Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I'd like some advice Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from Anonymous at 12:29 am on July 28, 2008[quote]Quote: from [m]billygoat[/m] at 12:28 am on July 28, 2008[quote][color=brown][b]well, if she doesnt want to meet you, she doesnt want to.   the only thing you could really do then, would be to try and get over her. even though it may be hard, im sure you'll find someone in the future.[/b][/color][/quote] She said she does want to meet me.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 12:26 am on July 28, 2008 So here's the deal, four or five months back I met a woman online (sad I know), I've stupidly fallen for her and I can't do anything about that unfortunately, I'm just crazy about her. In those four to five months things have got better and better, we've exchanged photos, and e-mails, and moved onto webcam and microphone. The big problem with this is that she has a boyfriend, and just last night she told me that a month back he actually proposed to her.  She said she turned him down because whatever feelings she has for me are strong enough to make her have doubts about her current relationship.  I asked her if she loves me (a simple yes/no answer, any doubts I told her to say no) and she said "then it's a no".  And then she said she's in love with me but she doesn't love me?  What does that mean? I've asked her if she'll meet me when she goes to study in Lyon and she said she'd really really love to meet me. I honestly don't know what to do, I don't want to loose her, last night it almost got to the point that I said I can't do this anymore and I almost said goodbye, she said she didn't want to loose me either.  What should I do?

Replies acausedelle Posted at 11:43 pm on July 30, 2008 If she already has a boyfriend and it sounds like it is getting serious, then I really think that you should respect their relationship. If you both really want to meet each other, then I say go for it. The girl sounds like she loves both of you - which isn't a good sign. She will eventually have to choose between the two of you, and since her current boyfriend is close to her, she most likely will pick him, and leave you heartbroken. I advise that you ask to be just friends and nothing more than that. It is a very intense situation, but you really can't do anything about it. If you both really want to meet each other that bad, then by all means do. Internet relationships usually don't work, and I feel that you would have a better chance with a girl that is near where you live. If in fact she loves you more than her boyfriend, then you really should take a chance. It is one of those now or never things. Chances are that it won't work and you will have to end it all, but if you feel confident about this, then I say meet her and go for it. In conclusion, if she really means that much to you, then you really should meet her. She must really be deep in a relationship with the other guy too. You really need to pick whether to end it or give it a shot. I hope you found this reply helpful, and you can PM me if you would like. jsgirl Posted at 12:58 am on July 28, 2008 Quote: from bryce101 at 12:56 am on July 28, 2008 dam bro.. u just gotta give that up. i know its hard, but look at what ur workin wit honestly. Damn straight. bryce101 Posted at 12:56 am on July 28, 2008 dam bro.. u just gotta give that up. i know its hard, but look at what ur workin wit honestly. Anonymous Posted at 12:51 am on July 28, 2008 so? i dont c the problem i mean if she isnt as happy with the other guy as you him y stretch things out? let the other dude go and have a new start. and if u say u really love fight for it if u think its worth it That's all easier said than done, I'm not going to let this go until we've at least met each other I feel as though I'll feel exactly the same in person as I do online.  Distance is a big problem here, hopefully I can work round that. jsgirl Posted at 12:49 am on July 28, 2008 Quote: from ewwy at 12:45 am on July 28, 2008 Quote: from jsgirl at 12:37 am on July 28, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:33 am on July 28, 2008 Quote: from jsgirl at 12:30 am on July 28, 2008 Loose you haha?        Well, I dunno, it seems complicated.        I guess you should meet her, because sometimes once you meet someone they aren't who you thought they were.        So do that. But she IS in a relationship and you should be sensitive to the fact that there is someone out that that she isn't ready to leave yet.     I know, I respect that she has a boyfriend and I have nothing against the guy, I think her heart is with me though, I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is for her to make these kind of decisions.    Then don't make it hard for either of you.    