Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic You know what my dad said to me today? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]snowfish[/m] at 7:23 pm on Jan. 2, 2009[quote]my parents are really worried that I'll be an alcoholic because I had some really severe problems wiht alcohol when I was younger (about 6 years ago). After they had to pick me up from the EMTs pumping my stomach, it's been a very VERY tricky relationship between us regarding drinking. I have four violently alcoholic grandparents so my parents hate pretty much all drinking. But now that I'm 20 they let me drink at home and accept that I drink with friends. They still flip out every once in a while though. Like for new years I told them that I drank beer and champagne and they said they didn't believe me and that I was probably drinking tons of hard A. I was being honest with them, I just didn't mention the mdma and marijuana. eh, I just want to be able to have an open relationship with them. It's just hard to transition from being a child to an adult in their eyes, especially with our history. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post KKKay Posted at 7:17 pm on Jan. 2, 2009 I went out by him and I was like yeah can I have a drink since its Friday? And hes like I guess. So I made my drink, well two actually, but he was like I think I turned you into a little alcoholic. I know its true. Its just weird hearing that from my dad...But then he lets me drink anyways. I know its not his fault, I'm not blaming him. But it would be nice if he just didn't let me drink at all, I wouldn't even be in this mess if he didn't let me drink every night like it was nothing. I know its my choice to drink or not but sometimes I just feel so depressed and bored and I don't know what else to do with myself. It'll be nice if someone could understand what I'm saying or what I mean, and if you don't, then you just don't.

Replies Xusk Posted at 3:42 am on Jan. 3, 2009 So you can't be responsible and need someone else to hold you back?   There's a big lesson to be learn here, yes he may allow you to drink, but at some point he will not have control in the first place(as if he does now...) which if he did not allow you to drink at home responsibly when your younger then who knows, maybe then at some point you would feel the need to be on the street driving home and killing a family because of the fear of getting in trouble by your parents. (Even worse? Death) When I was growing up, my parents pretty much did not care if I drank as long as it was at home (but I have two older brothers so they have been there and done that with them and learned it's going to be inevitable.) which really does not matter in the end since growing up you already learn this. You basically have to take responsibly and as far as im concerned, being 18(considered as a adult) or being 21 or younger, you know whats right and wrong. You have to learn that getting high, is a treat and it should NOT be abused. *Also^, in this day and age, parents are still dumb on the matter and/or not. Marijuana is illegal while Alcohol is legal. Marijuana is pretty much as safe as a drug can get while Alcohol is far from it, but in the end Alcohol is still legal. All that can be done in this situation is understanding, while you may never convince your ignornat parents, the least you can do is be intelligent on the subject. KKKay Posted at 7:25 pm on Jan. 2, 2009 Quote: from SpM at 7:22 pm on Jan. 2, 2009 I understand resentment towards one's parents for not preventing you from fucking up. The fact that it's ultimately your responsibility doesn't change the feeling that it is their job to be your safety net, and that they should have tried harder and cared more. Which is fine in itself, but it can lead to a bitter little game in which you push yourself to even worse extremes, just to test whether or not they'll finally step in. And that doesn't end well. My dad does care if I do other shit. Hes such a hypocrite, He'll get pissed at me for smoking weed but he lets me drink. What the fuck kind of shit is that. Yeah I know what you mean. But...I'm just pissed because I can't even go a day without drinking now because its so fucking hard. xxpsychoxx285xx Posted at 7:24 pm on Jan. 2, 2009 wow, that sucks. mentos13 Posted at 7:24 pm on Jan. 2, 2009 um my dad he will let me drink wine and drinks like that but my mom she is like are you crazy ... snowfish Posted at 7:23 pm on Jan. 2, 2009 my parents are really worried that I'll be an alcoholic because I had some really severe problems wiht alcohol when I was younger (about 6 years ago). After they had to pick me up from the EMTs pumping my stomach, it's been a very VERY tricky relationship between us regarding drinking. I have four violently alcoholic grandparents so my parents hate pretty much all drinking. But now that I'm 20 they let me drink at home and accept that I drink with friends. They still flip out every once in a while though. Like for new years I told them that I drank beer and champagne and they said they didn't believe me and that I was probably drinking tons of hard A. I was being honest with them, I just didn't mention the mdma and marijuana. eh, I just want to be able to have an open relationship with them. It's just hard to transition from being a child to an adult in their eyes, especially with our history. SpM Posted at 7:22 pm on Jan. 2, 2009 I understand resentment towards one's parents for not preventing you from fucking up. The fact that it's ultimately your responsibility doesn't change the feeling that it is their job to be your safety net, and that they should have tried harder and cared more. Which is fine in itself, but it can lead to a bitter little game in which you push yourself to even worse extremes, just to test whether or not they'll finally step in. And that doesn't end well. Zukoves Posted at 7:19 pm on Jan. 2, 2009 lol yeah my dad like that to Slipknot2 Posted at 7:19 pm on Jan. 2, 2009 yeh my dads that same actually he always calls me a piss head, even after 1 All 8 previous replies displayed.