Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic F-Buddy dilemma Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Neodymie[/m] at 12:46 pm on Dec. 23, 2008[quote]Quote: from [m]purplelove202[/m] at 9:46 am on Dec. 23, 2008[quote]FUCK HIM - I'M DONE![/quote] Good for you.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post purplelove202 Posted at 10:53 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 I am in love with him.  He is not in love with me. We are "movie buddies" (we go to the movies together), f-buddies, dining-out buddies.... Pretty much - if he's not too tired and not too busy - we are together doing something. He knows I love him.  He acknowledges it, and is fine with it.  He just wants me to try letting go of the feelings/emotions and just being his friend. I CAN be just his f-buddy friend, but every now and then I get emotional about him.  I don't want to leave his side.  I worry about him.   We don't kiss, rarely hug, and avoid eye contact during sex. We do this to diminish the feelings I have for him during that physically expressive time... What would you do?   *You love him / her *You are addicted to his / her body / sexual activity *They are addicted to having sex with you too *You can talk about anything and enjoy the same hobbies, tv shows, movies, etc. BUT the person who's not in love would rather you TRY to leave your feelings behind. What do I do??

Replies purplelove202 Posted at 9:37 am on April 24, 2009 Ok, finally... months and months later.. we are still having sex, but I've mostly gotten over him.  I still love him and still have the potential to fall back in love with him, but I'm okay with just sex.   :-) He also lets me say "I love you" if I would like to. yay :-) JustinHit Posted at 6:00 pm on Dec. 23, 2008 You are definitely confusing yourself with lust and love. I'm sure you have realized that he doesn't love you. Not only that but it sounds like he never did especially when he told you to keep your emotions to yourself. And not to bring you down but he's using you just for your physical appearance. Just an opinion. Neodymie Posted at 12:46 pm on Dec. 23, 2008 Quote: from purplelove202 at 9:46 am on Dec. 23, 2008 FUCK HIM - I'M DONE! Good for you. purplelove202 Posted at 9:46 am on Dec. 23, 2008 FUCK HIM - I'M DONE! nik1 Posted at 10:34 am on Dec. 19, 2008 OMG....talk about stupidity.  I have read it all now. You have sex with someone that won't kiss you.  You have sex with someone that you seldom hug and avoid eye contact with.  I would rather have sex with a blow up plastic doll.   You are being used and so delirious that you allow him to get away with it.   You may call it a movie buddy but I am sure he calls you a fuck buddy. You are in for a long bumpy ride and you deserve it because you have allowed yourself to get into this mess.  You can't make someone love you...never! purplelove202 Posted at 11:17 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 I recently asked him "When you fall in love with someone, do you see yourself ending our friendship?"  He said "I don't think so." He could have just said that to comfort me FOR NOW. UGH! Neodymie Posted at 11:15 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 Quote: from purplelove202 at 11:08 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 We stopped having sex due to him wanting to date someone - but he dumped her really soon after - just to continue our sexual relationship. He says no one else can do / will do what I do. Should I really stop the sex to keep the friendship AND HOW??? :-O I don't know. I've honestly never been in that situation. That's just how I see it going down. You say it's kind of awkward already likely it will only get worse until you hate each other. purplelove202 Posted at 11:08 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 We stopped having sex due to him wanting to date someone - but he dumped her really soon after - just to continue our sexual relationship.  He says no one else can do / will do what I do.   Should I really stop the sex to keep the friendship AND HOW???  :-O Neodymie Posted at 11:06 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 Quote: from purplelove202 at 11:01 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 Good advice everyone - especially Neodymie (being also my mechanical adviser)... I've tried stopping the sex, but I WANT it from HIM so much. I find no one else even remotely attractive. Well the way I see it playing out is you stop the sex and keep him as a friend or you keep having sex and it will all implode eventually and you lose sex and a friend. Just my two cents though. cherryD Posted at 11:05 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 It's not going to work out and you know it. If you find it hard to get over him, then distance yourself from him. purplelove202 Posted at 11:01 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 Good advice everyone - especially Neodymie (being also my mechanical adviser)... I've tried stopping the sex, but I WANT it from HIM so much.  I find no one else even remotely attractive. Neodymie Posted at 10:59 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 Just stop having sex with him. Just do everything else. purplelove202 Posted at 10:59 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 What if I'm ok with just friendship?  I'm only ok with this because I love him THAT much.  I would rather settle for frienship - than not have him at all... blufindr Posted at 10:59 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 You leave him. bigproud90 Posted at 10:58 pm on Dec. 18, 2008 sweetie , there is two things to do .... One deal with it .... OR Two ,,,,, Walk Most recent 15 of 19 previous replies displayed.