Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Depressed Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]metrico[/m] at 2:23 pm on May 19, 2008[quote]I'd really appreciate some more input from people if that's possible....I'm really really hung up on this, It's not about dating, it's not about girls. It's about me, I can't stand myself, it's complete and hatred. Body, face, everything. It all sucks. I'll never get where I want to be, I swear it's not physically possible to do so. I want to loose 20-30 pounds, that's far too much to ask for basic working out I think..... Also, I've always hated doing weights, especially in front of other people. I can't do those. All the other machine's I'm fine with, but no barbells of any kind. I just hate how I look, some of you say I'm fine and others say " Some people like chubby boys" so that's a total indicator that I'm as bad as I think I am. Seriously, I don't know what to do, I don't think exercise will completely remedy this....[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post metrico Posted at 9:20 pm on May 13, 2008 I just really can't stand myself, no matter how hard I try I'm just not good enough in my own eyes... I think I'm gross, and I'm just depressed about it. I've been doing exercises, but they won't get me to where I'd like to be...I'm just trash, no girls would ever want a guy with a body like that. I'm gonna be going to the gym more soon, but it's just gonna be so long, and I don't want to have to feel this way anymore...

Replies xalyndx Posted at 8:53 pm on June 8, 2008 Quote: from metrico at 9:20 pm on May 13, 2008 I just really can't stand myself, no matter how hard I try I'm just not good enough in my own eyes...   http://img263.imageshack.us/img263/8550/p10100322nl3.jpg http://img232.imageshack.us/img232/5384/p10100322sm4.jpg http://img182.imageshack.us/img182/9528/p10100172ov6.jpg   I think I'm gross, and I'm just depressed about it. I've been doing exercises, but they won't get me to where I'd like to be...I'm just trash, no girls would ever want a guy with a body like that. I'm gonna be going to the gym more soon, but it's just gonna be so long, and I don't want to have to feel this way anymore... if you get confident, you'll be more active anyways. i'd rather be chubby and confident. EmilyAnn Posted at 6:19 pm on June 8, 2008 Let me add something else: your body is fine. I don't know what you're talking about. My boyfriend is a "chubby" guy but I still love him. I've been with him for two years, and with loving his personality and other wonderful traits, I am very attracted to him. Just do what you can for your body, exercise and eat right, but don't focus all of your energy on it. EmilyAnn Posted at 6:17 pm on June 8, 2008 With this attitude, you will never get a girl. You NEED to be confident. There are no special instructions on how to become confident. You almost have to force yourself to be confident, but that's part of being confident: just going ahead and doing it. metrico Posted at 2:23 pm on May 19, 2008 I'd really appreciate some more input from people if that's possible....I'm really really hung up on this, It's not about dating, it's not about girls. It's about me, I can't stand myself, it's complete and hatred. Body, face, everything. It all sucks. I'll never get where I want to be, I swear it's not physically possible to do so. I want to loose 20-30 pounds, that's far too much to ask for basic working out I think..... Also, I've always hated doing weights, especially in front of other people. I can't do those. All the other machine's I'm fine with, but no barbells of any kind. I just hate how I look, some of you say I'm fine and others say " Some people like chubby boys" so that's a total indicator that I'm as bad as I think I am. Seriously, I don't know what to do, I don't think exercise will completely remedy this.... metrico Posted at 9:17 pm on May 16, 2008 I'm not sure how to build that confidence, you guys say build it, work on it, but I don't know how, that's why I want to start an exercise routine, cause I figure if I look good, I'll feel good, right?   I just hate who I see in the mirror, I'm not good enough. Oregon503 Posted at 1:36 am on May 16, 2008 keep lifting weights, im a chunky boy but ladies still love me.. idk try and build up that confidence and you'll feel better sooner or later. go to partys and have fun. just get out a lot. get into the flow of everything. learn about things that affect people so you can hold conversation and idk theres thousands of things i could tell you to do. but if you don't want it bad enough to change then it won't. metrico Posted at 9:38 pm on May 13, 2008 idontgivea. to answer your question, I don't like my body, I don't like my appearance. I think I'm gross, unattractive, despite my family saying I'm not. I just hate myself.   My 13 year old brother is already almost my height (6'2) but is stick thin and people tell him he should be a model and it drives me crazy cause I shouldn't be jealous of him..that's silly, to be jealous like that. But then I see pictures of my parents at my age and stuff and I think they could have been models too, so I just feel really inadequate. I don't want to be "chubby". I really like the whole really thin indie hipster look, but I don't think I could ever get there.   Also, I'm not very masculine for a straight guy, an artist, and very shy and guarded/reserved (I've addressed this in other threads) and in addition to that, I think the way I feel about myself shows cause I never attract anybody, which I'd like to change I guess....and I figure getting a nice body would make me feel more confident about myself. I don't know how else to feel better bout myself.... xgodslilacidtripx Posted at 9:26 pm on May 13, 2008 some girls like chubby boys.. your just stereo typing urself but seriously more confidence thats what attracks a girl atomictastic Posted at 9:23 pm on May 13, 2008 They're right... You're not bad... Keep working and all the sexiness will come out of you xD idontgivea Posted at 9:22 pm on May 13, 2008 What dont you like about yourself? Your body? your mind? or just yourself in as a whole HxcCodie Posted at 9:22 pm on May 13, 2008 ur not that bad really Cabrio Posted at 9:22 pm on May 13, 2008 If a girl doesn't pick you because of your body type, then she isn't the girl for you anyways. Keep exercising, buddy. It will help with your self esteem, do it for yourself and not for the girls. Once you are confident with who you are, any girl would want you... they dig confidence. Stick to it, I am rooting for you. Kankalicious Posted at 9:22 pm on May 13, 2008 That's not bad. Just keep working and build some confidence! Power to the People Posted at 9:22 pm on May 13, 2008 Aesthetics are a moral imperative CaliLivin Posted at 9:22 pm on May 13, 2008 Quote: from snowcone200 at 9:21 pm on May 13, 2008 Can't expect to look like a body builder just after a few days of working out. exactly, just keep eating right and try running every other day...you'll get there, it just wont happen overnight. Most recent 15 of 18 previous replies displayed.