Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic "Recovered" self injurers? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]awakenedbyspring[/m] at 8:17 pm on April 29, 2008[quote]cutters will always be cutters. even if you don't do it for years. it's always there. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post alicerevisited Posted at 8:15 pm on April 29, 2008 Is there anyone here who used to self injure/ cut? If so, how long has it been since you last did it? How did you stop? Do you ever get urges to do it again? Personally it's been since senior year. So about 2 years. I guess I sort of "grew out" of it and found better ways to deal with my problems. I occasionally get urges to cut because it's a quick fix... I wonder if these will ever go away. I was wondering if there was anyone on this forum like me.

Replies alicerevisited Posted at 10:13 pm on June 15, 2008 Wow. this topic picked back up after I left. Here's a little update on me, not that anyone would care. I am currently working on my problems on a deeper level. My self injury stemmed from suffering through abuse for many years which has led me to think irrational things, among other problems. I guess my problem with quitting and why I continued to get urges from time to time was I assumed that the cutting was a separate problem and that stopping was as simple as that - stopping. I forgot a very important aspect of recovering from faulty coping mechanisms... they are coping mechanisms and they FILLED A NEED. Quitting without finding something beyond temporary distracters is fruitless. Now that I am exploring the different ways I think that are self damaging, my urges have become less frequent and less intense. Also I am a psych major and I have been working with a Dialectial behavioral therapy group/ research project. I know that DBT is used for borderline personality, but I have also found that some of the skills taught in the book to be helpful in my own struggles. I also recommended some of the different exersizes to friends and they found them helpful, too.  The ones most useful for the self injury urges were those known as distress tolerance or distractors and interpersonal effectiveness which helped heaps with some of my assertiveness issues and asking for help when needed. I highly recommend anyone struggling with this at least give this book a openminded look. best of luck to you! annihilate me Posted at 10:29 am on June 14, 2008 Yes, I've been a self injurer. I haven't really quit per say because I relapse about every couple of months. To me, it seems like the urges will never go away. Taylor636Baker Posted at 7:56 pm on May 21, 2008 I used to be a chronic cutter Now I only do it ocassionally mikeyp123 Posted at 7:32 pm on May 21, 2008 Did it 3 years ago in a severe period of depression, anxiety, bullying, health problems. Didn't touch it for 3 years until recently when i got overly upset about something and i regret doing it now. They say it takes 7 years to fully recover from self-harming. vde Posted at 3:33 am on May 21, 2008 Did it only once after an agrument with one of my ex's, and I would say it was out of curousity but to be honest it sucked I never did or will do it again. I do not see a reason why must one do it - it's messy, it's unhealthy, it's painful, it leave's scars, it can get infected and mostly it is not a problem solver not even for a bit :_) Oregon503 Posted at 1:46 am on May 16, 2008 i knew a few girls that do. one quit and the other I'm really trying to help. amiee Posted at 6:06 pm on May 15, 2008 it's not something i consciously stop doing. i can go through periods of self harming quite a lot, and then i'll stop for months and months and just randomly start again. i don't actively try to stop myself, i guess. although, for urges, i imagine completely distracting yourself and removing yourself from the stressful situation, or from the place where you could self harm, would help a bit. alicerevisited Posted at 8:07 pm on May 2, 2008 what are some things you do for the urges? Arguia Posted at 10:19 am on May 1, 2008 I haven't self harmed in nearly a year and five months. I have urges a lot of the time. wingedmisery Posted at 9:25 am on April 30, 2008 i have gone about 5 months with a 1 relapse since then. I don't remember when that was, but it was about a month or 2 ago that I did it last. I stopped because I have horrible scars that I will have forever and I needed to come up with different coping skills. I stopped by seeing a pyschiatrist who put me on meds to stop the urges. Yes, I have the urge sometimes... but I haven't given in again wtf123 Posted at 8:56 pm on April 29, 2008 its been since decemberrr niceee scarsd:) but hate when ppl ask grr urges? all the time helpful ness ? music <3 penguinsrule Posted at 8:24 pm on April 29, 2008 its been bout a year and a half since stopped, and yes..i get the urge a lot...i got a bf, and i didn't want anymore scars :( alicerevisited Posted at 8:22 pm on April 29, 2008 Quote: from awakenedbyspring at 11:17 pm on April 29, 2008 cutters will always be cutters. even if you don't do it for years. it's always there. I wonder how true that statement really is. acausedelle Posted at 8:20 pm on April 29, 2008 I used to cut I stopped last December I listened to uplifting music until the urge went away Rarely, I just punch a wall though. Princess Bubbles Posted at 8:18 pm on April 29, 2008 I did about four years ago, only for maybe 6 months, then I became suicidal, my friends intervened, went to therapy and the shrink grossed me out so much I determined that i'd never do it again because I didn't want to see his face and he wasn't helping me. I fooled him like the second time i went to see him. but no, my two best friends helped me out of it and I realized that if i didn't stop I'd never get the one I loved. Most recent 15 of 19 previous replies displayed.