Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic im trying for a baby Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]miNx[/m] at 4:12 am on Aug. 27, 2008[quote]how old are you.  :wow: [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post pipersgirl Posted at 4:11 am on Aug. 27, 2008 i started last night not taking my birth control im scared and excited at the same time.

Replies lovednhated07 Posted at 4:35 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 This is all I am going to say about this. Good luck! I understand exactly where you are coming from I'm about to be in the same position, I am 19 years old. Don't let people get you down, this is a personal decision and as long as you have the financial means and emotional means to raise a child then you have every right to start a family. It is your decision and yours only. People can have  their opinion but in the end it is you and your boyfriend and your child. That is all you need =) Rob Jr Posted at 1:08 am on Aug. 28, 2008 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations pipersgirl Posted at 12:47 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 shadowofchar you don't know me or the kind of person i am. Thank you all the people that stood up for me. My job is not dead end I'm going in to be a color specialist were i will make around 150 dollers for 2 hours of work and i only have to work 3 days a week. I will have plenty of money set aside for every thing that i need. dunebug Posted at 8:54 am on Aug. 27, 2008 There's a difference between a need and a desire when it comes to parenthood. One that you don't seem to have grasped Char. Having a Bachelor or Masters degree, is not actually a need. For some people, they desire it and mores the power to them. But for many people who aren't going into a specific career, it's not necessary. Some people are fine with the idea of a simple job (vs career). There's always trade schools or community colleges as well. Having a house is not a need either. They can be convenient for people who have a lot of 'stuff' or might have a foot in the door into the real estate market, but they can also be disastrous money-losers. Many families find it affordable and enjoyable to live in an apartment. Priorities are like morals, they're relative and personal to you and you alone. You place great strength and importance on high levels of education, I'm sure you'll personally end up with some sort of degree. But the way you would do things is not actually the only way. She has what is important when it comes to parenthood. What she considers to be a stable, healthy and committed relationship with a man who has worked hard to prepare for this child as well. A job that she enjoys (how many of us, parents or not, can say that we enjoy our jobs?) regardless of whether there's promotions or oodles of money. You can't say for 100% certain that it will fail. We can't say for 100% certain that she'll succeed. What we do know is that she is now a legal adult exercising her rights to make a personal decision. shutter bugs Posted at 6:33 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from carbonara at 11:18 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 12:41 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 by having a baby before you complete your education, you're telling your baby that education is unimportant and is second to personal desires. that's a horrible example... along with all of the other poor examples she'll be setting. Alright, I'm going to begin with this because this is the biggest issue i have with what you are saying. I am going to bring my own personal experience into this. My mother had her first baby when she was 16 and had twins when she was 18 and me when she was 25. Now, my mother did manage to finish school, she did it being pregnant and she got absolutely nothing out of it. It is my belief that some people are born to be parents and noting else. My mother is one of those people. She had no interest in having a career as she felt that that would take her time away from her children. All she wanted out of life was a family and by the age of 25 she had lived her dream, how many people can say that by that age? Now from your point of view, my mother indirectly taught us that education is rubbish and we should all have babies asap. You'd be very wrong. My brother is not 26 and is a fabrication welder, he earns a ton of money. The twins are 24. One of them has a baby and is a full time parent, she lives with the father and he supports her, he has a good job. The other twin is a qualified nursery nurse and i am 18, in college and have absolutely no intentions of having children soon. I am so proud of my mother, i respect no body as much as i respect her. We grew up with her working 'dead-end' jobs and we didn't have a whole lot of money but we are all respectable adults. We value life. None of us has ever been in trouble with the police. We are upstanding citizens. Above all, our mother has taught us how to love and how to live our lives. I think i had an amazing childhood and that's because i have an amazing mother. My own story just goes to show that you don't need a good career to be a parent, in fact i think that career mum's are probably the worst. No time for their children. They may have all the money in the world, but what does that really count. You don't need a whole lot of money to be a parent, as long as you have support from people you love and the bare essentials. 