Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic For the short time that I was pregnant Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Luxe[/m] at 11:32 am on April 21, 2012[quote]You didn't know, it's not worth beating yourself up over. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post catchthesmellofyou Posted at 10:56 am on April 21, 2012 I didn't treat my baby very well. I had a miscarriage on Thursday evening. I wasn't aware I was pregnant and before you judge me I did everything right. I was using what my doctor told me was the most effective method of contraception which was the IUD, and I'd had it checked multiple times. My body rejected the IUD and it moved, which is apparently extremely rare, and I'm 19 years old and my partner and I have been together 4 years so please spare it. In the 6 weeks I was pregnant I drank, did drugs, inhaled second hand smoke, ate sushi, carried very heavy loads. I did everything that a pregnant woman shouldn't do. And I know it wasn't my fault and that I didn't realise. But I hurt my unborn child. I hurt it a lot. And now that it's gone I feel so so sorry for what I did. My body is very much mine to abuse if I so wish. But I abused something pure and innocent. Something I can't believe I really do love. I maybe even killed it. And I'm never going to be able to live with myself for it.

Replies babybluebitch Posted at 11:02 pm on April 21, 2012 relax you didnt know you was until it was to late. Nyctimene Posted at 3:23 pm on April 21, 2012 The light consensus for the last few years has been that miscarriages are almost always the result of chromosomal abnormalities that took place either with the egg itself or sperm itself even before fertilization. Some eggs (or sperm) just aren't any good and destined to fail and even if you'd done everything perfectly, you may still have miscarried because maybe the egg that was fertilized (or the sperm that fertilized it) just weren't good. So don't beat yourself up. You really can't cause a miscarriage. If you could do it just by having some sushi or lifting a heavy box then women wouldn't need abortion clinics in the numbers that they do. Luxe Posted at 11:32 am on April 21, 2012 You didn't know, it's not worth beating yourself up over. ChemicEmotions Posted at 11:02 am on April 21, 2012 Those are your hormones talking. These feelings will pass. Forever Hopeful Posted at 11:00 am on April 21, 2012 I'm so sorry sweetheart, but you can't blame yourself for something you didn't know about. You said so yourself, you didn't know and from your post, I don't think you would have done those things had you known about it. All 5 previous replies displayed.