Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I really, really don't know what to do. Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Skyler72 rawrr[/m] at 7:58 pm on Nov. 18, 2008[quote]If he was dumb enough to get drunk and hook up with some chick, he sure as hell doesn't deserve her. But, she doesn't deserve getting hurt either, yet it was his fault. You did the right thing, skipper.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 7:55 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 So, my best friend's boyfriend called me a little while ago telling me that he needed to talk to me about something really important. He sounded really bothered and upset and told me that he'd gone to a party on saturday, got drunk, and hooked up with some random girl. This isn't like him at all - they're both Christians and he's 18 and she's 17. They've been dating for almost a year and they really love each other. I told him that he needed to tell her the truth because either way, she's going to get hurt, but I don't know if I did the right thing. I don't want her to get hurt she doesn't deserve this. I don't know what to do.

Replies Aimforthehead Posted at 10:12 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 What does him being Christian have to do with anything? Are we supposed to be surprised some Christian kid would cheat on their boyfriend/girlfriend? Just wondering. Meeko Posted at 10:00 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 Don't tell her, it will only cause pain. LoveKay Posted at 9:57 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 Well, now you're in a tough situation because I'm sure you want to tell your friend but know that it's best her boyfriend tells her first. And the latter is correct... for now. If they are both Christian, he shouldn't have been out and getting drunk to the point of losing his mind and fidelity. However, if he did, he needs to confront his girlfriend and tell her immediately. It's very important that he does. It shows more "trust" if he tells her rather than if he hides it, and even if you don't tell her, she will someday find out. And she will also find out that you knew, and did not tell her, causing her to probably get mad at you for keeping it from her. So tell your friend's boyfriend that he needs to tell her, and do so soon. Tell him if he doesn't, then you will have to because it's your duty as her best friend. He must have enough respect for her to let her decide whether she wants to be with him. If he truly "loves" her, then he will do it. Just because he cheated on her, doesn't mean she will dump him. The decision will be left up to her. However, he may not be a complete jackass because at least he confronted you about his mistake, to see what he should do, to let it off his chest. Obviously, he is having a hard time living with his actions. And he will for a long time until he tells his girlfriend the truth. It's the right thing to do. warrior chick Posted at 9:51 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 idk, what to say, hottie15 Posted at 8:13 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 umm well my boyfriend (current) cheated on me when he got drunk but with 3 diffrent girls and i was hurt for but 3 weeks but i heard it from everyone in school so then when he was gonna tell me i already knew and i was hurt so idk but he told me he was gonna tell me the nite of the day i found out but people can't stay out of our bussiness but we talked bout it cuz we have a open relationship and we are still together next month will be a year so yes he should deffenatly tell her and just cuz it worked out for me doesn't mean it will for her and yes he dosen't deserve her at all but u need to talk to her after he does to be a good friend but just tell her if she wasn't to talk u will be there for her cuz other wise it will get worse trust me Skyler72 rawrr Posted at 7:58 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 If he was dumb enough to get drunk and hook up with some chick, he sure as hell doesn't deserve her. But, she doesn't deserve getting hurt either, yet it was his fault. You did the right thing, skipper. lucid dreams19 Posted at 7:57 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 Quote: from snowcone200 at 9:56 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 "she doesn't deserve this."   He doesn't deserve her. this snowcone200 Posted at 7:56 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 "she doesn't deserve this." He doesn't deserve her. All 8 previous replies displayed.