Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic The Father Of My Son Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Glow Worm[/m] at 7:41 pm on Nov. 13, 2008[quote]If he doesn't want anything to do with the baby, be a big girl about it. Don't force someone into being a parent just because you want to be. That will just lead to a bad relationship with your son and resentment. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post ZOMGimrae Posted at 1:17 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 I was just informed by my sons father that he refuses to put his name on the birth certificate. IS there anything i can do about this?

Replies Chiefette Posted at 6:54 am on Nov. 20, 2008 Quote: from ZOMGimrae at 9:44 am on Nov. 20, 2008 Quote: from Glow Worm at 9:29 am on Nov. 14, 2008 It's her choice, obviously, but I've always been of the position that you shouldn't force someone into paying for your child just because you wanted to continue with the pregnancy. Women have the option of abortion, but what do men have? She made the choice to keep the baby knowing it would be hard, and taking him to court to squeeze money out of him isn't something I would do. Anyways, she can't force him to claim a baby he doesn't want, and she can't force him to be on the birth certificate, and honestly if he treats her like that I don't know why she would want him to have anything to do with the child. But if she decides to take him to court then that's her choice. I'm just saying I know many young mothers who have opted against forcing someone into claiming responsibility for something they're clearly not ready to handle, and they do just fine. It's the more mature response, in my opinion. Not that my opinion has any influence on her life, of course. But hey, if she can't do it by herself then she can't do it by herself. Maybe she should have thought of that before deciding to keep the baby, but it's too late for that now, isn't it?   He WANTED the baby up until a few weeks ago. He told me he'd hate me for life if i got an abortion. I dont WANT him in the baby's life, i just want his name on the certificate so i can get my childsupport.   Im not making him be an active role in the baby's life. You can't really have it both ways. If you force him to pay child support, that means he has the right to be in the childs life. If you let him off without child support(and without signing the birth certificate), he can't be in the child's life if you don't let him. As far as getting child support, you are going to have to take him to court to get a paternity test. Which is gonna cost some money. ZOMGimrae Posted at 6:44 am on Nov. 20, 2008 Quote: from Glow Worm at 9:29 am on Nov. 14, 2008 It's her choice, obviously, but I've always been of the position that you shouldn't force someone into paying for your child just because you wanted to continue with the pregnancy. Women have the option of abortion, but what do men have? She made the choice to keep the baby knowing it would be hard, and taking him to court to squeeze money out of him isn't something I would do. Anyways, she can't force him to claim a baby he doesn't want, and she can't force him to be on the birth certificate, and honestly if he treats her like that I don't know why she would want him to have anything to do with the child. But if she decides to take him to court then that's her choice. I'm just saying I know many young mothers who have opted against forcing someone into claiming responsibility for something they're clearly not ready to handle, and they do just fine. It's the more mature response, in my opinion. Not that my opinion has any influence on her life, of course. But hey, if she can't do it by herself then she can't do it by herself. Maybe she should have thought of that before deciding to keep the baby, but it's too late for that now, isn't it? He WANTED the baby up until a few weeks ago. He told me he'd hate me for life if i got an abortion. I dont WANT him in the baby's life, i just want his name on the certificate so i can get my childsupport. Im not making him be an active role in the baby's life. JEESSICCAAAxx Posted at 9:28 am on Nov. 14, 2008 yeahh he doesn't have to sign the birth certificate but that doesnt really matter. Will he sign the ackowledgement of paternity paper? Make sure you know his name address and social security number go to the local courthouse and they will court order a paternity test which he has to take. When it comes out he is the dad, then you go for child support. Don't let him get away without paying his half. I know at my local courthouse if you keep the reciepts from buying a criib and stuff the judge might make him pay you back for all that stuff. I have done a lot of search into it, im 38 weeks pregnant & still with the baby'sdad who is my boyfriend but to  be safe i figured this all out. hope i was helpful. Glow Worm Posted at 6:29 am on Nov. 14, 2008 It's her choice, obviously, but I've always been of the position that you shouldn't force someone into paying for your child just because you wanted to continue with the pregnancy. Women have the option of abortion, but what do men have? She made the choice to keep the baby knowing it would be hard, and taking him to court to squeeze money out of him isn't something I would do. Anyways, she can't force him to claim a baby he doesn't want, and she can't force him to be on the birth certificate, and honestly if he treats her like that I don't know why she would want him to have anything to do with the child. But if she decides to take him to court then that's her choice. I'm just saying I know many young mothers who have opted against forcing someone into claiming responsibility for something they're clearly not ready to handle, and they do just fine. It's the more mature response, in my opinion. Not that my opinion has any influence on her life, of course. But hey, if she can't do it by herself then she can't do it by herself. Maybe she should have thought of that before deciding to keep the baby, but it's too late for that now, isn't it? Chiefette Posted at 4:35 am on Nov. 14, 2008 She needs to atleast get him for child support.  There is no reason that she should have to take all of the burden because the day before delivery he decides that he doesn't want his name on the birth certificate. Glow Worm Posted at 7:41 pm on Nov. 13, 2008 If he doesn't want anything to do with the baby, be a big girl about it. Don't force someone into being a parent just because you want to be. That will just lead to a bad relationship with your son and resentment. babybluebitch Posted at 9:17 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 he dont have to if he dont want to star girl Posted at 10:11 am on Nov. 12, 2008 he doesn't have to sign it but if he desnt u can take him to court b4bydimplez916 Posted at 2:49 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 no Chiefette Posted at 2:00 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Quote: from Live Just To Die at 4:18 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 He has too... he is the dad after all, you have to state who the dad is. Ufortunately' she cannot make him do it.  Nor does he have to sign it.  All he has to do us say that he doesnt want to or doesn't believe he is the father.  op if you want him on there you will have to take him to court.  I would highly suggest it.  If you dont he can refuse child support later on and you will then have to prove that the child is his.   Unless you are willing to allow him to sign away all parental rights which means no child support no visitation etc. ZOMGimrae Posted at 1:49 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Believe it or not, i actually got a hold of his ex wife. Hopefully she'll be able to give me his address and stuff. addicted to girls Posted at 1:35 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 court ZOMGimrae Posted at 1:31 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Quote: from NJgrrl at 4:19 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Quote: from katrinadoodle at 1:18 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Nope. He has to sign it. If he refuses, you'll have to take it to court to establish paternity.   its true..give a name, courtll order a paternity test then boom hes screwd Well i have to report to my caseworker when my son is born. Which will be within the next few days. Apparently all i do is give them his name and they'll find him. He wont give me his new address or anything. All i have is his phone number. sunshineshower Posted at 1:28 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Quote: from OneSquared at 9:19 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Maury eurgh I watched that today, it depressed me so much! MixedDelight Posted at 1:28 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Why doesn't he want to put his name on the birth certificate? Doesn't want the kid? You can consult a lawyer and ask for a paternity test. But, all of this will cost you money. Good Luck Most recent 15 of 23 previous replies displayed.