Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic The jerk who got me pregnant Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]LittleItaly[/m] at 3:49 pm on Aug. 18, 2008[quote]do not get an abortion, you'll regret it[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 3:44 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Ok so i've only told 2 people im pregnant.. My best friend and the guy who got me pregnant.. And we're getting an abortion but he really disguests me and i dont want him in the room with me. Ever since he found out i was pregnant he stopped calling & texting like he used 2, stopped trying to come &  see me.. and he's just been a jerk to me about the whole situation. I dont wanna be there in the room getting the abortion by myself but my best friend has to work that day and I cant reschedule, what should I do? Or will i be OK alone [for anyone who has gone through it]

Replies bifemalelover Posted at 5:31 pm on Aug. 23, 2008 Now a word for you anti abortion,adoption freaks! I bet you have never been to an adoption home! these homes are busting at the seams with unwanted kids all out of control and fucked up on drugs to keep them quiet, nobody wants to adopt! infact all you adoption freaks should put your money where your mouth is and all go and adopt one to thin out the heard, once they are 18yo they are out of there, next stop jail! JEESSICCAAAxx Posted at 6:17 pm on Aug. 22, 2008 no one can be in the room with you while its like happening but ur usually allowed to bring one person for support. bring someone but they cant be in the room with you. make sure its what you want to, i thought it was what i wanted and it really wasnt. i am now 26 weeks pregnant and its the best choice i ever made even tho it was hard, im sixteen. carbonara Posted at 11:19 am on Aug. 22, 2008 Quote: from warrior chick at 1:12 am on Aug. 20, 2008 In all honesty i think that you should go alone and then i hope it haunts you for the rest of your life knowing that you killed your baby! I was disgusted by this post. People like you piss me off. Is there any need for you to be so damn right spiteful. You do not know the OP, you do not know her situation and you have no right to judge her. I doubt very much that you have been in this situation and until you have i think you should keep your judgemental opinions to yourself. To the OP, i apologise that you have had nothing but judgemental insults from over opinionated pre-teens that don't have any idea about real life. I'm sure that you're actually probably quite scared at the moment and I'm sure that you don't want to go through this alone, but if you feel that the guy in question will make the situation a lot more stressful for you then i wouldn't bother taking him. You have proved already that you are mature enough to handle your problems on your own, why not this? I'm am certain that the staff will take good care of you and if you let them know that you are a little worried, they'll be extra nice. Just make sure that you get home safely, if you can't get a ride then get a taxi and take it easy. I sincerely wish you the best of luck and let me know how it goes. JennyColada Posted at 10:35 am on Aug. 22, 2008 Wow, well, I hope you get this reply, since there are so many pages of bashing. You will not have anyone (friends or family) in the room with you anyway. They could wait in the waiting room, but that is it. Anyway, I had an abortion as well myself, and the guy that got me pregnant did much the same thing. He wasn't really interested in having contact with me either (well, we did break up before I found out I was pregnant, but still!). He actually went so far as to call me a whore who "must have cheated on me" (like he somehow thought he was unable to get someone pregnant?!). Anyway, I'm sorry that this is a tough time for you, and I hope everything works out for the best. If you'd like to talk more (privately or publicly) then just let me know. ilovetosuck Posted at 9:22 am on Aug. 22, 2008 Quote: from I am luvly at 5:29 pm on Aug. 21, 2008 Quote: from kristajoe2009 at 5:44 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 don't get an abortion, put the baby up for adoption.... plz? That for one wasn't her question, and two you have no right to ask that of anyone.   If you are more comfortable alone in the room, then be alone. You will be okay. I think this would be best.... The nurses I'm sure will make you feel at home. :) I am luvly Posted at 5:29 pm on Aug. 21, 2008 Quote: from kristajoe2009 at 5:44 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 don't get an abortion, put the baby up for adoption.... plz? That for one wasn't her question, and two you have no right to ask that of anyone. If you are more comfortable alone in the room, then be alone. You will be okay. Sins and Demons Posted at 6:10 am on Aug. 20, 2008 First off im going to start by i hate that it takes two to tango bullshit since its such a simple thing to say but pregnancy can not be summed up  by something simple. Anyway, if hes being an ass you will probably not want him in their anyway, he will just add more stress to something that doesnt need to be there. swtpie Posted at 5:55 am on Aug. 20, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 9:45 am on Aug. 19, 2008 Quote: from swtpie at 8:22 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 The guy should be there. It's a big thing. After...please don't sleep with him again. You know he won't be there, and is an ass. No worth sleeping with again. Yes i know. I realized this once everything switched after i told him and i realized he wasnt the person i thought he was. I know he has a right to be there cause its his baby too but i really dont want anything to do with him and i dont want him being fake trying to hold my hand or tell me everything is gonna be OK cause i know its all a big act. But no i will NEVER sleep with him again. He was my first yea but he'll also be my last for a long while until i can trust guys at least a little bit again which i could never do in the first place. I plan on telling him exactly how i