Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic is it sexual harassment Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]joule[/m] at 6:33 am on May 15, 2012[quote]Quote: from [m]8086[/m] at 6:19 am on May 15, 2012[quote]Quote: from [m]joule[/m] at 2:15 pm on May 15, 2012[quote]Quote: from [m]8086[/m] at 5:39 am on May 15, 2012[quote]Quote: from [m]joule[/m] at 1:37 pm on May 15, 2012[quote]Quote: from [m]8086[/m] at 5:02 am on May 15, 2012[quote]@joule   It seems you need to hop off your high horse:   Quote: from [m]joule[/m] at 7:35 am on May 15, 2012[quote]It sounds like he has a crush on you and is teasing you.  don't make a big thing of it.       If it gets physical, he's crossed the line.       [/quote] :facepalm: [/quote]     Way to take my words way out of context.  In fact, in this out of context quotation, you've basically lied.  How unfortunate if that's the only way you can make a point.[/quote]   How is it out of context? Maybe I should have quoted the whole post, including the part where you tell her it could be her own fault for wearing revealing clothes? :facepalm:   In fact, you know what, here it is.   Quote: from [m]joule[/m] at 7:35 am on May 15, 2012[quote]It sounds like he has a crush on you and is teasing you.  don't make a big thing of it.   If it gets physical, he's crossed the line.   Rather than deciding whether or not this constitutes sexual harassment, which in and of itself is of no value, why not have some integrity and tell him straight out you don't like the comments he makes to you about sex and you don't want it to continue.   btw, if you wear clothes which exposes more than you'd like when you do something as common as pick up something, don't wear those clothes.   [/quote]   This was your first reply in this thread, there is no way it could be taken out of context. And lies? How in the hell does a direct quote turn into lies? Do you claim you didn't say these things?[/quote]    No, the lie is in taking it out of context.  And for something to be taken out of contex doesn't require multiple posts.    You claim I'm on my "high horse" by pointing out he may just have a crush on her, but that if it becomes physical, he's crossed a line.  Your "lie" is in conveniently omitting the part where I implicitly express an understanding of her discomfort and offer advice on how to address the issue.  By considering that part, your characterization of me as being on a "high horse" (actually I don't think that's the right term anyhow) is moot.    Thus, omission of it constitutes a lie.[/quote] No, your being on a high horse was because you are having a dig at Spice when you said the same thing at first.   [quote] If it gets physical, he's crossed the line. [/quote] Your advice and understanding is irrelevant but I even quoted the whole post for you later on, it's still the same thing. No lies. Next time get your opinion straight before you begin and you won't look like a hypocrite later on. [/quote] way to miss the point. The lie is in the omission of parts which would make your claim of my being on a "high horse" moot.  Get it?  Do you understand the concepts of context and lies of omission?  No, I didn't think so. Nothing I said in this post is hypocritical.  And my opinion is perfectly consistant.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post sexygirl3 Posted at 11:14 pm on May 14, 2012 this guy in spanish tells me i want to have intercourse with him but i don't. and he said he was going to buy me and kill me by choking on his "male anatomy." does it sound like harassment?

Replies sexygirl3 Posted at 8:20 pm on May 28, 2012 okay the problems resolved. I'm dating him. ChemicEmotions Posted at 9:35 pm on May 22, 2012 I'd like to point out to everybody here that no, you don't need to be physically touched for it to be sexual harassment. Not saying I'm a professional in this area, but I have done studies/extensive research about sexual harassment in the workplace/school, and all research suggests any verbal confrontation that makes somebody feel uncomfortable in a sexual way = sexual harassment. (In one of many articles I read, a boss of a woman was told in front of all of her male co-workers to "Shut up and suck my dick and then maybe you will get a promotion." They used this as an example of sexual harassment.) This, of course, can be argued, because people are so offended nowadays by everything. But honestly I don't see how hard it is to keep your mouth shut about certain things in the professional world I'm not one of those people who advocates the stripping of freedom of speech, but there IS a time and place for everything, and for the OP, whether people agree with it or not, what that person did is the definition of sexual harassment. I also thought it was a troll topic anyway, so I don't get why we have six pages of debate for it. peaches77 Posted at 8:17 pm on May 22, 2012 id say its pretty rude but maybe cultural differences play a part in how offensive it is. Xenafor Posted at 9:37 am on May 22, 2012 Quote: from YarbDog at 9:01 pm on May 20, 2012 I wish that people would seriously just give themselves a good hard look in the mirror. jesus. Yall keep this up and ill be turning in to that novice who makes those crazy, acid trip posts like <3 <3<3<3<3<3<3 i love you all but you have to some times find peace within before making peace with others i