Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Should I call the cops? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]sarunghay[/m] at 3:02 pm on Nov. 17, 2008[quote]I'm 16 and live in Pennsylvania and recently lost my best friend, who is also 16, when he got a girlfriend who's parents smoke pot with them.  He has lost all of his real friends and his mother has given up.  I have to ld his mom and his closest friends and we all think something bad is going to happen to him.  I want to turn him into the police but am not sure whether they will even do anything about it.  Should I call? What should I say? It's only my business because he calls me high, I've gotten in trouble cause he'll call my house when hes high and my mom will pick up.  He called me this passed friday asking me if i could lend him money or get someone to buy weed from him.  He's involving me.  He started going off on me and wanted his gf to fight me.  He's the kind of person who will do anything to get attention.  I'm scared for my well being.  I don't wanna rat him out but how else is he gonna stop.  I have talked to him and he says he doesn't care if he has no friends and if his parents kick him out he's messed up and is bringing it into my life.  I have tried everything I can think of and he just tells me im stupid...we used to be best friends and then we went out for 2.5 months...i ended it and we were best friends again.  We used to do eveything together and we saw eachother almost everyday, we told eachother everything and yes he has always smoked and ive smoked with him a few times but only occasionally, he let's it consume his life and then tries to bring it into mine.  I am not jealous at all of his new girlfriend but I feel like hes just using me as a replacement for when he has no one else to talk to.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post sarunghay Posted at 3:02 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 I'm 16 and live in Pennsylvania and recently lost my best friend, who is also 16, when he got a girlfriend who's parents smoke pot with them.  He has lost all of his real friends and his mother has given up.  I have to ld his mom and his closest friends and we all think something bad is going to happen to him.  I want to turn him into the police but am not sure whether they will even do anything about it.  Should I call? What should I say? It's only my business because he calls me high, I've gotten in trouble cause he'll call my house when hes high and my mom will pick up.  He called me this passed friday asking me if i could lend him money or get someone to buy weed from him.  He's involving me.  He started going off on me and wanted his gf to fight me.  He's the kind of person who will do anything to get attention.  I'm scared for my well being.  I don't wanna rat him out but how else is he gonna stop.  I have talked to him and he says he doesn't care if he has no friends and if his parents kick him out he's messed up and is bringing it into my life.  I have tried everything I can think of and he just tells me im stupid...we used to be best friends and then we went out for 2.5 months...i ended it and we were best friends again.  We used to do eveything together and we saw eachother almost everyday, we told eachother everything and yes he has always smoked and ive smoked with him a few times but only occasionally, he let's it consume his life and then tries to bring it into mine.  I am not jealous at all of his new girlfriend but I feel like hes just using me as a replacement for when he has no one else to talk to.

Replies Afu Posted at 6:15 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 It sounds like thers nothin wrong with yur 'friend' if he wanted friends, he wouldve kept them, if he had a problem, he would BE a problem. It sounds like the only problem is how you see him aysel star Posted at 4:35 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 He can't lose his life to weed. Weed just isn't that strong. Elephantis Posted at 10:12 am on Nov. 18, 2008 you're really stupid if you call the cops. you're going to be ruining his life instead of the weed. MushroomSatsujin Posted at 10:10 am on Nov. 18, 2008 For weed? Seriously? No just no. If anything, talk to him. The cops will do nothing but ruin his life, and all those around him. i r sekz Posted at 10:06 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Quote: from Event Horizon at 9:05 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Calling the cops on him will ruin his life, his girlfriends life, and the lives of her parents [assuming you tell the whole story, that is]. If they had a meth lab going on in her parents' basement, sure, snitch. But when the kid finds a girlfriend and starts to spend more time with her than his other friends, and smokes with her and her rents to chill out and have some fun, I say leave him be. Or talk to him about it. Calling the cops will do the following: 1) create money problems for your 'friend' 2) create legal problems for your 'friend' 3) create animosity between you and your 'friend' 4) create social services problems for your friends girlfriends parents it will NOT: 1) make your friend realize his "mistakes" 2) make your friend hang out with you more 3) stop your friend from smoking a harmless drug THIS! hokie Posted at 8:17 am on Nov. 18, 2008 From the way you've described your "friend," whom I haven't seen any mutual relationship properties between you and him to actually call him that, it seems that the way he acts on pot is his personality. Period. Marijuana or not won't be the difference between him losing all his friends or going to church and giving money to charity. In other words, calling the cops on him will do absolutely nothing besides screw things up even more for him. And considering his "bad-a" personality, I really don't think he can afford things being any messed up than they already might be. If you're really a "Friend," then you'll continue talking to him and try to reason with him, or else just break off any relationship with him at all, considering he's not really being a "friend" back to you. But if you sincerely care about this guy, you'll keep trying to reason with him to the end. What is calling the cops gonna do that will benefit the situation? SexxxayParty Posted at 6:38 am on Nov. 18, 2008 no dont call palepalepeach Posted at 5:21 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Don't call.  Talk to him about it, or to his mom or his other friends about it, but don't involve the authorities like that.  That's really serious.   sykexl Posted at 1:08 am on Nov. 18, 2008 People with drug problems need help and counseling, not a small room behind bars. Doesn't mean he'd be arrested if you got the cops involved but I think you get my point. Poker Shark Posted at 12:57 am on Nov. 18, 2008 Calling the police won't do anybody any good. live it up Posted at 12:54 am on Nov. 18, 2008 sounds like you dont quite understand marijuana, and hes not helping you understand it.. and hes one of those stupid kids that give us stoners a bad name... im sorry but your friend just seems like an idiot nd you shud just stop hanging out with him. dont be a snitch tho... just mind ur own business.. Xusk Posted at 9:59 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Do you want his life to actually be ruined or not? I'd hope the answer would be no, meaning no cops. Now what's so bad about him getting high? Maybe it's not affecting his life  at all, instead maybe people are just being selfish and ignorant. Without details, this is what i'd assume since i've seen it before. The only problem in the end was they were happy and the people around them didn't like this. After more reading, sounds like you need more/better friends. He's involving you because you allow it. The Artful Dodger Posted at 8:45 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 do not call d popos on im. den hes fucked in more ways than one. Event Horizon Posted at 6:19 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 Quote: from sharongmc at 9:16 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 I think you should really let the authorities know before more people gets endangered. . . please. shut the f**k up... erg... you made me change the page-----> Quoting myself Calling the cops on him will ruin his life, his girlfriends life, and the lives of her parents [assuming you tell the whole story, that is]. If they had a meth lab going on in her parents' basement, sure, snitch. But when the kid finds a girlfriend and starts to spend more time with her than his other friends, and smokes with her and her rents to chill out and have some fun, I say leave him be. Or talk to him about it. Calling the cops will do the following: 1) create money problems for your 'friend' 2) create legal problems for your 'friend' 3) create animosity between you and your 'friend' 4) create social services problems for your friends girlfriends parents it will NOT: 1) make your friend realize his "mistakes" 2) make your friend hang out with you more 3) stop your friend from smoking a harmless drug sharongmc Posted at 6:16 pm on Nov. 17, 2008 I think you should really let the authorities know before more people gets endangered. . . Most recent 15 of 28 previous replies displayed.