feel about his SORRY ASS and never talking to him again before this i thought we could at least be friends [other shit happened also] but now its just like fuck it get te hell out of my life and work on yourself please Go you! And Good Luck. ilovethatbiotch Posted at 9:27 pm on Aug. 19, 2008 hi. pm me. i had an abortion and would like to talk if you do. Poisonetta Posted at 8:49 pm on Aug. 19, 2008 Don't have an abortion. My mother had one long ago and she deeply regrets it. And I have a cousin who so very much wants a baby but can't have one, and she finally got preggo and didn't know and went camping and had a miscarrige. So put it up for adoption please. Its saving a life and you will regret it eventually if you kill the baby. ilovetosuck Posted at 8:38 pm on Aug. 19, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 9:40 am on Aug. 19, 2008 Quote: from ilovetosuck at 8:51 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Quote: from swtpie at 8:22 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 The guy should be there. It's a big thing. After...please don't sleep with him again. You know he won't be there, and is an ass. No worth sleeping with again.    Returning to the actual question.  lol.    :)    well... I've been following this,    and I think you both have vaild points.    As it is "Anonymous's" life,    I would much rather see the poor child have a chance at a good life. Who knows? Maybe the child could be a GORGEOUS girl or boy, who can change the world.    But then again, it could turn out to be a criminal.    we never know,    but why would we want to assume?    Btw, the child will have NO recollection of their birth mother. the child is too young.  My neighbor was adopted, and he's sweet, funny, and enjoy's his life.    But Anonymous, you're right.    This is YOUR life, and YOUR decision.    We just want u to know how vital this is, cuz once you abort the baby, it's gone...    and you'll never be the same...    My stance on abortion:    Last resort. For example, a girl from a culture where if she had sex before marriage, she was to be stoned, was raped, and got pregnant. So her choices: Abort the baby, or get stoned.    Hence, the availablity of abortion.    well, this has gotten WAYYY off topic...    and if you don't mind me asking...    just how old are you???    I don't think anyone ever got around to confirming that.... I've thought the exact same thing, I know that i may be aborting a baby that could be WONDERFUL and change the world who knows? But right now I just cant have a baby and its sad and its selfish i know but I cant put my family through this again-- my sister just had a baby [and it was born premature] Im still in school with no income both of my parents would be unable to help the guy wont help me and adoption is out of the question.. I wouldnt be able to give a child up that I had in my stomach for nine months.. And im almost 19.. And i know the gravity of my decision i think about it all day all night what if this what if that but no one seems to understand me.. except my best friend who i told and the guy which is only cause he doesnt want a baby anyway.. And seeing how people react to this ONLINE just lets me know that i will never tell anyone else other than my sister and maybe my mother if i get the nerve but no one else.. I always knew people were judgemental and close-minded but it just seems like a lot of unneeded stress in my life to let anyone else know about this. ok, so this is no longer a question of underage sex, it's just a matter of unprotected sex. Alright. Remember that when you tell people online, these people don't know you as a person, and can judge you based on what you say. This is probably NOT the best place to tell everyone. It is selfish to have a baby when you don't have the money or place for it, I agree. My "ex" best friend had a baby with my ex boyfriend. Neither of them has a job, the girl got kicked out of her hosue and put in foster care, and the father can't get a job cuz he couldn't even pass continuation school. And I think that keeping the baby was the most selfish decision she's ever made. because now, that baby doesn't even have a good shot at a good life. So yes, you're right there. but going back to it, killing the baby because you didn't protect yourself is also kind of selfish. BUT I can see why it would be so hard to give the baby up for adoption seeing as u just carried it around for 9 or so months (if all goes well). I guess you just need to do what you think is best. I would really hate for you to have to kill it, but it's ultimately your decision, and I hope everything turns out well for you. Do you think ur friend could come in late, or call in sick? ilovetosuck Posted at 8:30 pm on Aug. 19, 2008 Quote: from YellowDuckie at 3:30 pm on Aug. 19, 2008 Quote: from ilovetosuck at 9:04 am on Aug. 19, 2008 Quote: from dunebug at 8:37 am on Aug. 19, 2008 Quote: from YellowDuckie at 5:36 pm on Aug. 18, 2008 Your reasoning is so fucking messed up.       "You're still taking a home away from an already born baby."       STFU.   And thinking that it's any woman's job to be a brood mare for the country is sound reasoning?    I supposed what YellowDuckie's thought is:    Take responsibility for your actions. No, we should sweep everything under the rug. -.-' miimii Posted at 8:02 pm on Aug. 19, 2008 You really shouldn't have the abortion if you're already sure you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Is there any way that you could make it work? Have you talked with your parents? Anonymous Posted at 7:54 pm on Aug. 19, 2008 Quote: from warrior chick at 5:12 pm on Aug. 19, 2008 In all honesty i think that you should go alone and then i hope it haunts you for the rest of your life knowing that you killed your baby! It will dont worry miimii Posted at 5:45 pm on Aug. 19, 2008 Quote: from warrior chick at 5:12 pm on Aug. 19, 2008 In all honesty i think that you should go alone and then i hope it haunts you for the rest of your life knowing that you killed your baby! How Pro-life of you. Most recent 15 of 65 previous replies displayed.