Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Ugh why is everyone so judgemental? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]xo ash ox[/m] at 1:49 pm on Sep. 5, 2008[quote]I just want to know why people are so quick to judge.  I am soon to be 16, a virgin, and have never screwed up really bad.  I have had what my friends and i call "baby on the brain" for the past 3 years.  I know that it is just an instinct and that it can at times be over powerful and make you confused.  But, I have this gut feeling that I really am meant to be a young mom.  And I know I need to wait, I am only a junior, I have all of my college experience to get through.  I need a job and money and most of all i need a stable relationship where the baby will have two loving parents.  Its just that you see a tiny little baby and all you think about is having one and it loving you.  But me, I think about the sleepless nights, the loss of friends, the stretching of a dollar and then i see the smile on that little face and it makes it seem like everything that I had to do and give up is so worth it.  I don't know... anyone else think like that?[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post xo ash ox Posted at 1:49 pm on Sep. 5, 2008 I just want to know why people are so quick to judge.  I am soon to be 16, a virgin, and have never screwed up really bad.  I have had what my friends and i call "baby on the brain" for the past 3 years.  I know that it is just an instinct and that it can at times be over powerful and make you confused.  But, I have this gut feeling that I really am meant to be a young mom.  And I know I need to wait, I am only a junior, I have all of my college experience to get through.  I need a job and money and most of all i need a stable relationship where the baby will have two loving parents.  Its just that you see a tiny little baby and all you think about is having one and it loving you.  But me, I think about the sleepless nights, the loss of friends, the stretching of a dollar and then i see the smile on that little face and it makes it seem like everything that I had to do and give up is so worth it.  I don't know... anyone else think like that?

Replies shortie415 Posted at 9:31 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 Quote: from SimplisticComplexity at 9:38 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 Quote: from shortie415 at 2:39 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 No, they'd rather their hard earned tax dollars go to mothers who are the right age with four children who haven't tried working a day in their life. If you're addressing that in response to my comment--of course not. Those who are of age but try to ride the system because they are lazy are no better than teens who aren't ready for kids. but that's a whole different issue, and therefore was not what I was implying. Just FYI. You'd be surprised how many people around here do that.... or maybe you wouldn't.  Either way....  I'm completely willing to admit that I wasn't ready to have my daughters, and I'll be the first to tell the girls running around whining about how they want babies to stop and think about what they're doing.. but some of us can manage to take care of our children.  Ready or not.  Most teenage girls who have kids can't or won't take care of them and just make their parents do it, but don't discredit those of us who bust our butts.  No, I'm not saying you did in case you think that's what I'm getting at. Ashrkewl Posted at 9:06 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 Its a wonderful thing, but please....wait. matthewlovelady Posted at 9:02 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 I think most girls go through that, it's a maternal thing, just wait though it'd be best in the long run, besides... don't rush growing up, you might regret it later on. I miss my youth and I'm only 18 ceemonster Posted at 8:15 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 I definetly think just like you. Definetly. SimplisticComplexity Posted at 6:38 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 Quote: from shortie415 at 2:39 pm on Sep. 7, 2008 No, they'd rather their hard earned tax dollars go to mothers who are the right age with four children who haven't tried working a day in their life. If you're addressing that in response to my comment--of course not.  Those who are of age but try to ride the system because they are lazy are no better than teens who aren't ready for kids. but that's a whole different issue, and therefore was not what I was implying.  Just FYI. shortie415 Posted at 11:39 am on Sep. 7, 2008 No, they'd rather their hard earned tax dollars go to mothers who are the right age with four children who haven't tried working a day in their life. JennyColada Posted at 11:17 am on Sep. 7, 2008 That's so odd to me, because I was 100% unlike you. Haha. Up until recently I NEVER wanted kids, like ever, not at all. It's always so odd to me to hear these other girls say how excited they are to finally be able to have kids one day. Lol. Funny how life isn't even nearly the same for some people. SimplisticComplexity Posted at 9:32 am on Sep. 7, 2008 Because people don't want their hard-earned tax dollars to go towards supporting someone else's baby that they can't even support themselves.  That is a very big reason, and there are other reasons as well. xo ash ox Posted at 7:40 am on Sep. 7, 2008 Quote: from Miss Prophetess at 10:43 pm on Sep. 6, 2008 I'm the same way. Like you, I also realize it's a bad decision...that doesn't stop the feeling though. Stupid instincts. Quote: from tinkerbell15 at 1:52 pm on Sep. 5, 2008 i dont do that i dont like people who do You dislike them for what they think? Quote: from KatieKaBOOM at 1:54 pm on Sep. 5, 2008 wait... until you have the rest of your life planned out... dont' do this one thing now and regret it later, She didn't say she was going to get pregnant, she just said she gets a longing for a baby. thanks for understanding!! Miss Prophetess Posted at 10:43 pm on Sep. 6, 2008 I'm the same way.  Like you, I also realize it's a bad decision...that doesn't stop the feeling though.  Stupid instincts. Quote: from tinkerbell15 at 1:52 pm on Sep. 5, 2008 i dont do that i dont like people who do You dislike them for what they think? Quote: from KatieKaBOOM at 1:54 pm on Sep. 5, 2008 wait... until you have the rest of your life planned out... dont' do this one thing now and regret it later, She didn't say she was going to get pregnant, she just said she gets a longing for a baby. dunebug Posted at 2:27 pm on Sep. 5, 2008 Tons of women feel like that. That's "babyfever". People are judgmental because it's stupid and selfish to actually aspire to being a teenage mum. ;-) KatieKaBOOM Posted at 1:54 pm on Sep. 5, 2008 wait... until you have the rest of your life planned out... dont' do this one thing now and regret it later, MystiqueBeauty16 Posted at 1:53 pm on Sep. 5, 2008 I've felt that way before. Like, "I think I would be a good Mom." But I know I have to wait if I want to give my child everything he/she deserves. xo ash ox Posted at 1:52 pm on Sep. 5, 2008 Quote: from Chava at 1:52 pm on Sep. 5, 2008 Well I can tell you that you aren't ready to be a young mom because you said that it would "love you" switch that mindframe around and then you're ready. I was putting it into the perspective on how i have heard other girls say what they wanted tinkerbell15 Posted at 1:52 pm on Sep. 5, 2008 i dont do that i dont like people who do Most recent 15 of 20 previous replies displayed.