Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic how would it make you feel if another man carried my bags? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]MooMooMilk[/m] at 4:35 pm on Aug. 8, 2012[quote]Sounds like a bitch. The fact is, women want equality, so if you ask me, they can (literally) carry their own weight.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post lollerwhat Posted at 3:49 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 so this girl swears up and down that she doesn't want a relationship with me now or ever i'm just kinda :\ about it, but it is kinda whatever in the long run still, while she swears that i'm not her boyfriend, she will try to shame me with stuff that only works on a 'boyfriend' like the other day we were packing up to go home from a few day vacation and i was like hey get your stuff downstairs and i'll have the car pulled up to the front office she was all zomg so you aren't going to carry my stuff for me (it was pretty light anyways) so i'll just go find some real man in the hotel to do it for me i was just lolling to myself, i mean why would i care if another man carried your bag? i ended up just saying fuck it and took her bag with me so i didn't have to hear anymore bitching about the matter (i'm sure it would have lasted most of the 3 hr drive home), but really what's the point of shaming tactics on 'just a friend'?

Replies lollerwhat Posted at 4:56 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 Meh, in a few weeks she is moving and I go back to work. I won't be so bored once I get back to work, then I'll be back to being like most of my friends (too tired to really do much other than party it up on the weekends) and not feeling as shitty. polio Posted at 4:47 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 idk why you make excuses for her. not to mention it seems like you're just doing it because otherwise you're alone, and that's pretty lamo imo. at any rate if you do hang out with her despite all the shit she pulls because you have noone else then you really have no right to complain about her behaviour. lollerwhat Posted at 4:41 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 part of it is that I feel really bad about the shit pile her life has recently turned into, part of it is that we have a fair amount of shared hobbies (especially nerdy ones), part of it is every few years i try to actually try to get a gf, part of it is that i want to help give her bestie a little bit of a break, part of it is because i know she isn't really this fucked up and it is in large part a result of all the stress related to the divorce and being homeless, and part of it is that most of my friends now have jobs and kids to where it gets hard to hang out with them and while her life is currently in the shitter i have someone that i can call almost 24/7 to just keep me company.  though she's leaving pretty soon so i'm about to be back to being bored and alone more often than not. MooMooMilk Posted at 4:35 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 Sounds like a bitch. The fact is, women want equality, so if you ask me, they can (literally) carry their own weight. polio Posted at 4:28 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 Quote: from Jim Raynor at 12:26 am on Aug. 9, 2012 So why are you friends with this bitch? obs looking to get his dick wet Jim Raynor Posted at 4:26 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 So why are you friends with this bitch? I didn't think Abs had an ounce of chivalry in his body. 010 Posted at 4:16 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 I don't think you shoulda really done that so easy man If it really required helping then yeah or even "you carry one an I carry one" sorta thing 1i Posted at 4:12 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 Quote: from lollerwhat at 5:49 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 she was all zomg so you aren't going to carry my stuff for me (it was pretty light anyways) so i'll just go find some real man in the hotel to do it for me this definitely works on way more guys than just a significant other.....it's not about jealousy polio Posted at 4:10 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 again, it has nothing to do with actual weight. it's still a 'hassle' carrying it to the car from the girls perspective. and maybe she was also doing it to test the boundaries to see how far you will go. lollerwhat Posted at 4:08 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 I think I had brought most of my stuff to the car by then. My bags in total added up to a backpack, a satchel, walmart bag full of food n booze, and a large plastic bag full of my dirty clothes.  Her 20-30 lb suitcase wasn't much. polio Posted at 4:07 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 she will try to shame me with stuff that only works on a 'boyfriend' lol no. girls pull that cutesy crap with any guy they're friends with to avoid having to do it themselves. has nothing to do with being in a relationship, it's just easier not to carry it. and agreed with wilder. you did it anyway, it makes you seem like a pushover tbh. you clearly want to bone this girl but she has no interest of doing the same, so while shes there making you her bitch you're willingly going along with it. 010 Posted at 3:59 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 You had your own bags? Wilder Posted at 3:58 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 Quote: from lollerwhat at 4:56 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 It wasn't so much the 'shaming' that convinced me to do it, but rather the high noise level and the thought of being in a car with her for the rest of the day. I'm sure you could say the same for a toddler that learns that throwing a fit and sobbing will get his/her parents to yield. They might do it for peace and quiet rather than out of a sense of sympathy or shame for their child's emotional pain, but at the end of the day a win's a win. lollerwhat Posted at 3:56 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 It wasn't so much the 'shaming' that convinced me to do it, but rather the high noise level and the thought of being in a car with her for the rest of the day. Wilder Posted at 3:52 pm on Aug. 8, 2012 but really what's the point of shaming tactics on 'just a friend'? i ended up just saying fuck it and took her bag with me Most recent 15 of 17 previous replies displayed.