Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Possibly Asexual? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]plumc0la[/m] at 11:42 pm on July 7, 2008[quote]You could be asexual, or you just haven't found the right person to bring out what you've never experienced.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post metrico Posted at 11:38 pm on July 7, 2008 I'm a bit confused with myself, I'm starting to grow concerned why I don't act like other straight males. I'm not very macho, not very masculine. Even my therapist says I have a very androgynous manner and I'll agree with him on that..... I seem to have a severe fear of sexuality and intimacy to a degree, at least when it comes to dealing with myself . I've ran from (not literally) girls that have shown interest in me. I have never really tried hard to start a relationship with anyone, haven't felt strong enough for them. Never felt inclined to really flirt, try to kiss, etc. Kinda baffled by it all really. I've guess I've always liked girls, liked their company, when I was little I would play with anyone and even now most of my friends are girls. I think a lot of girls are pretty, and have developed I guess crushes on various girls over the years (I'm 18), so I've always considered myself straight, but I've never been really compelled to do anything about it much. I can't really imagine myself in a relationship much. Really only in my dreams do I ever find such interactions. One dream was actually so nice a feeling, like "being in love" though I'm not sure with, I was quite dissapointed when I woke up. Though in that dream I'm not sure I was "me", perhaps some sort of character I had made up. A far more realistic one would be from another dream, where I was to go on a date with one of my friends, and it was another pleasant one. So yeah, it's strange and I'm really torn on the whole thing. It's like I often tell myself I just haven't found anyone yet, but I guess doubt that hopefulness. Like, all I want is someone to "save" me so to speak, lame isn't it. Aren't I supposed to be doing the saving? Then there's a part of me that feels like I just don't belong in one, I'm not supposed to, wasn't meant to. So I don't know what's up, sexual repression? asexuality? What do you guys think, I'm curious for others insight.

Replies metrico Posted at 12:22 am on July 8, 2008 Quote: from dpade1337 at 11:50 pm on July 7, 2008 as long as youre happy who cares much? Just do what makes you happy! Lol, my mother does, she says she's concerned a lot that I don't date, etc. It's a bit aggravating since she worries about me a lot since I spend a lot of my time alone or she doesn't know my friends much. I've had my shares of social anxiety in the past, and I think this is one of the only places where it still lingers I guess, so she just worries. Otherwise, I do what makes me happy and I intend to keep doing what I like to do, I was just questioning my rigid anti-intimacy. bengali, I have questioned my sexuality before, but I really can't stand other guys much at all. JordanShadows Posted at 12:00 am on July 8, 2008 my boyfriend used to be similar. kinda. like he never really tried to get girls or anything. never flirted or made moves on girls. intill i came along. i was his first everything (gf, kiss, date, sex, ect.) and he was 18 too. now we have an amazing relationship. some people it just happens later then it does for others. just don't give up hope. dpade1337 Posted at 11:50 pm on July 7, 2008 as long as youre happy who cares much? Just do what makes you happy! bengali Posted at 11:43 pm on July 7, 2008 dont worry about it too much.. your time will come.. it happens to many of us, youll be fine.. just go have fun.. you can love people and not show it through intimacy.. maybe ur just too nervous about being intimate with someone?.. are you unsure about ur sexual preference?  give urself some time.. do what feels right plumc0la Posted at 11:42 pm on July 7, 2008 You could be asexual, or you just haven't found the right person to bring out what you've never experienced. greatescape Posted at 11:41 pm on July 7, 2008 You're afraid of commitment and relationships Asexuality doesnt exist All 6 previous replies displayed.