Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic help me Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]WanderingEndlessly[/m] at 5:07 pm on June 23, 2008[quote]Try emailing or talking to one of her relatives, maybe a sister or a good friend see if they can do something since they are there.  [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 4:51 pm on June 23, 2008 Firs off, our relationship is currently long distance, so I know there isn't really anything I can do.   Anyways... I think she's gorgeous...  And I tell her everyday how beautiful she is.  I'll admit that I am self-conscious about my body too, but I don't do anything drastic such as fasting or purging. She has recognized that it isn't healthy, but she continues to do it because of how good she feels afterwards.  I just feel so helpless, being unable to talk to her out of it.   Does anyone have any tips on what I can do or say from such a long distance?  FYI it's practically cross the country.  Any help is appreciated

Replies razorthin desirexx Posted at 6:48 pm on July 9, 2008 It's really hard to talk someone out of it, it's like a spell. And I see it's especially hard for you to help her since of the long distance. Recommend her talking to someone and see how she feels about it. I think the eating disorder hot line is anonymous but I'm not sure, you can easily find information online all over about eating disorders. I really don't know what else to say as of right now, if anything just message me. <3 Princess o palities Posted at 7:54 pm on June 23, 2008 Keep telling her that she is gorgeous and you like her how she is. Talk to her sometime and mention that you are worried about her damaging her body. Let her know that you wouldn't want anything bad to happen to her because you care about her so much. hello12345 Posted at 6:31 pm on June 23, 2008 First off let me say this, she has a big problem, you will feel frustrated, you will feel burdened, and you will feel useless at times if you try and help her.  it's your perogative whether or not you help, but above all, DO NOT START AND FAIL, you cannot just drop her in the middle, if you start, your in it till the end, worst thing is dissapointing her and making her feel more alone and worthless. can you talk to her any more? like stay online and ask her about her feelings, ask her if she will just tell you about her day, and how she feels, the food stuff is blocking the feelings, it's not really about food.  Next, ask her to please not purge, it's horrible, ask her to email you when eer she feels like it, and you can repeat to her the consequences, you could make a list before hand.  As far as fasting, you can't do much, but you could make her promise that you'll come up with 1 food she can eat everyday, the night before, that way at least she gets something, and maybe later you can up it to two.  I don't really know how else you can help, but it's a step right? purging is the worst, bulimia leads to depression, anorexia is much more uplifting, it's easier to get her to stop fasting at a clinic than it is to make her stop purging. Anonymous Posted at 6:08 pm on June 23, 2008 Her family is already getting involved and looking for clinics in the area.  I was hoping it wouldn't have to get to that point but maybe it's for the best. WanderingEndlessly Posted at 5:07 pm on June 23, 2008 Try emailing or talking to one of her relatives, maybe a sister or a good friend see if they can do something since they are there.   Anonymous Posted at 5:02 pm on June 23, 2008 Quote: from Scoobydoo24 at 4:54 pm on June 23, 2008 break it off I once dated a guy in Maine nd he was always cheating on me and after he would tell me he wouldn't talk to me for like 3 weeks and i had no idea how to talk to him. then when I finally got ahold of him I dumped him and it felt awkward while we were going out and it puts a big strain on a relationship to keep it a long distance relationship. That is nothing like my situation but thanks anyways. Anonymous Posted at 4:56 pm on June 23, 2008 She knows exactly how I feel about it and I've talked to her about how unhealthy it is.  I just get the feeling that until we are physically together that not much is going to change Scoobydoo24 Posted at 4:54 pm on June 23, 2008 break it off I once dated a guy in Maine nd he was always cheating on me and  after he would tell me he wouldn't talk to me for like 3 weeks and i had no idea how to talk to him. then when I finally got ahold of him I dumped him and it felt awkward while we were going out and it puts a big strain on a relationship to keep it a long distance relationship. emowhore Posted at 4:53 pm on June 23, 2008 just tell er how you feel about it maybe she will understand All 9 previous replies displayed.