If you had met her in person and she had a bf, you would NEVER have hit on her/fallen in love with her ect.    Just because you met her online doesn't make it right for you to break up her relationship.    I personally, would be looking elsewhere for love, and trying to get over this girl.   so? i dont c the problem i mean if she isnt as happy with the other guy as you him y stretch things out? let the other dude go and have a new start. and if u say u really love fight for it if u think its worth it In the big scheme of things, its not worth it. She probably isn't as unhappy as she says. If it doesn't work out it a big waste of time. Ewwy Posted at 12:45 am on July 28, 2008 Quote: from jsgirl at 12:37 am on July 28, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:33 am on July 28, 2008 Quote: from jsgirl at 12:30 am on July 28, 2008 Loose you haha?     Well, I dunno, it seems complicated.     I guess you should meet her, because sometimes once you meet someone they aren't who you thought they were.     So do that. But she IS in a relationship and you should be sensitive to the fact that there is someone out that that she isn't ready to leave yet.    I know, I respect that she has a boyfriend and I have nothing against the guy, I think her heart is with me though, I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is for her to make these kind of decisions. Then don't make it hard for either of you. If you had met her in person and she had a bf, you would NEVER have hit on her/fallen in love with her ect.   Just because you met her online doesn't make it right for you to break up her relationship. I personally, would be looking elsewhere for love, and trying to get over this girl. so? i dont c the problem i mean if she isnt as happy with the other guy as you him y stretch things out? let the other dude go and have a new start. and if u say u really love fight for it if u think its worth it jsgirl Posted at 12:37 am on July 28, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:33 am on July 28, 2008 Quote: from jsgirl at 12:30 am on July 28, 2008 Loose you haha?    Well, I dunno, it seems complicated.    I guess you should meet her, because sometimes once you meet someone they aren't who you thought they were.    So do that. But she IS in a relationship and you should be sensitive to the fact that there is someone out that that she isn't ready to leave yet. I know, I respect that she has a boyfriend and I have nothing against the guy, I think her heart is with me though, I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is for her to make these kind of decisions. Then don't make it hard for either of you. If you had met her in person and she had a bf, you would NEVER have hit on her/fallen in love with her ect. Just because you met her online doesn't make it right for you to break up her relationship. I personally, would be looking elsewhere for love, and trying to get over this girl. Anonymous Posted at 12:33 am on July 28, 2008 Quote: from jsgirl at 12:30 am on July 28, 2008 Loose you haha? Well, I dunno, it seems complicated. I guess you should meet her, because sometimes once you meet someone they aren't who you thought they were. So do that. But she IS in a relationship and you should be sensitive to the fact that there is someone out that that she isn't ready to leave yet. I know, I respect that she has a boyfriend and I have nothing against the guy, I think her heart is with me though, I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is for her to make these kind of decisions. Lunarose Posted at 12:30 am on July 28, 2008 thats really sweet and like sakurashina said i think you should meet her and should get her phone number. jsgirl Posted at 12:30 am on July 28, 2008 Loose you haha? Well, I dunno, it seems complicated. I guess you should meet her, because sometimes once you meet someone they aren't who you thought they were. So do that. But she IS in a relationship and you should be sensitive to the fact that there is someone out that that she isn't ready to leave yet. Anonymous Posted at 12:29 am on July 28, 2008 Quote: from billygoat at 12:28 am on July 28, 2008 well, if she doesnt want to meet you, she doesnt want to.   the only thing you could really do then, would be to try and get over her. even though it may be hard, im sure you'll find someone in the future. She said she does want to meet me. Special Agent Orange Posted at 12:28 am on July 28, 2008 well, if she doesnt want to meet you, she doesnt want to. the only thing you could really do then, would be to try and get over her. even though it may be hard, im sure you'll find someone in the future. sakurashina Posted at 12:28 am on July 28, 2008 I think you guys should meet each other before you decide to do anything. Seriously, the people you meet on the internet are never like how you meet them in person. All 13 previous replies displayed.