Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic The abortion is sceduled Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Raloraved[/m] at 11:24 am on June 9, 2011[quote]But I won't try to persuade you like half of these dumb fucks to keep the baby because they've formed an emotional bond with it. Everything dies eventually. I'm just saying if you aren't comfortable with aborting chances are you'd love the baby.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 11:13 am on June 9, 2011 I'm really scared.. I posted a topic about it yesterday.. when I told him (my husband) he cried and begged me to reconsider that he would never wander again but I can't trust him and I can't have a baby that is half him.. I don't know what to do.

Replies mama16advice Posted at 11:41 am on June 14, 2011 Think more on this before you do it. Dont act on your current emotions, you may regret it. Research ALL the risk of abortion. Its not the childs fault that you are pregnant... its you and your husbands. SO therefore I dont think the child should be punished. Im pro life.. but I cant tell you how to run your life.. all I can do is suggest that you think this over. =) good luck zebrafreak123 Posted at 1:47 pm on June 9, 2011 okay i can understand tht.... but you dnt have to be like your mom just bc you wld be a single mom. nd if you take the right legal actions, he wld never have the oppurtunity to see the baby. and if you leave your husbnd as soon as possible, nd get all of the shit out of your life, maybe, you might think differenly.... L C Posted at 1:33 pm on June 9, 2011 Quote: from Anonymous at 2:17 pm on June 9, 2011 I very recently got married I love this man I thought I knew him.. we had a life and its all over. I'm sad and upset and this pregnancy is the last thing I need. I don't want to bring up a baby like this.. alone and struggling. My mom's marriage erupted and she ignored me through out my life I don't want to be that mother and I cant imagine having a child without a father and this baby is going to remind me of him and what about when the baby is a teenager and wants to see her/his father? Then I'm going to have to spend time with this asshole.. I don't think so First off, just because he cheated on you doesn't disqualify him as a father. I don't understand why you think that just because he cheated, he'd abandon the child? He seemed distraught by you deciding to schedule an abortion. You could give him the chance to still be a father to your child. Also, you could have the divorce rapped up before the child is old enough to figure out what the hell is going on and just because he would be in the child's life doesn't mean you have to spend any time with him you don't want to. You will have to correspond on occasion working as a team to raise your child, but you aren't forced to stay with him. It seems there are a lot of things you haven't even sorted out in your head, you should consider doing that before making a huge decision with your marriage and pregnancy. Para god Posted at 1:31 pm on June 9, 2011 You are doing it for selfish reasons.  No matter how you try to justify it.  If you don't want to see the father you don't have to, if you don't want to be a mother that ignores her child, don't be, if you don't want the baby give it up for adoption. The child will atleast have the chance at an amazing life rather then have its mother kill it because she is upset with the father. Regardless of what he has done, that child has done nothing. Anonymous Posted at 1:17 pm on June 9, 2011 I very recently got married I love this man I thought I knew him.. we had a life and its all over. I'm sad and upset and this pregnancy is the last thing I need. I don't want to bring up a baby like this.. alone and struggling. My mom's marriage erupted and she ignored me through out my life I don't want to be that mother and I cant imagine having a child without a father and this baby is going to remind me of him and what about when the baby is a teenager and wants to see her/his father? Then I'm going to have to spend time with this asshole.. I don't think so Para god Posted at 1:07 pm on June 9, 2011 You every right to not want to be married to him. That's fine leave him. You are taking the chance of life away from a child that YOU willingly created. Its selfish. JennyColada Posted at 1:07 pm on June 9, 2011 I think that you perhaps need to take more time than a single day to make these decisions. Anonymous Posted at 12:51 pm on June 9, 2011 how is it selfish? who is it going to take away from. Its my choice and I don't want to have this child. and I don't want to be married to him anymore. Para god Posted at 12:19 pm on June 9, 2011 Quote: from JennyColada at 3:13 pm on June 9, 2011 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:11 pm on June 9, 2011 Quote: from Wilder at 11:47 am on June 9, 2011 You're not in a position to raise a child. You yourself aren't ready, the father clearly isn't ready, and even if you guys stick around two very young parents forced together by a pregnancy rarely make the best environment for a child. This has to be incredibly hard for you, but abortion or adoption is the right decision to make.    Were not young.. let alone very young were married not two 16 year old kids. Being a legal adult doesn't not make you "young". And being married doesn't make you better suited for life's struggles. This completely.  Although I think it would be an extremely selfish to abort. You created that child and just because you are pissed at the father doesn't mean that the child doesn't deserve a chance at life.  Give it up for adoption if yiu don't want it.   JennyColada Posted at 12:13 pm on June 9, 2011 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:11 pm on June 9, 2011 Quote: from Wilder at 11:47 am on June 9, 2011 You're not in a position to raise a child. You yourself aren't ready, the father clearly isn't ready, and even if you guys stick around two very young parents forced together by a pregnancy rarely make the best environment for a child. This has to be incredibly hard for you, but abortion or adoption is the right decision to make. Were not young.. let alone very young were married not two 16 year old kids. Being a legal adult doesn't not make you "young". And being married doesn't make you better suited for life's struggles. Anonymous Posted at 12:11 pm on June 9, 2011 Quote: from Wilder at 11:47 am on June 9, 2011 You're not in a position to raise a child. You yourself aren't ready, the father clearly isn't ready, and even if you guys stick around two very young parents forced together by a pregnancy rarely make the best environment for a child. This has to be incredibly hard for you, but abortion or adoption is the right decision to make. Were not young.. let alone very young were married not two 16 year old kids. L C Posted at 12:11 pm on June 9, 2011 Quote: from wildfire27 at 1:07 pm on June 9, 2011 Quote: from zebrafreak123 at 2:57 pm on June 9, 2011 well if you feel like a child is too much on you after he or she is born, than put it up for adoption of course. i just think you wld be happier if you at least try to be a mom. Yeah, give birth to the kid, take care of it long enough to get attached even though you can't properly care for it and will be forced to give the baby up. How on earth would that make her happier? Because that would totally destroy me. Since I have actually given birth I must say, I couldn't even imagine going through labor & delivery only to give my daughter to someone else. Seriously can't even COMPREHEND that shit. Let alone give her up for adoption now, 11 days after I had her. That would more than destroy me. wildfire27 Posted at 12:07 pm on June 9, 2011 Quote: from zebrafreak123 at 2:57 pm on June 9, 2011 well if you feel like a child is too much on you after he or she is born, than put it up for adoption of course. i just think you wld be happier if you at least try to be a mom. Yeah, give birth to the kid, take care of it long enough to get attached even though you can't properly care for it and will be forced to give the baby up. How on earth would that make her happier? Because that would totally destroy me. JennyColada Posted at 12:01 pm on June 9, 2011 Quote: from Mommy121 at 11:58 am on June 9, 2011 Whatever it is that you decide to do, make sure you know it's something you won't regret later on. Honestly though, no one can ever know for certain what they will or won't regret. She might regret having an abortion. She might regret staying with a cheater. She might regret leaving the love of her life. She might regret raising a child with a man she detests. She might regret having a child in a not-so-perfect scenario. ...or she might not. zebrafreak123 Posted at 12:00 pm on June 9, 2011 I agree w Mommy121. Most recent 15 of 60 previous replies displayed.