Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic what do i do?? please help! Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]FRYYS[/m] at 10:37 pm on Sep. 17, 2008[quote]just be friends with the guy. you can talk to your sister and friends, they arent to busy to help you.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 10:33 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 I recently feel into deep depression mainly because me and my boyfriend broke up. He's been my life for 2 years  and im trying to get back with him but i lied to him about something so inncocent and he needs time. but i cant take sitting home everynight in my room alone crying. i dont talk to my parents all my friends have there own realtionships and lives and my sister is too busy with her boyfriend and new house so i just dont nowhat to do? what do u do when the person u no is always there when u need a shoulder is gone? i seriously sometimes want to just take pills or get wasted in my room just so i can pass out and not feel the pain. wrost part is i have insominia so i cant sleep this all off. i just sit in my room until 3 or 4 a,m everyday hoping he;ll call or anything? please help cant take it anymore

Replies Just Waiting Here Posted at 10:47 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 10:43 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 Quote: from Just Waiting Here at 10:40 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 You give yourself the space you need, and work your way back up.  It's never easy suddenly being "alone" when you've had someone so close all these times... but it happens.  There's not a "cure" or remedy for this, and it doesn't just go away... you just need to give yourself the time to put yourself together.  Try reading, or listening to music, or taking a hot or cold shower... or just writing in a journal or drawing pictures.  Find something that works for you, and at least helps take away the pain for a little..    Other than that, it's really just a matter of time.  If you feel the need to take pills or get wasted, think about why that ~wouldn't~ be the best choice.  Try to remind youself that you're stronger than that... because even if you feel like the weakest person in the world, you can still have strength.  Yeah... sounds cliche, sounds sappy, sounds stupid... but that's how I think about it.  Give yourself room and time, and do your best to make decisions that aren't completely skewed by your emotional imbalance at this time... thank you. its hard to find people that understand how i feel and you really helped im trying to think of a physical hobbie that willl help me because mental ones...reading...homewokr...etc just cause my mind to drift. Yeah... I mean, anything you do may not work 100%, but a little something may help.  I mean... even if doing something at least makes you feel that you don't have to take anything or get wasted, then that's an improvement from before. Try and keep yourself busy, there's not much too it... and if you need to cry?  Cry.  There's nothing wrong with being upset, and nothing wrong with being hurt.  As long as you try and work you way back up and try and move forward... that's what's important :).  You may not be able to do it just yet, but give yourself time, and things will start falling back into place, and life will kind of start making sense again :) Anonymous Posted at 10:45 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 Quote: from twisted17 at 10:42 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 you may feel like everyone is too busy...lol..but they are just waiting for you to come to them for help..thay understand that you need time and they are waiting..talk to them if it was really that innocent and he blew it way outta proportion then you need to ask yourself why...maybe it was that he was waiting for an excuse to leave you...or maybe he just isn;t as in the relationship as you maybe he just made it bigger then it was and really loves you..these are things that you need to be writing in a journal and asking yourself while u sit up at night wondering why?.. i've been where u are and it gets better..the insomnai...and it helps to write it out..trust me on this..i'm a psych major...lol..writing it out will give ur head more space to figure out an answer to ur questions....it never fails..when u get anixious and can't sleep..write it out..then reread it and let urself find the answers..it will all come in due time you know i think writing it out might help alittle even this writing on a forum expressing my feelings is helping a bit. i think i will start a journal and those are good points your bring up about the reason why hes over reacting Anonymous Posted at 10:43 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 Quote: from Just Waiting Here at 10:40 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 You give yourself the space you need, and work your way back up. It's never easy suddenly being "alone" when you've had someone so close all these times... but it happens. There's not a "cure" or remedy for this, and it doesn't just go away... you just need to give yourself the time to put yourself together. Try reading, or listening to music, or taking a hot or cold shower... or just writing in a journal or drawing pictures. Find something that works for you, and at least helps take away the pain for a little.. Other than that, it's really just a matter of time. If you feel the need to take pills or get wasted, think about why that ~wouldn't~ be the best choice. Try to remind youself that you're stronger than that... because even if you feel like the weakest person in the world, you can still have strength. Yeah... sounds cliche, sounds sappy, sounds stupid... but that's how I think about it. Give yourself room and time, and do your best to make decisions that aren't completely skewed by your emotional imbalance at this time... thank you. its  hard to find people that understand how i feel and you really helped im trying to think of a physical hobbie that willl help me because mental ones...reading...homewokr...etc just cause my mind to drift. twisted17 Posted at 10:42 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 you may feel like everyone is too busy...lol..but they are just waiting for you to come to them for help..thay understand that you need time and they are waiting..talk to them if it was really that innocent and he blew it way outta proportion then you need to ask yourself why...maybe it was that he was waiting for an excuse to leave you...or maybe he just isn;t as in the relationship as you maybe he just made it bigger then it was and really loves you..these are things that you need to be writing in a journal and asking yourself while u sit up at night wondering why?.. i've been where u are and it gets better..the insomnai...and it helps to write it out..trust me on this..i'm a psych major...lol..writing it out will give ur head more space to figure out an answer to ur questions....it never fails..when u get anixious and can't sleep..write it out..then reread it and let urself find the answers..it will all come in due time Anonymous Posted at 10:41 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 Quote: from FRYYS at 10:37 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 just be friends with the guy. you can talk to your sister and friends, they arent to busy to help you. i have talked to them but no one knows what t say and i cant just be friends with a guy that seriously has been ervything for the past 2 years every single day we were together i just i know one day we will be back together but i just cant deal with the depression and being so upset expecially at night whenm im alone thats the worst pain. i know that there are people out there with bigger problems but my biggest fear is losing a loved one and i love him more then anything =[ Just Waiting Here Posted at 10:40 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 You give yourself the space you need, and work your way back up.  It's never easy suddenly being "alone" when you've had someone so close all these times... but it happens.  There's not a "cure" or remedy for this, and it doesn't just go away... you just need to give yourself the time to put yourself together.  Try reading, or listening to music, or taking a hot or cold shower... or just writing in a journal or drawing pictures.  Find something that works for you, and at least helps take away the pain for a little.. Other than that, it's really just a matter of time.  If you feel the need to take pills or get wasted, think about why that ~wouldn't~ be the best choice.  Try to remind youself that you're stronger than that... because even if you feel like the weakest person in the world, you can still have strength.  Yeah... sounds cliche, sounds sappy, sounds stupid... but that's how I think about it.  Give yourself room and time, and do your best to make decisions that aren't completely skewed by your emotional imbalance at this time... bigredron Posted at 10:39 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 get some more e-freinds. Then you can chat all night about meaningless rubbish and your nights will fly by :) FRYYS Posted at 10:37 pm on Sep. 17, 2008 just be friends with the guy. you can talk to your sister and friends, they arent to busy to help you. All 8 previous replies displayed.