Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I'm in a destructive spiral- Please save me Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]visualcandyxo[/m] at 1:28 pm on July 5, 2009[quote]aw *hugs* maybe you need to do something which takes up our free time? like a hobby...[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 1:20 pm on July 5, 2009 Things ended between me and my ex 6 months ago. In that time i was majorly depressed as a result. I went away for a month to visit my mother and brothers, and didnt take my computer or phone so i couldnt be contacted by her or spy on her. Now im back, and im afraid im going to be stuck in a major depressive spiral. I woke up today and lied in bed for 3 hours thinking about what shes thinking and whether she wants me. Then the temptation grew too great so i checked the facebook walls of our mutual friends to see what she had said to them in the last month. Seeing her living her life depresses me deeply, yet im drawn to facebook stalk her or think about her 24/7. I feel like my life is a void and that i have nothing to fill it with except her. I also have her fb password and am quite sure if i looked it would be the end of me (not literally), but sometimes the temptation and anxiety grows so great. I need to fill my life, but jobs depress me and i dont really have any close friends.

Replies Worst Mod Ever Posted at 5:21 pm on July 8, 2009 Breakups are almost never easy. Even if you wanted the breakup to happen, it's tough to adjust to being single or with a different person and it takes time. Most of those wounds heal with time (albeit relatively slowly). The most you can do is work out your frustrations in as positively a way as possible. Painting and writing are both good ways for you to express your frustrations creatively. Reading and watching TV can be good to take your mind off of things. You mentioned that you don't have any close friends; how about your not-so-close friends? Maybe now is the time to take a leap and get more friendly with them. About your ex specifically, obviously, you are not over her. If you are on good terms with her, I think you should talk to her and let her know how you feel. That may give you some closure you need. If you can't talk to her, you need to bear in mind and keep reminding yourself of whenever you think about her is this: "Our relationship is over." Don't try to think about how you can get back with her. Don't think about how she's getting on. Don't think about what she's saying to her friends. None of that matters to you. And you need to focus on getting yourself back up on your feet. visualcandyxo Posted at 1:28 pm on July 5, 2009 aw *hugs* maybe you need to do something which takes up our free time? like a hobby... PolskiBabe Posted at 1:23 pm on July 5, 2009 you need a hobby. All 3 previous replies displayed.