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MelinaEll Posted at 10:49 am on Jan. 3, 2009
So I just found out I'm pregnant. My fiance and I are totally to blame for not getting me on the pill right away. When this is all over I'm getting right on the pill because I've learned my lesson too late this time. This is the worst thing to happen to me in my whole life and both of us want an abortion. Only problem is I think I need one as soon as possible because after a certain point you can no longer have an abortion legally. My last period was mid November. I think I may still be eligible for the pill mifeprex (for terminating early pregnancies). However, we cannot afford even that right now. I do not have insurance and it costs about $700 at our local clinic. We just got back from a trip and neither of us have enough money. By the time we have even that small amount saved up it may be too late for me to have the procedure done. So I was wondering if anyone knows if there is such a thing as a free abortion clinic, a way to get it done cheap that isn't dangerous, or if the vitamin C remedy really works. If you do not agree with my decision I am sorry but please keep your opinions to yourself because it will not help me at this time. I just need any information anyone has. Thanks.

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telomere13 Posted at 9:38 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
Quote: from katrinadoodle at 12:31 am on Jan. 4, 2009

and she has already stated she has no wish to adopt out

I missed that.

katrinadoodle Posted at 9:31 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
Except for the fact that adoption only solves parenting, and not the problem of being pregnant, and she has already stated she has no wish to adopt out, and the fact that by the time she would be able to set up an adoption she would to far gone to abort and the adoptions fall through all the time - and then she'd be stuck with unwanted bills and an unwanted child.
telomere13 Posted at 9:08 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
Quote: from katrinadoodle at 11:49 pm on Jan. 3, 2009

Not unless you set up an open adoption, and even then it's not guaranteed.

Well, if she's able to set it up in advance then it seems like that would be a reasonable option.

katrinadoodle Posted at 8:49 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
Not unless you set up an open adoption, and even then it's not guaranteed.
telomere13 Posted at 7:08 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
Quote: from katrinadoodle at 9:54 pm on Jan. 3, 2009

If she can't afford a $700 abortion how is she supposed to afford a $7,000 delivery?

I've heard adoptions often involve some form of reimbursement.  I could be wrong, though.

katrinadoodle Posted at 6:54 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
Quote: from telomere13 at 4:43 pm on Jan. 3, 2009

So, have you given any thought to adoption? I'm afraid I don't have much idea, but it might be more economically viable, at least.

Also, don't try to terminate the pregnancy yourself, because you could end up with a severely disabled child, though I'm sure you know this.



If she can't afford a $700 abortion how is she supposed to afford a $7,000 delivery?
joz 12345 Posted at 5:07 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
i have had an abortion and im in scotland so it was free  also if you need to talk feel free to pm me
telomere13 Posted at 4:43 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
So, have you given any thought to adoption?  I'm afraid I don't have much idea, but it might be more economically viable, at least.  

Also, don't try to terminate the pregnancy yourself, because you could end up with a severely disabled child, though I'm sure you know this.

LoveKay Posted at 3:52 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
If you are so bent on getting an abortion and need the money, then get a quote on how much it would cost (the sooner you have the abortion, the less pricey it usually is), and then take out a personal loan.
katrinadoodle Posted at 3:28 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
thirteen.... months?

elephant D;

MelinaEll Posted at 3:15 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
Quote: from katrinadoodle at 5:49 pm on Jan. 3, 2009

Quote: from crimeinstereo at 11:04 am on Jan. 3, 2009

There aren't many "free abortion" clinics, honestly. I've yet to hear of any. If you're to blame, you're probably going to be stuck with a baby, considering you're probably almost 3 months pregnant. Vitamin C does not work, either.

How do you figure that? LMP was in mid-November. It's just barely January. She's not even 2 months gone.

Yes. I'm 5 1/2 weeks at the most. They offer abortions here (from what I've researched) up to 13 months or so in some places. I just was hoping I might make it to the clinic in time to get the mifeprex pill so I don't have to go through the surgical procedure. I have heard it can be somewhat traumatic. But I'll deal. It's my fault after all.

MelinaEll Posted at 3:12 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
Quote: from dunebug at 4:51 pm on Jan. 3, 2009

I checked for SC abortion clinics and I probably found the two that you already know about:

This one offers surgical abortions through 11 weeks for $450 to $500. The Mifeprex is only offered up to 56 days and is $525.  
http://www.charlestonwomensmedicalcenter.com/

This one offers abortions from $340+ and does mention student discounts (not sure if you qualify for that but just saying).  
http://www.atlantasurgicenter.com/

As someone else sugg
ested, if you have a Planned Parenthood near you, you may want to stop by and see if they can offer you any help.

Is there anyone you could ask for help? I realize that privacy is important but if it's a choice between privacy and birthing the child, I'm sure you'd give up the former pretty fast. It might be worth it to suck up the pride and ask either set of parents and/or relatives and/or friends for a loan.  


You're probably right about my pride. Thank you for your research. I did already look those up. I am considering the first if I cannot find a better way through planned parenthood. I have always been the girl no one would picture having a child. I'm more the strong executive type woman. Me and my fiance are kind of like the couple in idiocracy who keep focusing on their career and putting off the child. Only we screwed up and now we're like everyone else. I've been saying since I understood the concept of reproduction that I would never have children. Now that I've finally met the right man for me I've started to consider one day having a child. When I'm 30 or so. And this has thrown a wrench in our whole plan for life. Well...shit happens and I know that. Lets just hope we can learn from our mistakes and make the best of a bad situation.

katrinadoodle Posted at 2:49 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
Quote: from crimeinstereo at 11:04 am on Jan. 3, 2009

There aren't many "free abortion" clinics, honestly. I've yet to hear of any. If you're to blame, you're probably going to be stuck with a baby, considering you're probably almost 3 months pregnant. Vitamin C does not work, either.

How do you figure that? LMP was in mid-November. It's just barely January. She's not even 2 months gone.
katrinadoodle Posted at 2:43 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
Planned Parenthood should do it for free or at a very reduced cost.
dingle Posted at 1:59 pm on Jan. 3, 2009
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