Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Crush Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Live Just To Die[/m] at 10:29 am on Nov. 6, 2008[quote]She can look, dump her if it gets to anything more...[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post EyeoftheBeholder Posted at 10:27 am on Nov. 6, 2008 My girlfriend and I have been going out for a year and four months. Last week we were on the phone and she told me about a conversation she had with one of her friends about having a crush one someone while being in a relationship. To make a long story short, my girlfriend told me that she has a crush on a boy at her school (she's still in high school, I'm a freshman in college). She got defensive and told me that it's normal and that I'm just a "loser" and a "homosexual" for not looking at any other girls the way I look at her. I just wanted to know your thoughts. Is this normal? Should I be worried? Should we talk about it more?

Replies TigressaLynnMae Posted at 10:46 am on Nov. 6, 2008 It's normal to have little crushes, and act upon them, in a flirty way. I'm engaged, but there's a guy, in my sights, that I flirt with. He's cute. But I couldn't do anything more than flirt with him, or merely like him. I don't love him. I love my baby. :) EyeoftheBeholder Posted at 10:41 am on Nov. 6, 2008 Thanks for the help. I was grateful, too, that she at least confessed to me that she has a crush on someone. It's not exactly a comforting subject, but at least she is being more open with me. She does have a flirting problem, I believe. But she told me that she has no idea why she like this guy. She told me that he's not good looking and annoying, and he has a girlfriend. She said he's really funny. I know nothing will happen. My main concern was her telling me that it's normal to develop feelings for other people when you're in a relationship. It is impossible for me to think of someone higher than her. No one comes close. She's told me that she likes other boys. She told me that she still has feelings for her best friend. She's told me that she doesn't think she loves me. It's hard to hear that, naturally, especially when she says to me "I love you the most." It's just not normal, and I don't understand how she thinks it is. Just Add Water Posted at 10:34 am on Nov. 6, 2008 Well something sounds off to me.  If you two have been dating that long and are truly committed why would she have a crush on another guy?  Granted "looking" at other guys or girl and noticing their "nice" features is one thing, but having an actual crush is another.  It sounds like your girl is getting way too defensive over something that shouldn't be an issue.  You aren't a homosexual or a loser for not looking at other girls, but it's not normal for her to be crushing on another guy. My advice would be to definitely sit her down and talk to her to see what's up.  Maybe because she's being defensive she's not telling you how she's truly feeling about your two's relationship.  Maybe she's looking around for a new guy.  Maybe not.  Communication is the key and I feel that if you talk it out with her you both will come to a conclusion, and then you can work it out from there.  Don't assume the worst though, this could all be harmless.  Anyway, sit her down, ask her what is going on, and if something is wrong, etc.  I hope all goes well and I wish you the best of luck! If you need anything else, just give me a shout out! guitar lover Posted at 10:32 am on Nov. 6, 2008 I guess it is kind of normal its good that she told you tho about it instead of keeping it from you she shouldn't have gotten as mad at you tho like honestly you alloud to be upset about it and if your girlfriend was jokeing when she called you a loser and homosexual then thats one thing but if she was being seriouse then thats not very good your gf shouldn't be calling you names, You should be concerned and keep your eyes open for things but i don't think you should be that worried about it.. and yes you should make sure you don't just let this go becareful and makes sure she doesn't develop more feelings for this guy cause then their will be more problems for you... if you need anything else just PM me OverTheAir Posted at 10:30 am on Nov. 6, 2008 I think it's normal to find other people attractive, to flirt, things like that. But if actual feelings get involved I don't think that's normal... or a good thing. Sure you can care about somebody as a friend, but going so far to call it a "crush" which I thought implied feelings, is a bit weird to me. tinnainparis Posted at 10:30 am on Nov. 6, 2008 you should def talk about it i dont think your any of those things for not looking at other girls your jsut very loyal!!! and i dont think its good that she has a crush on someone else since you two have been going out for a year and four months!!1 FuzzyBearJr Posted at 10:29 am on Nov. 6, 2008 umm hmm u might wanna be wrried if she starts ignoring u or anything but otherwise not really cadetjones2011 Posted at 10:29 am on Nov. 6, 2008 you should talk to her more abou this because your not a loser or an homosexual when you date someone they are supposed to be the only person you can see and if she likes another guy well you to should talk it out and if you need somrone to talk to feel free to pm me and i will help all i can rinni Posted at 10:29 am on Nov. 6, 2008 That isn't normal...unless she just doesn't feel like being committed to you anymore. You should be worried and talk to her about it. Also, only immature people would call their significant other a "homo" for getting offended. IceTeaEdwin Posted at 10:29 am on Nov. 6, 2008 WHAT THE HELL? Sounds like she's feeling guilty of something...I say dump her and get someone who likes you and doesn't crush around for others }:] Live Just To Die Posted at 10:29 am on Nov. 6, 2008 She can look, dump her if it gets to anything more... All 11 previous replies displayed.