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Anonymous Posted at 4:15 pm on June 16, 2009
I had to put this somewhere...sorry if its tedious to read

Its 1am and I really should be sleeping...
I got to bed and thats when I really think about things..life etc.

I have been having a rough time lately and I know I need therapy. I am not depressed but I feel I am heading that way.

I cant stand my dad anymore. I am 21 years old and still treated like a child...only expected to respect the every wish of his will and never allowed to complain. Heaven forbid If do. I cant stand to be in a room alone with him. I dont even look at him in the eyes.

I feel the only time with I am happy is when I am with my boyfriend. Everything disappears and I can just be. I dont have to worry about anything. I dont have to worry about my friends bullshit, my family turmoil or the increasing stress of my studies. I love him so much and yet I am so petrified of losing him. He also has emotional issues so our relationship has been rocky. I know I dont "need" him but I truly love him and could see myself being with him for the rest of my life...I dont want to lose him.

I am a wreck and know I shouldnt be like this....I just want to stop crying.

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inferiorteenager Posted at 4:30 am on July 3, 2009
My goodness, you sound like a wonderful individual. All I can say is to stay strong. Waaay easier said then done, I know. It seems like you really enjoy the time you spend with your bf... And if you really love him, which it sounds like you do, you'll make it. Just don't be afraid, live your life fully, with no limits. <p>

Many guys tend to deny their emotional instability, including myself, because we want to appear strong, so we can give you the comfort and affection that you deserve. Remember, we can only keep this up for so long, and we may breakdown. I have. So regretful statements may be hollered or wailed, when in reality, they were just fears and anxieties, in which he didn't know how to deal with. This is the start of the breakdown. Don't let it scare you away though. Just listen to each other, and don't be afraid to express how much he means to you, and how you care for him.

HatesYou Posted at 4:30 pm on June 16, 2009
Heyyy, don't worry I know times are rough and that you're probably tired of living the life you have, but things are bound to change.  They always do, they just take time.  The key thing to do in your situation is simply be patient.  Wait a while to elevate and improve your lifestyle.  Work on bettering your future, stay determined and have a goal.
Your dad is your dad, you should try to understand and respect him. He probably just wants what's best for you, don't let him stress you out too much.  Most parents have the same mentality. Even when you're sixty, to him you'll always be his baby.
You're tired of him, I know.  But what other solution could you possibly have?  I mean, if you really want to leave his place, you should save up some money and leave.  Get your own place with your boyfriend. This'll take time, definitely, but it might just be worth the wait. It's good that you at least have someone there for you when you're in need of comfort and support.  Your boyfriend sound like a great guy and it's nice that you both have a good relationship together, one where you're both comfortable enough to communicate and share each others troubles.  
It's okay to be a wreck once in a while, you know?  You're not supposed to be perfect and hold your tears in.  Let it out.  Once you're done, think ahead.  Think about what your next step in life will be.

I hope you'll be fine.  Good luck.

jazzyjaynherflyself Posted at 4:23 pm on June 16, 2009
Just let it all out....and when you cant cry anymore then resolve to make things better....parents are going to be who they are going to be and there is not much that you can do about that...so try not let that bother you just accept that is the way he is going to be....I am almost 20 and my parents think i am 10....they question my every move and freak out about everything....but as soon as i accepted that that's the way they will always be the happier i was... i hope it helps
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