Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic When is it cheating? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Mikoto[/m] at 3:19 pm on July 10, 2009[quote]kissing at the least[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post jsia Posted at 3:18 pm on July 10, 2009 I'm curious to know at what stage someone is cheating. I have a theory...

Replies Stormblazer Posted at 3:49 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from jsia at 4:18 pm on July 10, 2009 I'm curious to know at what stage someone is cheating. I have a theory... I'm an unusual case, so leave me out of your theory: 1. If they're lying to me about it, then even liking someone qualifies as cheating, though not nearly so severe as, say, sex. I value honesty. I don't care if you like someone else as well, I might even encourage you if I like that person too. But don't lie to me about it. 2. If you're not lying to me, but you do something reckless with another person, I consider that cheating but a far lesser form of it than anything in #1. Lying is the greatest offense, period. #2 I can almost certainly forgive. And if the whole thing is in the open and known, there's nothing to forgive in the first place. #1 is harder. I need to know I can trust someone to be honest with me, and that includes friends. How can I trust anyone, whether it's a salesman or my closest lover, if they can't be truthful? On the flipside, being honest earns my trust and respect, and hopefully vice-versa. To illustrate the above: Let's say you've got a crush on someone else, and want to get to know them better. The only way you could cause issue at this point is if you don't let me know about it or lie about it. Likewise if I did the same I would let you know. If you lie about it though, you've done damage already - any relationship should be in some part founded on honesty. If you did something reckless at this point, such has having sex without getting to know them first, but still told me I'd be a little upset but it could be worked out. Beyond that it depends on the details of the relationship. If you weren't honest with the other person it would also make it a bigger issue. Now, if you did something and then lied to me about it, reckless or not, you've just just done severe damage. This is the point at which I consider cheating as bad as most people do in normal circumstances, if not worse. Ideally, all information about what's going on should be in the open. I don't have the right to control someone else in a relationship any more than they have a right to control me, but honesty is a fair expectation to have. See Me Now Posted at 3:32 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from Slim Shady at 3:18 pm on July 10, 2009 all of that This. richteabiscuits Posted at 3:29 pm on July 10, 2009 Kissing I guess. Liking someone isn't cheating at all... yssuPevoLI Posted at 3:29 pm on July 10, 2009 any of the above is cheating jsia Posted at 3:26 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from dont notice me at 8:19 am on July 11, 2009 when you have to ask Lol it's not for my own information, see the OP, "I have a theory..." Kaijuu Posted at 3:25 pm on July 10, 2009 kissing w04hs3xy Posted at 3:24 pm on July 10, 2009 i think starting at kissing. Total Destruction Posted at 3:23 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from Mods1Blow2Me3Daily at 3:19 pm on July 10, 2009 oral given my me to a girl and fingering is fair game. intercourse i cheating Umm... what? Elizabeth1114 Posted at 3:22 pm on July 10, 2009 all the above Psycloner Posted at 3:22 pm on July 10, 2009 Definately kissing.. if it's passionate or anything other than friejndly. imo. KeiraOasis Posted at 3:22 pm on July 10, 2009 Ok. I managed to convince myself after i had cheated, that if someone kissed me and i didnt return the kiss, technically i wasnt chaeting. But it is. If your thinking about someone else sexually, desire them, its not cheating but you need to seriously question why your in a relationship with someone else. ily13107 Posted at 3:21 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from Alexia at 6:19 pm on July 10, 2009 To me it isnt cheating unless it's mental. All physical things dosent bother me. So if your boyfriend were to have sex with another guy, it wouldn't bother you? ificanscream Posted at 3:20 pm on July 10, 2009 kissing. craziredbeauty13 Posted at 3:20 pm on July 10, 2009 Quote: from dont notice me at 4:19 pm on July 10, 2009 when you have to ask i like Lindz13 Posted at 3:20 pm on July 10, 2009 well to me its physical and emotional... Most recent 15 of 23 previous replies displayed.