Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic drinking, fighting, fucking, etc. Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]ElephantStone[/m] at 5:23 am on June 29, 2008[quote]So around a year ago I had a great time. I was 17 and I took immense pleasure in getting drunk, chatting up girls, fighting and trying to get in the nightclubs. I wasn't a bad guy and I felt popular. I was a pretty nice, reasonable guy and my way of chatting up was just talking and dancing and actually being nice to the girls. I didn't see age gaps as a problem and in one weekend at 17 I pulled a 19 year old, a 24 year old and a 21 year old. I wasn't the least bit self-conscious and was very confident in myself. So now, I realised after last night, where I stayed sober in a nightclub. Ive lost so much of what I had. I got some back when I just didn't give a fuck about what people thought when I tried desperately to talk to Catherine. But last night I was watching a girl on the dancfloor, about 23, she was brunette, short and knew she was hot. I wanted to go out and try a dance with her. But I didn't, I didn't want to come across as a creep. I don't want girls to think I'm one of those perves looking for a cheap fuck in the clubs. And I wont be able to brush that off if I I get that kind of reaction. I knew that if I had 4 or 5 drinks in me Id of gone up and tried a dance with her. But a year ago Id have done it sober.. Also this guy was trying a fight with me, and I was all set to deck him outside, but I just didn't even bother looking for him afterwards, which annoyed me. I didn't want to fight, I was almost...afraid. So how do I go back to the way I was? How do I just lose the fear of coming across as a creep and go back to thinking these girls WANT me to dance with them and chat them up?[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post ElephantStone Posted at 5:23 am on June 29, 2008 So around a year ago I had a great time. I was 17 and I took immense pleasure in getting drunk, chatting up girls, fighting and trying to get in the nightclubs. I wasn't a bad guy and I felt popular. I was a pretty nice, reasonable guy and my way of chatting up was just talking and dancing and actually being nice to the girls. I didn't see age gaps as a problem and in one weekend at 17 I pulled a 19 year old, a 24 year old and a 21 year old. I wasn't the least bit self-conscious and was very confident in myself. So now, I realised after last night, where I stayed sober in a nightclub. Ive lost so much of what I had. I got some back when I just didn't give a fuck about what people thought when I tried desperately to talk to Catherine. But last night I was watching a girl on the dancfloor, about 23, she was brunette, short and knew she was hot. I wanted to go out and try a dance with her. But I didn't, I didn't want to come across as a creep. I don't want girls to think I'm one of those perves looking for a cheap fuck in the clubs. And I wont be able to brush that off if I I get that kind of reaction. I knew that if I had 4 or 5 drinks in me Id of gone up and tried a dance with her. But a year ago Id have done it sober.. Also this guy was trying a fight with me, and I was all set to deck him outside, but I just didn't even bother looking for him afterwards, which annoyed me. I didn't want to fight, I was almost...afraid. So how do I go back to the way I was? How do I just lose the fear of coming across as a creep and go back to thinking these girls WANT me to dance with them and chat them up?

Replies Corrupted Innocence Posted at 3:01 pm on June 29, 2008 Right one thing you said about not being able to go up to a girl and ask her to dance in fear of being a creep. I think this might be because of past rejection, it has shot you down and not made you feel as comfortable to approach girls. I'm glad to hear you didn't drink as that is a good thing! You need confidence again with the girls and is has to be the real kind, not that from the bottom of a bottle. Slowly building it up will take time however I'm sure that you can do it because like I've said to you before you have a natural charm so you shouldn't think you are acting like a creep. Building up confidence again with the girls is just taking a risk and a chance to talk to them. Also if you aren't drunk or tipsy they might be able to tell that what you are doing isn't a creepish act. It shows you have taken your own courage *not dutch courage* to approach them, which will mean you are valued more. Also the thing about fighting that is good however you shouldn't be afraid as you know you can stand your own ground IF and i mean IF you need to. Don't go looking for fights it only causes yourself more trouble then it's worth. bamuha Posted at 5:55 am on June 29, 2008 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations Keego05 Posted at 5:28 am on June 29, 2008 You've realized your mortality. Always happens, but most people it's there early-20's. It's a bummer. You'll just have to suck it up until you develop the confidence and character to do that stuff. hadouken Posted at 5:26 am on June 29, 2008 maybe it was a one time thing or you have different priorities than you did back then All 4 previous replies displayed.