Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Help me please. I can't bear it anymore Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]lmc11591[/m] at 9:54 am on Dec. 24, 2008[quote]aw. i'm sorry hun. just think of this you're still young and there are gonna be dozens of better boys out there. heartbreak is apart of life and it makes you stronger. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post robinsonking01 Posted at 9:52 am on Dec. 24, 2008 I know this sounds pathetic but my boyfriend just left me. He wont tell me why all he said was that we wouldn't last. I love him. He was my life. I really want to die but I cant stand to leave my mother behind. She suffers from depression too. I've been on 4 antidepressants. Yesterday I was at my psychiatrist and she was going to put me on something else. I've recently taken prozac so I don't know if that has anything to do with it. I don't want to leave but I'm afraid I have to spare my mother. I just can't take it. I've been crying since yesterday and I haven't eaten. Please someone help me deal with this.

Replies LoveKay Posted at 10:42 am on Dec. 24, 2008 Oh, I'm sorry to hear you feel so awful. It really seems like the end of the world, doesn't it? But it isn't. Believe me, there is so much more to live for. It's always sad to read in the paper that someone killed him or herself because of a significant other. I had an old friend commit suicide the other week because of a girl. It's just awful. Look, you can't turn to death for an answer. Killing yourself can not be an option. There is so much more to life than boyfriends and having lots of friends and having good grades. No matter what is going wrong in your life, I promise things will begin to look up. When shit gets so down and low, the only thing it has left to do is go up. I wouldn't recommend on going any more pills. I wouldn't recommend any pills whatsoever, but then again, I'm not a believer in anti-depressants. I had a friend who killed himself because that shit made him feel so awful. I just hope you feel better. Stick through this. I know it has only been a couple of days now, but if you wait a little longer, things will start looking up a little. Slowly. Shit can get bad quickly and easily, but it's difficult to bring yourself back up. However, that's what makes happiness so much more sacred and so much more enjoyable. Otherwise, what had helped me in the past is thinking about how everybody goes through tough times in their lives, and think about all those couples who get a divorce and how awful they feel. How they just feel failure and sadness. But they get through it, and so can you. Everybody can, it is just a matter of what they do about their situation. Also, I always think about my mom and what she would do without me. I know she only lives for me, and that is how parents are. Perhaps, since your mom is already depressed, she only truly just lives for you as well. If you let life go, you know that she probably would, too. do you want that? Because both of you can make it through this. Talk to her, bond, and get together to kick this depression in the ass. You can do it. Good luck. Points Posted at 10:03 am on Dec. 24, 2008 It's not pathetic. Can you call him and ask him to talk? Break-ups are hard and it's not pathetic you feel like this. You probably feel 10x worse because you have depression too and this is an extra blow. It's good you're thinking about your mum too and how she would feel. If she's depressed, who knows what would happen if she lost you? You're her daughter and she needs you, as you need her. It'll take time to get over your boyfriend, it's not gonna happen over night. You haven't started taking your new meds yet? They might help you. But it's going to be hard to deal with. Don't give up, though, because you will get over him and find a new love. Just don't forget it's gonna take time, probably a long time. Tell your psychiatrist about this, too. She might be able to help you. Do some things to occupy your mind. Keep busy and hang out with some friends. Try to do things that will cheer you up, because it is possible. :) You can PM me if you want to talk. QuiteTight Posted at 10:02 am on Dec. 24, 2008 That's really sad but I wouldn't give up. You have so much more to live for and obviously, there's someone else out there more deserving of you. Don't let this bring you down as much as you are. Look at it from a better perspective and work on showing him the great person he gave up   acausedelle Posted at 10:01 am on Dec. 24, 2008 I know that breaking up is a very difficult situation to be in, but you need to get past it before you do something extremely irrational. Your feelings for him will eventually fade, but until then, you need to cope with your depression. Try doing something that distracts you. Try watching TV, reading a book, listening to music, or try solving a Rubik's cube. There are so many possibilities to distract you. That usually helps from feeling all the pain that you are going through right now. Your boyfriend had his reasons to go, but that doesn't mean that you will find someone else. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and there is not much that makes your boyfriend more special than everyone else. You may see him as something different, but believe me, he probably is nothing special. Dying over one guy is not the best of ideas. Your whole family will be crying over you, and I am sure that your ex will feel a bit of remorse as well. Do you really want that? Wouldn't you rather let him go and do what is best for him? There is a saying that goes, "If you really love him, you will learn to let him go." There is so much truth to those words. Just give it time. You can't just kill yourself today, because everyone you know will be so upset and depressed over your death. He isn't the only one who saw you in a different way. There are plenty of fish in the sea, you just need to catch them! babygirl15xoxo Posted at 10:00 am on Dec. 24, 2008 I went though the same thing, expect since my mothers dead i was going to leave behind my dad and even though we fight ALL THE TIME i just couldn't do that to him. Just try to do what i do, Serendipity. It means that if something is meant to happen it will happen, just you have to let things happen. And you know how things are so horrible right now? Well just think, if you don't kill yourself, things are only going to get better because quite frankly they can't get worse. Sweetie, it is possible to live though this even though it does seem possible. Eat lots of chocolate, go for a girls night out. Get all dress up in very sexy clothes and a couple of very good girl friends and just go out and watch a movie or go shopping and get some ice cream. Just talk and smile and pretend all is all right. I know that's hard but when you can pretend everything is all right, things actually start to get better. I know it doesn't make much sense but it works for every girl i know. Best of luck hun and I'm here if you need someone to listen. Zetsuai Posted at 9:57 am on Dec. 24, 2008 You're not pathetic. Life crashes down on us sometimes and it's never fun. I would know, believe me. There really isn't much you can do to besides wait, and hope things will go back to normal in time. Listen to your psychiatrist, and try and be there for your mother. It's okay to cry. Get something to eat too. If you're mother will be okay, then try and go out with some friends and get your mind off things. Lei Posted at 9:55 am on Dec. 24, 2008 Look don't worry about your boyfriend, hes a tool for leaving you and not telling you why. Deal with what your feeling about life first and then worry about him. First off, your mother, and probably the rest of your community, will be better off with you around. And umm the antidepressants? Do they work for you...and have you told your psychiatrist all of this? You don't need to feel like this just because of a guy....he'll realise what he's lost. And if you need to tlk just message me,... feels good Posted at 9:55 am on Dec. 24, 2008 awww in srry GoodFairy13 Posted at 9:55 am on Dec. 24, 2008 Cry, try and see the good in things. After time it'll get better (And as stupid as that may sound, Time is one of the greatest healers) Your boyfriend is a jerk for just dropping you like that without reason. Maybe he wasn't worth it. I'm sorry. SpasticTurnip Posted at 9:54 am on Dec. 24, 2008 *hugs* lmc11591 Posted at 9:54 am on Dec. 24, 2008 aw. i'm sorry hun. just think of this you're still young and there are gonna be dozens of better boys out there. heartbreak is apart of life and it makes you stronger. All 11 previous replies displayed.