Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Girls that think they are better than you Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]blackbandaid[/m] at 11:49 pm on July 10, 2009[quote]Quote: from [m]Mr Serious[/m] at 6:46 pm on July 11, 2009[quote] [b] I'm a nice guy. I'm a gentleman and girls always come first. I treat them with the utmost kindness and respect.[/b]  [/quote] This, unfortunately, is where you are going wrong. Most girls don't like 'nice'. They do like respect, but only if you're still interesting with it. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Mr Serious Posted at 11:46 pm on July 10, 2009 So the way my life has been going thus far is pretty failed and disappointing, for me. Everyone around me is finding love and are in relationships. Me, I'm alone. I feel like there is no one for me. I try and try, and I've tried and tried. Was I just born to be this way? Was I born to be alone and miserable? I'm a nice guy. I'm a gentleman and girls always come first. I treat them with the utmost kindness and respect. There is this girl that I work with. She is younger than me but she is stunning. One of the prettiest girls I have ever seen. I've been nothing but nice and kind to her. I joke with her and try to make her laugh. I just get the feeling that she doesn't wanna be around me or anyone else at work. It's like shes associating with us because she has to. It's like she thinks she's too good to talk to me or anyone else there. I just don't understand that. Whatever i guess, but it just bothers me sometimes. I don't like people not liking me.   And she treats me like shit. I mean it's not like I have any kind of relationship going on with her, not even a friendship. But I try and talk to her but she just treats me like shit. I've thought about the possibility that maybe she is just trying to make sure she doesn't lead me on. Maybe. A girl like that is easy to fall for. But when she's an asshole to you, you can't fall for her. Other than that, theres really no contact with me and girls. Though I wish there was. I'm just too bad at socializing.

Replies nik1 Posted at 9:28 am on July 19, 2009 Not unusual for pretty girls to have attitudes.  Sounds like she is sending you some strong messages.  Perhaps you are looking for love in all the wrong places?   Perhaps you are treating her too nice.  Try reverse psychology on her.  Treat her totally different than you have in the past and see what reactions you get.  Speak to her and keep moving.  Show attention to other girls when she is around and see how she reacts.   Mr Serious Posted at 9:32 am on July 15, 2009 Quote: from blackbandaid at 12:02 am on July 11, 2009 Quote: from Mr Serious at 7:01 pm on July 11, 2009       Consider the possibility that you are setting your standards too high, and should be paying more attention to the girls who do notice you.    I have considered that. But I have come to the conclusion that I am not ready to settle yet. Consider the fact that the girls you are going after won't 'settle' for you. Kind of ironic. Every girl in the world huh? shreyaji Posted at 12:25 am on July 15, 2009 Perhaps girl got ego in this matter. They are good but in sexuality not in other facts. Stormblazer Posted at 10:22 pm on July 14, 2009 Quote: from Mr Serious at 12:53 am on July 11, 2009 Quote: from cheesewiz at 11:51 pm on July 10, 2009 Wow. Story of my fucking life right now.    How do you mean that she treats you like shit, though? Is she just being distant or is she really like being rude? She's rude. Newsflash, girls are people the same as guys. Just as most guys aren't worth dating, neither are most girls. Just becase one is pretty doesn't make her someone you want to talk to, let alone make friends with or have a relationship with. Seems to me you think far too highly of girls in the general instead of applying the same standards to both genders. doiochiverzi Posted at 3:10 pm on July 13, 2009 ... you are setting your standards too high and i say this because only very rarely do you see couples composed of people with different levels of hottness. you need to look for girls that are on the same level as you are. I don't know what you look like, but i'll tell you that drop dead gorgeous girls do not typically go for average guys... luckily for average guys though, average girls do. nurp Posted at 8:52 pm on July 12, 2009 do you put pretty girls on a pedestal? yes, you do Ggina Posted at 12:12 am on July 11, 2009 That's too bad. It's really going to limit your options. If you have to work, maybe get a different job? One more suited to your interests, with more co-workers? Mr Serious Posted at 12:02 am on July 11, 2009 Quote: from Ggina at 12:01 