Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Stupid jealousy Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from Anonymous at 7:13 am on Nov. 5, 2008[quote]I know this is stupid and I need more self confidence, but still. My boyfriend has a class trip (it's an optional trip, but still), and their going to this spa in the middle of nowhere, where cell phones don't work. In the beginning he didn't want to go, and now he's bummed because he may not be able to make it. Still. Well, on one hand, it'd be nice to be apart for a few days. It'd give us both some space, and maybe even miss each other. Not that I don't want to see him, don't miss my point, it's just sometimes I fear that if he spends too much time with me he'll get bored. Plus I'll be able to be make up less, wearing baggy clothes, etc... BUT... well most of hsi classmates are female. And there is one in particular who is one of his closest friends. And once I was talking to him about my body issues, and he admitted she has a better body than mine. Of course this hurt. And I think there's a pool there, so they have to take their swimsuits... and come to think about it, well, a lot of his classmates are way prettier/hotter than me. I know this is very stupid, but stilll it bugs me deep down, to be honest. I won't be hearing about him for the whole weekend he'll be away with them and their perfect bodies... ugh, how can I let go of this? I don't want to talk about this with him or he'll accuse me of nagging (which I know I'm a nag, plus I don't want to be weak and insecure with him). Please try not to call me stupid, as I already know I am. I'm being unreasonable, I know...[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 7:13 am on Nov. 5, 2008 I know this is stupid and I need more self confidence, but still. My boyfriend has a class trip (it's an optional trip, but still), and their going to this spa in the middle of nowhere, where cell phones don't work. In the beginning he didn't want to go, and now he's bummed because he may not be able to make it. Still. Well, on one hand, it'd be nice to be apart for a few days. It'd give us both some space, and maybe even miss each other. Not that I don't want to see him, don't miss my point, it's just sometimes I fear that if he spends too much time with me he'll get bored. Plus I'll be able to be make up less, wearing baggy clothes, etc... BUT... well most of hsi classmates are female. And there is one in particular who is one of his closest friends. And once I was talking to him about my body issues, and he admitted she has a better body than mine. Of course this hurt. And I think there's a pool there, so they have to take their swimsuits... and come to think about it, well, a lot of his classmates are way prettier/hotter than me. I know this is very stupid, but stilll it bugs me deep down, to be honest. I won't be hearing about him for the whole weekend he'll be away with them and their perfect bodies... ugh, how can I let go of this? I don't want to talk about this with him or he'll accuse me of nagging (which I know I'm a nag, plus I don't want to be weak and insecure with him). Please try not to call me stupid, as I already know I am. I'm being unreasonable, I know...

Replies child of rock n roll Posted at 8:09 am on Nov. 6, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 10:59 am on Nov. 5, 2008 I know.... and I know nothing will happen. It'd just suck if he got a boner out of being around her in the pool. Any other unknown chick, fine, but not her... they're friends and all... Id' just hate he had fantasies about having sex with her, and that he wanted her more than me. He already said she has a better body. He's mean to have said that... Anonymous Posted at 7:59 am on Nov. 5, 2008 I know.... and I know nothing will happen. It'd just suck if he got a boner out of being around her in the pool. Any other unknown chick, fine, but not her... they're friends and all... Id' just hate he had fantasies about having sex with her, and that he wanted her more than me. He already said she has a better body. icsgirlforever Posted at 7:53 am on Nov. 5, 2008 man o man i know the feeling. Im working on my own insecurities myself. But think about it.. if you threw a fit and said he couldnt go or whatever... then you would most likely get in an arguement and you both wouldnt be happy. Im sure its fine, ya i understand why you would be worried, but just chillax im sure it will be fine. I am sure if something happened someone else would notice and tell you. Anonymous Posted at 7:45 am on Nov. 5, 2008 yeah, I don't mind him looking and having fantasies about girls he doesn't know... but he knows her and they'll probably be playing in the pool, and you know how playing in the pool goes. Plus looking at her all wet and stuff... It's like, I hate to think that his close friend is more "bangable" than me. Even if that means I'm more loveable, I have awful insecurity issues, and knowing all this doesn't help. Or maybe it does help in a way, that I have to just confront this issues and deal with them. I don't know, it just makes me feel bad and I wish I didn't care but I do... icsgirlforever Posted at 7:42 am on Nov. 5, 2008 You need to have a little faith... and Im sure you occasionally check out other guys, there is no harm in looking! Anonymous Posted at 7:34 am on Nov. 5, 2008 Yeah, I guess you're right... I know I'm being irrational, lol :P I mean... he won't cheat. And sure he must check out some T&A daily when I'm not around... but it's the fact that these are girls he knows, especially his close friend who he thinks has a nicer body than mine... well he knows her... and I can almost picture them playing around in the pool like goofy little kids and him playing X rated movies with her in his head... ugh!!! :@ that mekes me mad, lol... PurpleEnvy Posted at 7:33 am on Nov. 5, 2008 He's with you- not them- for a reason. He's clearly not hung up on body issues, so you shouldn't be either. Trust that he's with you for all the right reasons, and thats what will stand to him when temptation comes a'knockin. icsgirlforever Posted at 7:31 am on Nov. 5, 2008 Haha, I think we have all been there. You just gotta trust that he wont hurt you, and start thinking that you are better than all his classmates. .. after all, he is with you isnt he? Nightshade09 Posted at 7:24 am on Nov. 5, 2008 its typical for u 2 be jealous but remember hes your man no one elses if hes a real man he wont betray your love... RIMHfire Posted at 7:16 am on Nov. 5, 2008 It's typical jealousy. Nothing to get too worked up about unless you think he's gonna cheat on you. All 10 previous replies displayed.