18 is a fine age to be a parent if you're ready. I think that out of you and the OP, the OP will probably be the better mother as she has her head screwed on. She'll probably be a fantastic mother who spends a whole lot of time with her child and not stuck to an office in her career. You however, will probably be the career mum, the person that thinks they can buy their children's love and i feel for them and their lives. I think in the future you should really think about reality before you criticise again. oh cabonara you rock! carbonara Posted at 6:18 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 12:41 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 by having a baby before you complete your education, you're telling your baby that education is unimportant and is second to personal desires. that's a horrible example... along with all of the other poor examples she'll be setting. Alright, I'm going to begin with this because this is the biggest issue i have with what you are saying. I am going to bring my own personal experience into this. My mother had her first baby when she was 16 and had twins when she was 18 and me when she was 25. Now, my mother did manage to finish school, she did it being pregnant and she got absolutely nothing out of it. It is my belief that some people are born to be parents and noting else. My mother is one of those people. She had no interest in having a career as she felt that that would take her time away from her children. All she wanted out of life was a family and by the age of 25 she had lived her dream, how many people can say that by that age? Now from your point of view, my mother indirectly taught us that education is rubbish and we should all have babies asap. You'd be very wrong. My brother is now 26 and is a fabrication welder, he earns a ton of money. The twins are 24. One of them has a baby and is a full time parent, she lives with the father and he supports her, he has a good job. The other twin is a qualified nursery nurse and i am 18, in college and have absolutely no intentions of having children soon. I am so proud of my mother, i respect no body as much as i respect her. We grew up with her working 'dead-end' jobs and we didn't have a whole lot of money but we are all respectable adults. We value life. None of us has ever been in trouble with the police. We are upstanding citizens. Above all, our mother has taught us how to love and how to live our lives. I think i had an amazing childhood and that's because i have an amazing mother. My own story just goes to show that you don't need a good career to be a parent, in fact i think that career mum's are probably the worst. No time for their children. They may have all the money in the world, but what does that really count. You don't need a whole lot of money to be a parent, as long as you have support from people you love and the bare essentials. 18 is a fine age to be a parent if you're ready. I think that out of you and the OP, the OP will probably be the better mother as she has her head screwed on. She'll probably be a fantastic mother who spends a whole lot of time with her child and not stuck to an office in her career. You however, will probably be the career mum, the person that thinks they can buy their children's love and i feel for them and their lives. I think in the future you should really think about reality before you criticise again. ezacxveronica22 Posted at 5:53 am on Aug. 27, 2008 good luck :D Kitty Kiska Posted at 5:09 am on Aug. 27, 2008 I wouldent that young but if your happy and thats what you want...then good luck LadyAlice18 Posted at 5:05 am on Aug. 27, 2008 well i guess if you wanna have a baby at the same age as i am, then good luck? i personally dont want one now, but if there's nothing else in life you want to do, then ok :) shadowofchar Posted at 5:00 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from wathupdawg at 4:59 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 4:54 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from wathupdawg at 4:53 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 4:18 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from bhabytaranee 13 at 4:15 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 7:14 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from pipersgirl at 4:12 am on Aug. 27, 2008 almost 18            ALMOST 18? why the hell are you trying for a baby?! you obviously haven't gone to college yet, so what job do you plan on getting to support your baby? what kind of life will it have? or have you done no actual thinking? or are your thoughts that you will just have your parents pay for the baby?         ffuweee... oh shut up. its her life, stop overreacting like an old fart.        no, it's not just her life, it's the BABY'S life. it is incredibly irresponsible to bring a child into the world that you cannot support. it's totally selfish. what will the child's life be like?!     are you fucking blind!?!?!?     100,000 put away     im sure she can manage, its her decision...      