love you all :'( :'D :) :):):):):) love   sigh   done i might not have known how true that is to my life until two days ago...or maybe its that it became true, and now i havent been saying i love you or darling to anyone....and that happened thru life and i understand, and i agree :( 8086 Posted at 3:21 am on May 21, 2012 I'm not sure exactly what you think you mean when you say "outed". That would indicate that we have something to hide... And, if anyone did any "outing" that would be Sour, not Spice. I'm not 35, morons. And Spice isn't 21, either. And even if we were those ages, it wouldn't actually matter, you're just demonstrating how you like to sensationalise things and make them appear to be something when you have absolutely no idea about pretty much anything, really. Well done Yarbdog for posting your shit in this thread, after sending it to me via PM and on my whiteboard and getting rejected, I guess you really do feel your opinion is important, lolol. I find your post pretty funny, actually. I'm not out to impress, as I told you in PM, and I am not concerned about looking like a dick. I only aim to speak the truth, and given the information I had, the truth was that you couldn't legitimately call this sexual harassment. I am sure that you and joule only see one person involved here, but there are two people, and any action is going to affect both, so it's important to take your emotional hat off, and put your thinking hat on. joule Posted at 9:07 pm on May 20, 2012 good post. btw, jiggly puff girl "outed" the two of them in a public thread ?yesterday.  I would never have disclosed information to which I was privy in some confidential capacity. YarbDog Posted at 9:01 pm on May 20, 2012 well since this thread is now a shit show on wheels I will go ahead and post. ONE- technically it is sexual harassment. TWO- could you get him in legal trouble? idk and who the hell cares, cause that is, in my opinion, not your best course of action. talk to him, move seats, tell an adult, idk. THREE- i want to address certain members and how everyone is acting on here. holy shit. bunny picture guy. Please stop nitpicking what people say and arguing. I argued with you the other day about something. I've made it my goal recently to argue as little as possible. I will express my opinion still, but I am desperately trying to avoid the senseless arguing like what is happening in this thread. Bunny picture guy, once someone is intelligent to a certain point, he can argue anything really. If youre a decently smart high school or college kid then youre probably smart enough to take almost anything that any one says and argue it. Congratulations. And sure, your arguments may hold water, and make total sense....but when it comes down to it, you have to take a step back and say "I may be making logical sense...but am i being a dick?" I will be the first to admit to this happening. joule was handling the situation fine and there was no reason to continue to harass him with arguing. It did not really impress anyone because lots of us can make an argument from nothing. It just made you look like a dick. I can tell youre smart, and I often like how you say things...im just trying to help, cause arguing isnt that fun. thanks JOULE... i agree with what you said earlier in this topic. People were saying irresponsible things and I am glad you felt the need to jump in. On the other hand, im not sure fighting with bunny picture guy for so long was productive, and calling him and jiggly puff girl out was borderline inappropriate. I wish that people would seriously just give themselves a good hard look in the mirror. jesus. Yall keep this up and ill be turning in to that novice who makes those crazy, acid trip posts like <3 <3<3<3<3<3<3 i love you all but you have to some times find peace within before making peace with others i love you all :'( :'D :) :):):):):) love sigh done 8086 Posted at 4:49 pm on May 20, 2012 Quote: from joule at 12:42 am on May 21, 2012 Quote: from 8086 at 6:03 am on May 20, 2012 Quote: from Xenafor at 3:33 am on May 20, 2012 I'm sorry I got so fiery earlier everybody - i was very scared and worried for the situation and tense I think before that....I didn't mean to say you were being petty and say anything hurtful...I just wanted to make sure this girl is okay...     I love you...:'( I'm sorry dears <3 Don't worry about it, both joule and I are indeed being quite petty right now. You needn't apologise.   Speak for yourself.   And now I understand your foolish behavior in this thread.     YOU'RE 35 YEARS OLD, stalking a website for teens and young adults.   I don't know what you do for a living, but if you lack the understanding you're expressed here, both about sexual harassment and critical thinking, you must be a very undesireable employee, indeed.  Then again, maybe you're unemployed and living off the government.   What exactly does a 35 year old get out of basically trolling this site?   I know also know why you're soooo protective of Spice.  At 35, you're boning the 21 year old.  Must make you feel good, right?  And you have to show her how much of a man you are by standing up for her, even when she's wrong.  That doesn't look good for her.  