am on July 11, 2009 Are you in any clubs on campus? No, I don't have time. It's just work and school. blackbandaid Posted at 12:02 am on July 11, 2009 Quote: from Mr Serious at 7:01 pm on July 11, 2009      Consider the possibility that you are setting your standards too high, and should be paying more attention to the girls who do notice you. I have considered that. But I have come to the conclusion that I am not ready to settle yet. Consider the fact that the girls you are going after won't 'settle' for you. Kind of ironic. Ggina Posted at 12:01 am on July 11, 2009 Are you in any clubs on campus? Mr Serious Posted at 12:01 am on July 11, 2009   Consider the possibility that you are setting your standards too high, and should be paying more attention to the girls who do notice you. I have considered that. But I have come to the conclusion that I am not ready to settle yet. There are so many pretty girls out there. Do they all want a guy that looks like brad pitt? Ggina Posted at 12:00 am on July 11, 2009 Also, if you're not having any contact with girls outside of work, I'd really stress the "get involved" thing. If you're isolated you can rule out getting a girl. You don't need to be mean to a girl, but stand up for yourself. If this girl is treating you like shit, stop talking to her. Give her the silent treatment, only address her when you need to for work. Talk about other girls in front of her, talk about things you're involved with. Decent people don't treat others like pieces of shit, end of story. blackbandaid Posted at 11:59 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from Mr Serious at 6:57 pm on July 11, 2009 Quote: from Ggina at 11:55 pm on July 10, 2009 Hmm... maybe you're not presenting yourself the right way?    I mean, a gentleman is always great but you also need to appear interesting and well-groomed. Hit the gym, update the wardrobe a bit and get involved in something you're interested in. When it seems like you've got your own thing going on, girls will notice.  Also, the girl you mentioned in this post sounds like a bitch. I know plenty of gorgeous girls who AREN'T rude to guys. If she's being mean to you so she won't lead you on, that makes no sense to me, unless you come off as super-creepy.  NEVER treat anyone like they're better than you (always starting the convo, acting super-interested in them). Be friendly, but treat people how they treat you. lol. I'm not creepy at all. I try my best with my physical appearance and condition. But it just never seems like girls notice. I mean, I think I look really good... I get comments all the time, from girls I have no interest in. Consider the possibility that you are setting your standards too high, and should be paying more attention to the girls who do notice you. Mr Serious Posted at 11:57 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from Ggina at 11:55 pm on July 10, 2009 Hmm... maybe you're not presenting yourself the right way? I mean, a gentleman is always great but you also need to appear interesting and well-groomed. Hit the gym, update the wardrobe a bit and get involved in something you're interested in. When it seems like you've got your own thing going on, girls will notice.   Also, the girl you mentioned in this post sounds like a bitch. I know plenty of gorgeous girls who AREN'T rude to guys. If she's being mean to you so she won't lead you on, that makes no sense to me, unless you come off as super-creepy.   NEVER treat anyone like they're better than you (always starting the convo, acting super-interested in them). Be friendly, but treat people how they treat you. lol. I'm not creepy at all. I try my best with my physical appearance and condition. But it just never seems like girls notice. I mean, I think I look really good... I get comments all the time, from girls I have no interest in. blackbandaid Posted at 11:56 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from Mr Serious at 6:51 pm on July 11, 2009 Quote: from blackbandaid at 11:49 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from Mr Serious at 6:46 pm on July 11, 2009     I'm a nice guy. I'm a gentleman and girls always come first. I treat them with the utmost kindness and respect.        This, unfortunately, is where you are going wrong. Most girls don't like 'nice'. They do like respect, but only if you're still interesting with it. Fuck it then. Because I don't know how to be mean. I can't be mean to a girl. Fuck it. It's not about being mean. It's about not being a boring push over. Sorry but that's just how it is. You don't have to be abusive, you just have to be less 'nice' all the time. They'll respect you for it. Most recent 15 of 23 previous replies displayed.