But what the hell do I know. I hope things work out for the best. MakingaDifference001 Posted at 8:13 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 I take it that you're not the best at decision making?  Should'be listened to your parents. tsk, tsk. fullmooncurse Posted at 8:12 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 Tell her to get off her lazy ass or get the fuck out. confuzion Posted at 8:11 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 you need to tell her that she can't take advantage of you and that you will leave if she doesn't start helping. That's ridiculous, and you deserve better. Aerie Posted at 8:10 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 Tell her to contribute or GTFO...or threaten to leave. shadowofchar Posted at 8:10 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 Tell her that you should each be doing an equal amount of work, and that since you bring home the money (and cook, I'm assuming), she should clean the house and do the laundry. Tell her that because she isn't putting in as much of an effort as you are, you feel like she's using you/isn't as in love with you as you are with her. Eclipse2005 Posted at 8:09 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 Use your hard earned income and buy a pistol. Then.... Pistol whip that bitch All 9 previous replies displayed.