Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I hate forcing myself to be outgoing. Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]drifting[/m] at 8:06 pm on Nov. 11, 2008[quote]Quote: from Anonymous at 10:32 pm on Nov. 11, 2008[quote]Quote: from [m]drifting[/m] at 8:13 pm on Nov. 10, 2008[quote]Quote: from Anonymous at 9:06 pm on Nov. 10, 2008[quote]Quote: from [m]drifting[/m] at 8:02 pm on Nov. 10, 2008[quote]Quote: from Anonymous at 8:59 pm on Nov. 10, 2008[quote]Quote: from [m]cherrys77[/m] at 7:56 pm on Nov. 10, 2008[quote]Quote: from Anonymous at 5:55 pm on Nov. 10, 2008[quote]Quote: from [m]cherrys77[/m] at 7:54 pm on Nov. 10, 2008[quote]I'm sure eventually you'll see progress if you keep trying,  :smile: [/quote] 9 months is plenty of time to see any results.[/quote]           Not necessarily.[/quote] 3/4ths of a year is long enough to see if it is possible for someone to get friends or get a crush. Yet none of that has happened.[/quote]       Getting a crush is not something you try for, its just something that happens.       And as for getting friends, theres more to that than just being outgoing. Its relating to a person, etc.   Im far from outgoing, but I make friends so insanely easily. I dont even know how it happens, because I generally hate people. However, everyone seems to think we are friends and that we are like super close. [/quote] So you are going to sit here and lie to me saying that people don't try to get a relationship and it just happens? What kind of random bullshit are you trying to convey to me. People like other people for a reason. Mainly because the other person serves the purpose of satisfying the first. Not because random shit happens, but only to make yourself happier. Why else would you get into a relationship, to make the other person happy, no, to make you happy, noone else.[/quote]    You cant just be outgoing in hopes to find love though. Not just outgoing people get relationships.  It is more something that happens. You will meet someone and develop feelings for them. You dont just simply get feelings for someone just because your outgoing and talk to them.    For it to have any sort of meaning, you have to get to know them, yes. However, just because you get to know a bunch of people doesnt mean you are going to develop feelings for any of them.    Outgoing =/= lots of friends    Outgoing =/= relationships [/quote] But I was told that being Outgoing helps...[/quote] Eh... If thats not your personality, your only going to make "friends" with people who you hate. I mean, you need to be open, willing to strike up conversations and what not, but actively trying to be outgoing? I think you just need to be more true to how you are. If you are shy and kinda quirky, be shy and kinda quirky. The right people will think thats awesome. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 5:53 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Its scary, hard and I am not progressing anywhere.

Replies katjassidekick Posted at 8:24 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Don't force yourself drifting Posted at 8:06 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 10:32 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Quote: from drifting at 8:13 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 9:06 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from drifting at 8:02 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 8:59 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:56 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 5:55 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:54 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 I'm sure eventually you'll see progress if you keep trying,   9 months is plenty of time to see any results.           Not necessarily. 3/4ths of a year is long enough to see if it is possible for someone to get friends or get a crush. Yet none of that has happened.       Getting a crush is not something you try for, its just something that happens.       And as for getting friends, theres more to that than just being outgoing. Its relating to a person, etc.   Im far from outgoing, but I make friends so insanely easily. I dont even know how it happens, because I generally hate people. However, everyone seems to think we are friends and that we are like super close. So you are going to sit here and lie to me saying that people don't try to get a relationship and it just happens? What kind of random bullshit are you trying to convey to me. People like other people for a reason. Mainly because the other person serves the purpose of satisfying the first. Not because random shit happens, but only to make yourself happier. Why else would you get into a relationship, to make the other person happy, no, to make you happy, noone else.    You cant just be outgoing in hopes to find love though. Not just outgoing people get relationships.  It is more something that happens. You will meet someone and develop feelings for them. You dont just simply get feelings for someone just because your outgoing and talk to them.    For it to have any sort of meaning, you have to get to know them, yes. However, just because you get to know a bunch of people doesnt mean you are going to develop feelings for any of them.    Outgoing =/= lots of friends    Outgoing =/= relationships But I was told that being Outgoing helps... Eh... If thats not your personality, your only going to make "friends" with people who you hate. I mean, you need to be open, willing to strike up conversations and what not, but actively trying to be outgoing? I think you just need to be more true to how you are. If you are shy and kinda quirky, be shy and kinda quirky. The right people will think thats awesome. Anonymous Posted at 7:32 pm on Nov. 11, 2008 Quote: from drifting at 8:13 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 9:06 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from drifting at 8:02 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 8:59 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:56 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 5:55 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:54 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 I'm sure eventually you'll see progress if you keep trying, 9 months is plenty of time to see any results.    Not necessarily. 3/4ths of a year is long enough to see if it is possible for someone to get friends or get a crush. Yet none of that has happened.   Getting a crush is not something you try for, its just something that happens.   And as for getting friends, theres more to that than just being outgoing. Its relating to a person, etc.       Im far from outgoing, but I make friends so insanely easily. I dont even know how it happens, because I generally hate people. However, everyone seems to think we are friends and that we are like super close. So you are going to sit here and lie to me saying that people don't try to get a relationship and it just happens? What kind of random bullshit are you trying to convey to me. People like other people for a reason. Mainly because the other person serves the purpose of satisfying the first. Not because random shit happens, but only to make yourself happier. Why else would you get into a relationship, to make the other person happy, no, to make you happy, noone else. You cant just be outgoing in hopes to find love though. Not just outgoing people get relationships.   