Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Boyfriend going into the Army Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]reev[/m] at 4:07 pm on Jan. 11, 2009[quote]that sucks :([/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post rainey Posted at 4:07 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 My boyfriend of two and a half years has decided that instead of going to college or tech school like he originally planned he wants to go join up. I want to support him but I'm afraid of how it will change him and us. If anyone has boyfriends or girlfriends in the service I would really apprieciate it if you would PM me. I would love to hear your experiences and advice. Thanks

Replies medjai Posted at 11:22 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Every guy I've known that had their girl leave them believed fully that his relationship with her was strong enough to survive the military, these are married couples, or couples who've been together for more than a year, or couples with a kid on the way. If he joins the air force though that's completely different, they are basically civilians with uniforms, and the odds of them dying are extremely low in comparison to a grunt in the army or the marines. He won't be a pilot if he joins the air force without a degree, and even then, he probably won't be a pilot, as it's competitive, so you don't have to worry about that. It's stupid to enter the army or marines in any kind of field job like rifleman if you want to nurture a relationship, it's basically saying your relationship and being close to the person you love is not important to you, because that's what the lifestyle is. I mean do you really want to see him for seven months but even that is limited, and then not see him at all for seven months, over and over again for four years? If the relationship is important to him he should not be doing this. Helios Posted at 9:46 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 If you have a strong enough relationship you should be able to survive this? Do you plan on going to college when he leaves or do you plan to go with him? Either way long distance relationships are hard work and you should think long and hard if you want to be tied down at such a young age. Soul Sista Posted at 8:47 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 My boyfriend wants to go into the Air Force. I'm very nervous about it, as I know that there is the chance that even though he isn't going into the Army, he may still end up involved in the war. You just have to believe that he will be okay wherever they send him. It will be hard to be away from him for long periods of time but that's what comes with being a Army Girlfriend. He'll be gone for 8 weeks for Basic Training, that's when you'll get your first taste of Army Life. Talk to him about how you feel. If you really want to be with him and he really wants to be with you, I'm sure you two can come up with some sort of compromise. medjai Posted at 8:18 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from whoisabs at 5:50 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 All of our folks in uniform should be so lucky to have their loved ones run out on them. If he joins as a reservist the problem is less significant, but yes women usually can't handle and leave their men or cheaton their men. whoisabs Posted at 5:50 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 All of our folks in uniform should be so lucky to have their loved ones run out on them. medjai Posted at 4:12 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Trust me that shit will fuck up your relationship hardcore. I would know first hand. It's extraordinarily difficult to maintain a relationship through an enlisted military career, especially as a junior enlisted, which he will be until after his first deployment, and if your relationship somehow survived until he got deployed, have fun keeping it alive while he's gone for seven months and you're worrying about him dying every day of it and he's not allowed to tell you where he is or what's happening. Fun shit. hithere Posted at 4:10 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from applecore91 at 4:09 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from reev at 4:07 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 that sucks :( Why does it suck that he wants to serve his counry? maybe he meant it sucks that I'm afraid applecore91 Posted at 4:09 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from reev at 4:07 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 that sucks :( Why does it suck that he wants to serve his counry? stuffydays Posted at 4:08 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 i always told my boyfriend that the army would be the one thing i would not be able to support him for. ANYTHING but that, if he got in trouble with the law, i'd be there for him, if he switched career paths, or even lost his, i'd be there for him. but the army, no way. I couldn't handle the stress. I'd leave him. denizliliturk Posted at 4:08 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 woooohoooooo whos going to bang you anymore   ill try to help if you want to reev Posted at 4:07 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 that sucks :( All 11 previous replies displayed.