Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic A growing relationship Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]XxcrimsonxtwilightxX[/m] at 4:15 pm on June 24, 2008[quote]id say if she likes you more then her fiance then so be it. let her break up wit them. but only let her do it if you realy like her... like completely. if your gonna break her heart and make them wish they never broke it with the fiance then dont let her... its realy up to you.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post jgp5500 Posted at 4:10 pm on June 24, 2008 I met "Laura" last semeter. We had 2 classes togehter and a mutual friend in the classes, too. We'd always sit together, go out to lunch during the day etc. I was diagnosed with a serious health problem in April. When I got to come home from the hospital, we started hanging out once in a while because she lives rather close to me. She's been seeing her boyfriend, more recently, her fiance for 4 years now. Lately, things have gotten more involved. While there has been no kissing or physical interaction, I do feel close to her. She flirts, I flirt. We talk on Facebook or on the phone a few nights a week; sometimes til 3am. Last night we went to a park along the river. I brought my laptop so we could watch movies in the park. After we finished watching, she scooted up against me, playfully touched me a lot and gave me some great looks while lying under the stars. There seems to be a lot of sexual tension. We've both come to a conclusion that we'd date one another had she and her fiance not met. But I'm not about to break her up with her fiance. That's NOT my intention. She's the one mostly making the moves. I've never felt this close to another girl before. Girls: any ideas?

Replies jgp5500 Posted at 1:59 am on June 29, 2008 I know this is a tricky situation, and I intend to keep it from getting trickier. We continue to talk til the early early AM. Uruz 7 Posted at 5:50 pm on June 25, 2008 Quote: from xcutioners at 1:35 pm on June 25, 2008 Sounds like a girl WHO is NOT READY FOR COMMITMENT. A good chance, can't bet 100% though . . She might just consider you a close friend and nothing more ..  Trust me my close friends tend to seem like much more to , to be amazed with - a very large number of wierdos out there . . Maybe she's just more expressive than others? Nevertheless, the same rule applies, if you can't accept reality of she gets married to her fiance' then it would be best to part a little bit starting from now . . . If things persist for too long you may have to pop the question, but trust me, its a very intricate situation . . the final decision is yours to make, we can only give you suggestions . . xcutioners Posted at 10:35 pm on June 24, 2008 Sounds like a girl WHO is NOT READY FOR COMMITMENT. jgp5500 Posted at 10:32 pm on June 24, 2008 I talked to her tonight and I asked her if she told her fianceé told her about the other night at the park. She said she told him that we watched movies but didn't tell him it was at the park. She then said that she tells him EVERYTHING usually. I asked her if she wanted to do it again soon and she said yes. Thanks for advice guys. Uruz 7 Posted at 6:23 pm on June 24, 2008 That would be her decision. The challenge is whether you can put up with it. I'd guess the big question is whether you really think the relationship can go a long way if it works out between you and her . . . You need to be able to accept both outcomes, either the happy ending or the not so happy ending. If you think you can do that (well, i'd say either way you'd have a 99% chance to say yes wtihout much thought). If so, then there nothing wrong with it, just make sure you don't trigger any inappropriate moves, though by knowing that she's already engaged, I personally feel that its a serious 'honour' issue there . . Which is why, its best you don't even try to suggest anything to her about it . .Just one of the principles of chilvary I guess . . If you don't mind the wait, and if you don't mind losing everything you invested over the wait, then I guess its fine, Otherwise, an absolute no, because a lot of guys go crazy when they u-know-what. Key of reference: If you really do love her ('like' doesn't equate to anything under any circumstances), you will do eveyrthing you can to ensure her happiness in life. You know what I mean. . . XxcrimsonxtwilightxX Posted at 4:15 pm on June 24, 2008 id say if she likes you more then her fiance then so be it. let her break up wit them. but only let her do it if you realy like her... like completely. if your gonna break her heart and make them wish they never broke it with the fiance then dont let her... its realy up to you. All 6 previous replies displayed.