She's made it clear she doesn't care for me, but even I can't imagine she can't do better than you. Quote: from joule at 12:47 am on May 21, 2012 Quote: from ok 2b myself at 7:08 am on May 20, 2012 Quote: from Spice at 2:58 am on May 15, 2012 Quote: from EvilTwig at 7:36 am on May 15, 2012 Have you asked him to stop?   It's also in no way sexual harassment unless it's partnered with touching you. It's more things that are just making you uncomfortable Harassment is verbal. You're thinking of sexual ASSAULT. For the OP: not only is it sexual harassment, he's threatening you. He can get into huge trouble for that if what you're saying is true.   You're absolutely right, but be aware: 8086, a 35 year old troll on this site will attack your valid post with foolishness in defense of the girl giving him sex, Spice. None the less, you're position is absolutely correct. Actually you have both our ages wrong. Quoting before you have a chance to edit when you realise I'm actually 22, and so everyone else can see your true colours. And you have the nerve to be so petty and stupid, after saying "speak for yourself". Ahahaha. joule Posted at 4:47 pm on May 20, 2012 Quote: from ok 2b myself at 7:08 am on May 20, 2012 Quote: from Spice at 2:58 am on May 15, 2012 Quote: from EvilTwig at 7:36 am on May 15, 2012 Have you asked him to stop?    It's also in no way sexual harassment unless it's partnered with touching you. It's more things that are just making you uncomfortable Harassment is verbal. You're thinking of sexual ASSAULT. For the OP: not only is it sexual harassment, he's threatening you. He can get into huge trouble for that if what you're saying is true. You're absolutely right, but be aware:  8086, a 35 year old troll on this site will attack your valid post with foolishness in defense of the girl giving him sex, Spice. None the less, you're position is absolutely correct. joule Posted at 4:42 pm on May 20, 2012 Quote: from 8086 at 6:03 am on May 20, 2012 Quote: from Xenafor at 3:33 am on May 20, 2012 I'm sorry I got so fiery earlier everybody - i was very scared and worried for the situation and tense I think before that....I didn't mean to say you were being petty and say anything hurtful...I just wanted to make sure this girl is okay...    I love you...:'( I'm sorry dears <3 Don't worry about it, both joule and I are indeed being quite petty right now. You needn't apologise. Speak for yourself. And now I understand your foolish behavior in this thread.   YOU'RE 35 YEARS OLD, stalking a website for teens and young adults.   I don't know what you do for a living, but if you lack the understanding you're expressed here, both about sexual harassment and critical thinking, you must be a very undesireable employee, indeed.  Then again, maybe you're unemployed and living off the government. What exactly does a 35 year old get out of basically trolling this site? I know also know why you're soooo protective of Spice.  At 35, you're boning the 21 year old.  Must make you feel good, right?  And you have to show her how much of a man you are by standing up for her, even when she's wrong.  That doesn't look good for her.  She's made it clear she doesn't care for me, but even I can't imagine she can't do better than you. lostsoul305 Posted at 4:15 pm on May 20, 2012 have u told him you're not interested? ok 2b myself Posted at 7:08 am on May 20, 2012 Quote: from Spice at 2:58 am on May 15, 2012 Quote: from EvilTwig at 7:36 am on May 15, 2012 Have you asked him to stop? It's also in no way sexual harassment unless it's partnered with touching you. It's more things that are just making you uncomfortable Harassment is verbal. You're thinking of sexual ASSAULT. For the OP: not only is it sexual harassment, he's threatening you. He can get into huge trouble for that if what you're saying is true. 8086 Posted at 6:03 am on May 20, 2012 Quote: from Xenafor at 3:33 am on May 20, 2012 I'm sorry I got so fiery earlier everybody - i was very scared and worried for the situation and tense I think before that....I didn't mean to say you were being petty and say anything hurtful...I just wanted to make sure this girl is okay... I love you...:'( I'm sorry dears <3 Don't worry about it, both joule and I are indeed being quite petty right now. You needn't apologise. Xenafor Posted at 7:33 pm on May 19, 2012 I'm sorry I got so fiery earlier everybody - i was very scared and worried for the situation and tense I think before that....I didn't mean to say you were being petty and say anything hurtful...I just wanted to make sure this girl is okay... I love you...:'( I'm sorry dears <3 8086 Posted at 4:12 pm on May 19, 2012 Quote: from joule at 12:03 am on May 20, 2012 Quote: from 8086 at 3:59 pm on May 19, 2012 Quote: from joule at 11:52 pm on May 19, 2012 Is your chivalrous defense of Spice really worth losing all your credibility over?    I haven't actually been arguing for her for several posts now. It was only really the point about you saying the exact same thing she said and showing yourself to be a hypocrite that was in defense of her, the rest was all separate. your claim that my comment about her, combined with your reasoning above, makes it clear you seriously lack critical reasoning skills. But that's ok. You'll come up with some meaningless response You are not considering that one who does not posess critical thinking skills may quite easily accuse the other of not posessing said skills. So what is your meaningless response to this? Most recent 15 of 84 previous replies displayed.