He and i went to elementary school and high school together, so i pretty much grew up with him.
We hadn't really talked much since high school, only occassionally over myspace or facebook..
There's a huge group of us reuniting in his memory sometime in July, so that should help all of us a bit.
But for now im just sad. And i want to know how you guys deal with grief. Maybe it'll help.
When we learn to accept reality, we know no matter what we do, nothing will change what has happened.
Cherish the memories, but move on in life. . That would be what the person would want you to do . .
When one of my close relatives passed away, it took quite a toll on us, but it really helped when we learned that the best way to get over it was to keep him in memory, but to get on with life - nothing we could ever do will bring him back . . I now keep some of hits items close to hear (well, not so cuddly things though), I have his briefcase, and his badminton raquet that I've been playign wtih all these years. It still stirs up fond memories but I no longer feel the grief of losing him . .
Time heals a lot of things. . we just gotta learn to suck it up in the meantime.
Some suggestions - maybe take a nature walk and enjoy the beauty of nature and the little things around us, it really helps to get a better perspective of life - Take note of all the little insects and life around us, and you'll feel much better.