good luck! <3    having enough money doesn't equal being able to raise a child  but it does help! an no1 knows what to do on their first child, thats why you become a mother to learn! first of all, that's not true... if you have a child so that you can experiment with parenting methods then you're incredibly irresponsible. you should have everything thought and planned out, exactly how you're going to raise your child and what kind of examples you'll be setting. simply ensuring that you have enough money is, by far, not nearly enough planning. wathupdawg Posted at 4:59 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 4:54 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from wathupdawg at 4:53 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 4:18 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from bhabytaranee 13 at 4:15 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 7:14 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from pipersgirl at 4:12 am on Aug. 27, 2008 almost 18   ALMOST 18? why the hell are you trying for a baby?! you obviously haven't gone to college yet, so what job do you plan on getting to support your baby? what kind of life will it have? or have you done no actual thinking? or are your thoughts that you will just have your parents pay for the baby?     ffuweee... oh shut up. its her life, stop overreacting like an old fart.   no, it's not just her life, it's the BABY'S life. it is incredibly irresponsible to bring a child into the world that you cannot support. it's totally selfish. what will the child's life be like?!    are you fucking blind!?!?!?    100,000 put away    im sure she can manage, its her decision...     good luck! <3 having enough money doesn't equal being able to raise a child but it does help! an no1 knows what to do on their first child, thats why you become a mother to learn! shadowofchar Posted at 4:57 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from wathupdawg at 4:55 am on Aug. 27, 2008 my aunty had her first child at 16, she had her 2nd at 17, 3rd at 19, 4th at 25 an her 5th one last night.. she hasnt got alot of money but shes managed to give her kids a good life an they have what they want! so go for it if its what you want x why don't you join jamie spears and people magazine in the glamorizing of teen pregnancies? wathupdawg Posted at 4:55 am on Aug. 27, 2008 my aunty had her first child at 16, she had her 2nd at 17, 3rd at 19, 4th at 25 an her 5th one last night.. she hasnt got alot of money but shes managed to give her kids a good life an they have what they want! so go for it if its what you want x shadowofchar Posted at 4:54 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from wathupdawg at 4:53 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 4:18 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from bhabytaranee 13 at 4:15 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 7:14 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from pipersgirl at 4:12 am on Aug. 27, 2008 almost 18        ALMOST 18? why the hell are you trying for a baby?! you obviously haven't gone to college yet, so what job do you plan on getting to support your baby? what kind of life will it have? or have you done no actual thinking? or are your thoughts that you will just have your parents pay for the baby?     ffuweee... oh shut up. its her life, stop overreacting like an old fart.    no, it's not just her life, it's the BABY'S life. it is incredibly irresponsible to bring a child into the world that you cannot support. it's totally selfish. what will the child's life be like?! are you fucking blind!?!?!? 100,000 put away im sure she can manage, its her decision...  good luck! <3 having enough money doesn't equal being able to raise a child shadowofchar Posted at 4:54 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from sosupkthnx at 4:52 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 4:49 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from Jenintendo at 4:47 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 12:46 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from Jenintendo at 4:45 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 12:43 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from sosupkthnx at 4:42 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 4:39 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from sosupkthnx at 4:37 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from shadowofchar at 4:14 am on Aug. 27, 2008 Quote: from pipersgirl at 4:12 am on Aug. 27, 2008 almost 18                    ALMOST 18? why the hell are you trying for a baby?! you obviously haven't gone to college yet, so what job do you plan on getting to support your baby? what kind of life will it have? or have you done no actual thinking? or are your thoughts that you will just have your parents pay for the baby?                 Geez way to get on her about it....some people have everything planned out you know.  Be happy and support her here.                i refuse to support the bringing into the world of a child who will not be raised by setters of good examples.             She obviously wont change her mind because of what you have to say about it, leave it alone.  Some things you just have to let happen.            i won't support something just because "it's gonna happen anyway"         Then dont.         But you dont have to moan about it do you.         GTFO.        why shouldn't i voice my thoughts? if you're going to post about making a stupid decision, expect criticism     Its not a stupid descison to her.     Leave it to her.       Its not up to you.    it's not a matter of opinion whether or not setting poor examples for your child is stupid. if you don't think that's stupid then YOU must be stupid. If he grows up to be rich, famous, and a great role model for others, I am for sure laughing at you. go ahead. intentionally setting bad examples for your child is wrong either way. Most recent 15 of 67 previous replies displayed.