Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I just feel horrible Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]mama16advice[/m] at 10:42 am on Aug. 29, 2008[quote]I just had my baby boy on the 21. He is beautiful...I have pictures to prove it. Thats all besides the point. I am 16 and I feel like a horrible mother. Me and my wonderful boyfriend planned this baby and while planning it, I feel we didnt think things all the way through. I didnt realize how hard it would be for me but also I didnt recognize the innocent life involved. I was only thinking about my selfish want and didnt think about his life. My son deserves the world...and I feel that I cant give it to him. I can hardly buy him a stick of gum. Dont get me wrong my son is well taken care of.  I tend to his every need...seeing as I am in pain...but thats another post. I feed him on times and change him with the quickness. He is bathed and gets all the attention in the world. I harldy have him away from me and he never has any dirty clothes for more than 2 days (thats so I can get a good load). He's taken care of in those parts. He has family all around him and his father has been in his life since day 1, taking care of both of us. I dont ever really do anything for me anymore. Im homeschooled and hardly get the chance to do school. Im hungry...but never get the chance to eat. Im tired but I never sleep, unless my boyfriend sleeps over. So my son is really paid attention to. Its not that that I am complaining about...its the fact theat when he gets older and wise enough to know whats going on...what happens then. I want my son to have the finer things in life and everything in the world. I want him to have the moon and the stars (metaphorically), but right now I cant give him that and that hurts me. My boyfriend and my good friend tell me that he doesnt need those things and that I am a good mother...but it still hurts me. Im not asking for advice I just felt that I wanted to vent. Thats all. There will be another post, giving all the details about the birth. I almost died in there. But keep look out because this is deep. :). Thanks for reading.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post mama16advice Posted at 10:42 am on Aug. 29, 2008 I just had my baby boy on the 21. He is beautiful...I have pictures to prove it. Thats all besides the point. I am 16 and I feel like a horrible mother. Me and my wonderful boyfriend planned this baby and while planning it, I feel we didnt think things all the way through. I didnt realize how hard it would be for me but also I didnt recognize the innocent life involved. I was only thinking about my selfish want and didnt think about his life. My son deserves the world...and I feel that I cant give it to him. I can hardly buy him a stick of gum. Dont get me wrong my son is well taken care of.  I tend to his every need...seeing as I am in pain...but thats another post. I feed him on times and change him with the quickness. He is bathed and gets all the attention in the world. I harldy have him away from me and he never has any dirty clothes for more than 2 days (thats so I can get a good load). He's taken care of in those parts. He has family all around him and his father has been in his life since day 1, taking care of both of us. I dont ever really do anything for me anymore. Im homeschooled and hardly get the chance to do school. Im hungry...but never get the chance to eat. Im tired but I never sleep, unless my boyfriend sleeps over. So my son is really paid attention to. Its not that that I am complaining about...its the fact theat when he gets older and wise enough to know whats going on...what happens then. I want my son to have the finer things in life and everything in the world. I want him to have the moon and the stars (metaphorically), but right now I cant give him that and that hurts me. My boyfriend and my good friend tell me that he doesnt need those things and that I am a good mother...but it still hurts me. Im not asking for advice I just felt that I wanted to vent. Thats all. There will be another post, giving all the details about the birth. I almost died in there. But keep look out because this is deep. :). Thanks for reading.

Replies shen10200 Posted at 12:14 pm on Sep. 4, 2008 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations JennyColada Posted at 8:58 am on Sep. 4, 2008 I would assume that it is normal for many parents to feel that way. It isn't due to your age, or inexperience, or lack of planning or anything, it's just due to looking at someone you love and not wanting them to ever feel "want", but to always have. No one can give their children everything they want (and frankly, if you could, that's not exactly a wise move anyway). Your child has love, and even when they grow up and look around and see that they may not have the newest or best bike, or the most amazing television, they will appreciate what they do have, and love you for trying your best and lovin them unconditionally. THAT is what bringing a life into this world is about. ShellS Posted at 10:56 am on Sep. 2, 2008 Well,  That is good that you get to sleep but i don't think you should doubt yourself like youare DADDYS LITTLE GIRL Posted at 9:24 am on Aug. 30, 2008 Your a great mother don't doubt yourself. He may not have everything you want for him now but as he grows things may change. Right now he has all he needs, a great mommy and daddy who love him and thats what matters most. babybluebitch Posted at 8:53 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 hun if you thought it over all the way you might not have a son who will love you as he gets older and everything who cares if you cant get him brand  name things all that matterz is if you love him dunebug Posted at 5:27 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 Kids need love, support, stability and understanding not toys, blankets, brand name clothes and a lot of material stuff. Just keep that in mind. :-) You can't buy his love, you need to earn it over time by being there, putting him first and doing what you've been doing. It'll mean more than a million toys. mama16advice Posted at 11:02 am on Aug. 29, 2008 Thank you. exept to the first reply...thanks for nothing. anywayz you guys are right...he doesnt need him...its just I want him to have everything. I dont know...maybe im just thinking too much. things may get better as time goes on. Also my bf is staying over for the weekend. He will make me sleep and eat...he wont let me do anything. He'd rather be sleepless and hungry rather than me. I love him to death...he is so good to me. ShellS Posted at 10:53 am on Aug. 29, 2008 Okay i have grown up all of my life poor so i know what you mean by that but if you tend to his every need thenyou are doing the right thing.  You are a great mother and you will always be.  Don't doubt that!  You and your son will be fine.  He will survive. I know i did. :)  Be happy!!! ~♥~ atarisrocks Posted at 10:53 am on Aug. 29, 2008 u need a day to your self lack of food and sleep makes you like this tell you bf to have your son for the night and catch up with everything Danarper Posted at 10:47 am on Aug. 29, 2008 Quote: from oddjob 86 at 6:43 pm on Aug. 29, 2008 typical kid having a kid # and? i'd have a kid with my Gf and shes 15 but i dont want her life drag down so young and not all kids are like this. this is the minority *no offence to topic starter* agnoscity Posted at 10:45 am on Aug. 29, 2008 Well, at least you have a great boyfriend to help you through unlike a lot of teenage mothers I know that are single and have a really hard time. Good luck though with your baby :] Danarper Posted at 10:45 am on Aug. 29, 2008 you are a good mother and he doesnt need those things trust me he wont learn values if you give him everything i know people that near enough dont care and just have kids for extra income trust me your a good mother oddjob 86 Posted at 10:43 am on Aug. 29, 2008 typical kid having a kid All 13 previous replies displayed.