I don't see why so many people can believe family is important for a young child while also believing it's a mother's responsibility to always be with her child. Mothers who let their child consume every second of their time often become overwhelmed and lose their sense of self. I believe it's perfectly healthy for a young mother to still retain aspects of their youthful lifestyle. My Mum's constantly begging me to go out and have fun so she can babysit, and I want my Mum to be a part of my daughter's life so it keeps everyone happy.
Baceuse babies have to eat every 3 hours, in between they have to pee and poo and you have to wash them and take care of them. When baby is older, like 6 months or so, then it's maybe possible to go out sometimes, but before that no. If moms and dads are not ready for that they shouldn't have kids.
Quote: from Alternative Twitch at 3:03 pm on Dec. 16, 2010 I was in a club a few weeks ago and I approached a girl who looked to be my age, a little younger maybe. I'm pretty sure my intentions were innocent, I can't remember exactly but I DO remember her saying "I just gave birth 8 weeks ago". Bricks were shat. i feel sorry for her child. clubbing instead of taking care of a child? when you have a child that young your partying teen days are over for life
I was in a club a few weeks ago and I approached a girl who looked to be my age, a little younger maybe. I'm pretty sure my intentions were innocent, I can't remember exactly but I DO remember her saying "I just gave birth 8 weeks ago". Bricks were shat.
Bricks were shat.
exactly!
Quote: from Candy Junkie at 4:16 pm on Dec. 16, 2010 I don't see why so many people can believe family is important for a young child while also believing it's a mother's responsibility to always be with her child. Mothers who let their child consume every second of their time often become overwhelmed and lose their sense of self. I believe it's perfectly healthy for a young mother to still retain aspects of their youthful lifestyle. My Mum's constantly begging me to go out and have fun so she can babysit, and I want my Mum to be a part of my daughter's life so it keeps everyone happy. There has to be a balance and respect though. There's no reason why young parents (of either gender) can't go out. They should definitely go out without the baby. However when that going out turns into excuses to be out all night, into the next morning or even afternoon, use of illegal substances, getting completely blotto drunk, etc then I feel like that crosses the line. A lot of people say that it doesn't matter since the baby is with a safe sitter, but I still find it disrespectful to your child. You're supposed to be their parent and set an image and be responsible at all times. What if you get called to an emergency while you're high or drunk? Or your sitter has to back out for whatever reason halfway through the night? Just because your child won't remember consciously doesn't mean that subconsciously there isn't a lot going on. It's been scientifically proven that the first three or so years are the most important of your entire life and when the most brain activity happens. It's also been proven that alcohol and/or certain drugs tends to lower inhibitions. You might deal with tantrums alright sober but if you have to come home suddenly while drunk or high, you may very well end up reacting very differently to a whiny/screaming baby. To me there's just too many dangerous ifs there and too many young girls who end up getting pregnant weeks or short months after their first baby because of this "I'm young, can party" attitude and their stupid choices when out without baby. Go out to the movies, go out for a romantic dinner. Have a drink or two. Go for a walk around town. Then come home at a reasonable time like 12:30 at the latest.
There has to be a balance and respect though. There's no reason why young parents (of either gender) can't go out. They should definitely go out without the baby.
However when that going out turns into excuses to be out all night, into the next morning or even afternoon, use of illegal substances, getting completely blotto drunk, etc then I feel like that crosses the line. A lot of people say that it doesn't matter since the baby is with a safe sitter, but I still find it disrespectful to your child. You're supposed to be their parent and set an image and be responsible at all times. What if you get called to an emergency while you're high or drunk? Or your sitter has to back out for whatever reason halfway through the night? Just because your child won't remember consciously doesn't mean that subconsciously there isn't a lot going on. It's been scientifically proven that the first three or so years are the most important of your entire life and when the most brain activity happens.
It's also been proven that alcohol and/or certain drugs tends to lower inhibitions. You might deal with tantrums alright sober but if you have to come home suddenly while drunk or high, you may very well end up reacting very differently to a whiny/screaming baby.
To me there's just too many dangerous ifs there and too many young girls who end up getting pregnant weeks or short months after their first baby because of this "I'm young, can party" attitude and their stupid choices when out without baby.
Go out to the movies, go out for a romantic dinner. Have a drink or two. Go for a walk around town. Then come home at a reasonable time like 12:30 at the latest.
I more or less agree. I go out drinking but I don't get drunk. The only thing is I don't come home for bed. I crash at my partner's house and come home at 5am before my Mum leaves for work. I don't get to see him much because of my daughter so it's nice to just sleep next to him sometimes.
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