Basically my ex, let's call her H, well she's been hinting, saying really, that she wants us to have sex. The issue is that she still has feelings for me, that's pretty clear. We ended a month or so ago after a 6 month thing, with her interested in me for a good 6 months before that.
We ended though, because she cheated on me, sort of. She didn't have sex with anyone else, but she got off with another guy and essentially said she wanted to be with him. Crash, bangm everything over. About a week later she started texting me saying what a horrible mistake she made.
Now, this week rolls around, and she started telling me how she missed being in my bed, lieing her head on my chest, blah blah. Anyway, the things she missed got more explicit, and through a chat she essentially said that even if we couldn;t be back together she wanted us to be 'together' in that way.
So here's my issue. I have some residual feelings for her, but they're not major. She clearly still has quite strong feelings for me. So though I know I'm fine with that, I'm sure she's hoping we'll develop into something more. So I should say no right? But then, she was one of the best lays I've ever had, also, she hurt me before, so I feel less obliged. Aaand finally, I'll be moving away to Uni in a month and a half aswell.
So, LW. Yes or No? I need some opinions here. Because it's been a 3 week drought, with no other end in sight and I'm worried my judgement will become impaired pretty damn soon.
She knows the situation, if she is going to get herself too emotionally and attached to your dick that's her own fucking fault, and all the more deserved.
What has probably happened....is that her guy that she left you for wasn't all rainbows and unicorns that she thought he was and she misses you. That, I don't doubt. I bet she does miss you. Because I bet you are a really nice guy. But she still left you and hurt you. Don't have sex with her. Keep your chin up and say no. By doing that, it shows her that you have your own backbone and that you are your own person.
Edit: Not to mention, if you have sex with her...
1. She will most likely want to stay together afterwards.
2. With you thinking its just sex, she may think that as well, but there is DEFINITELY an ulterior motive to what she is doing. So when you go see another girl afterwards, she will get jealous and all hell will break loose.
To be honest, I think I am ok with that. I've made the situation clear, and she's the one that ruined the past relationship. So, yeah, I think what I'm doing isn't so bad. B)
Then go for it.
Well since your going to move, I guess afterwards, around the time she expects it to become something more, it won't be a problem. Practically speaking. Morally speaking, are you comfortable leaving her knowing that she has feelings for you and will want more? As far as morals, it's up to you.
Morally speaking, are you comfortable leaving her knowing that she has feelings for you and will want more? As far as morals, it's up to you.