It is more something that happens. You will meet someone and develop feelings for them. You dont just simply get feelings for someone just because your outgoing and talk to them. For it to have any sort of meaning, you have to get to know them, yes. However, just because you get to know a bunch of people doesnt mean you are going to develop feelings for any of them. Outgoing =/= lots of friends Outgoing =/= relationships But I was told that being Outgoing helps... drifting Posted at 6:13 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 9:06 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from drifting at 8:02 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 8:59 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:56 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 5:55 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:54 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 I'm sure eventually you'll see progress if you keep trying,   9 months is plenty of time to see any results.       Not necessarily. 3/4ths of a year is long enough to see if it is possible for someone to get friends or get a crush. Yet none of that has happened.    Getting a crush is not something you try for, its just something that happens.    And as for getting friends, theres more to that than just being outgoing. Its relating to a person, etc.  Im far from outgoing, but I make friends so insanely easily. I dont even know how it happens, because I generally hate people. However, everyone seems to think we are friends and that we are like super close. So you are going to sit here and lie to me saying that people don't try to get a relationship and it just happens? What kind of random bullshit are you trying to convey to me. People like other people for a reason. Mainly because the other person serves the purpose of satisfying the first. Not because random shit happens, but only to make yourself happier. Why else would you get into a relationship, to make the other person happy, no, to make you happy, noone else. You cant just be outgoing in hopes to find love though. Not just outgoing people get relationships. It is more something that happens. You will meet someone and develop feelings for them. You dont just simply get feelings for someone just because your outgoing and talk to them. For it to have any sort of meaning, you have to get to know them, yes. However, just because you get to know a bunch of people doesnt mean you are going to develop feelings for any of them. Outgoing =/= lots of friends Outgoing =/= relationships Anonymous Posted at 6:12 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from nikki123 at 8:10 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 just be yourself. Me being myself is why nobody likes me. And I don't mean popular I mean The preps, normal kids, nerds, other black kids dislike me because of the way I am. So I need to change to something else. nikki123 Posted at 6:10 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 just be yourself. Anonymous Posted at 6:10 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from rebelmozzerella at 8:06 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Why are you forcing yourself? Because I got a taste of what its like to have friends and a love intrest a year ago and I want more. annabellheart Posted at 6:08 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 it will get better! =) chelseamorgan Posted at 6:06 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Why are you forcing yourself? Anonymous Posted at 6:06 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from drifting at 8:02 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 8:59 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:56 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 5:55 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:54 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 I'm sure eventually you'll see progress if you keep trying, 9 months is plenty of time to see any results.   Not necessarily. 3/4ths of a year is long enough to see if it is possible for someone to get friends or get a crush. Yet none of that has happened. Getting a crush is not something you try for, its just something that happens. And as for getting friends, theres more to that than just being outgoing. Its relating to a person, etc.   Im far from outgoing, but I make friends so insanely easily. I dont even know how it happens, because I generally hate people. However, everyone seems to think we are friends and that we are like super close. So you are going to sit here and lie to me saying that people don't try to get a relationship and it just happens? What kind of random bullshit are you trying to convey to me. People like other people for a reason. Mainly because the other person serves the purpose of satisfying the first. Not because random shit happens, but only to make yourself happier. Why else would you get into a relationship, to make the other person happy, no, to make you happy, noone else. drifting Posted at 6:02 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 8:59 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:56 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 5:55 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:54 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 I'm sure eventually you'll see progress if you keep trying,   9 months is plenty of time to see any results.    Not necessarily. 3/4ths of a year is long enough to see if it is possible for someone to get friends or get a crush. Yet none of that has happened. Getting a crush is not something you try for, its just something that happens. And as for getting friends, theres more to that than just being outgoing. Its relating to a person, etc. Im far from outgoing, but I make friends so insanely easily. I dont even know how it happens, because I generally hate people. However, everyone seems to think we are friends and that we are like super close. cherrys77 Posted at 6:02 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 5:59 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:56 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 5:55 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:54 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 I'm sure eventually you'll see progress if you keep trying,   9 months is plenty of time to see any results.    Not necessarily. 3/4ths of a year is long enough to see if it is possible for someone to get friends or get a crush. Yet none of that has happened. Why the rush? Things take time. I've been trying to get a boyfriend for the past 4 years. It still hasn't happened but I'm honestly not worried about it. Anonymous Posted at 5:59 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:56 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 5:55 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:54 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 I'm sure eventually you'll see progress if you keep trying, 9 months is plenty of time to see any results. Not necessarily. 3/4ths of a year is long enough to see if it is possible for someone to get friends or get a crush. Yet none of that has happened. cherrys77 Posted at 5:56 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 5:55 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from cherrys77 at 7:54 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 I'm sure eventually you'll see progress if you keep trying,   9 months is plenty of time to see any results. Not necessarily. xdreamingx3 Posted at 5:56 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 same here. its hard...but i suppose it will make you happier in the long run. Most recent 15 of 20 previous replies displayed.