Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic On a break- please help Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from Anonymous at 3:47 pm on Nov. 21, 2008[quote]I'm so lost at the moment. A year ago on Halloween I met this guy and immediately fell head over heals for him. Despite the fact that at the time, I wasn't into guys in general, and despite the fact that my ex girlfriend cheated on me with him. At the time he had a girlfriend, but it didn't last very long. A most a month, and she was (as I've been told) more of a rebound than anything. I became friends with him, and about four months after we became friends (and after four months of me liking him and him having no idea) He found out, and I found out that he'd always had a thing for me. It's a year later, the next Halloween just passed and we'd been going out for eight months. The longest relationship I've ever been in (same goes for him) and we'd been through a lot together. Abortion, friend problems, family problems etc I opened up to him about things more than I have to anyone who is not family, and told him things I've never told anyone. Serious things. I love him completely. BUT, I found out that on the most recent Halloween he cheated on me with the girl he was with when I first met him (who I'm supposed to be amazingly good friends with) There was a lot to it, but basically they both said that they just made out all night. And he claims he cannot remember anything. So, being the push over that I am I just tried to let it go and didn't make a huge deal of it. But I couldn't stop thinking about it, and it was absolutely tearing me to pieces so I told him that we need to go on a break. (Which is breaking my heart, because all I want is to be able to forget it ever happened and be able to kiss and be with him) Last night, after avoiding her phone calls since Halloween, the girl staid over at my house. And I found out that he not only made all the first moves, but he also convinced her that I was okay with it, and fingered her. I'm a complete and utter mess. He's been sobbing every time I've talked to him, and says he'll do anything to get me back.. But I don't know what to do. If I get back with him I'll be a pushover, but if I don't I'll be miserable. I never thought he'd do something like this to me, and honestly love him so much. It's unbearable. Is there any advice anyone can give me at all? Please? [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 3:47 pm on Nov. 21, 2008 I'm so lost at the moment. A year ago on Halloween I met this guy and immediately fell head over heals for him. Despite the fact that at the time, I wasn't into guys in general, and despite the fact that my ex girlfriend cheated on me with him. At the time he had a girlfriend, but it didn't last very long. A most a month, and she was (as I've been told) more of a rebound than anything. I became friends with him, and about four months after we became friends (and after four months of me liking him and him having no idea) He found out, and I found out that he'd always had a thing for me. It's a year later, the next Halloween just passed and we'd been going out for eight months. The longest relationship I've ever been in (same goes for him) and we'd been through a lot together. Abortion, friend problems, family problems etc I opened up to him about things more than I have to anyone who is not family, and told him things I've never told anyone. Serious things. I love him completely. BUT, I found out that on the most recent Halloween he cheated on me with the girl he was with when I first met him (who I'm supposed to be amazingly good friends with) There was a lot to it, but basically they both said that they just made out all night. And he claims he cannot remember anything. So, being the push over that I am I just tried to let it go and didn't make a huge deal of it. But I couldn't stop thinking about it, and it was absolutely tearing me to pieces so I told him that we need to go on a break. (Which is breaking my heart, because all I want is to be able to forget it ever happened and be able to kiss and be with him) Last night, after avoiding her phone calls since Halloween, the girl staid over at my house. And I found out that he not only made all the first moves, but he also convinced her that I was okay with it, and fingered her. I'm a complete and utter mess. He's been sobbing every time I've talked to him, and says he'll do anything to get me back.. But I don't know what to do. If I get back with him I'll be a pushover, but if I don't I'll be miserable. I never thought he'd do something like this to me, and honestly love him so much. It's unbearable. Is there any advice anyone can give me at all? Please?

Replies Rainfallen22 Posted at 3:55 pm on Nov. 21, 2008 i wish i could help. Im in a sticky situation that is sorta like yours. Im in love with htis kid and we dated for like a year and a half (with a few breaks in-between) but it got to be too much, and now were both like... idk.. messy situation. If i could ive you any advice to you at ALL... tell him what u think. Look, I know its probably going to be the hardest conversation ever... but talk to him and tell him what this other girl said.. give him a chance to explain himself... in a way Id embarrass him, but ultimately id give him that second (or in my case.. 100th) chance to prove himself. You not a pushover.... you in love. Welcome to what they didnt tell you in the faerie stories.... SheMintsEclectic Posted at 3:53 pm on Nov. 21, 2008 First and foremost knowing all the facts is not really important. You'll never really know who initiated what, and who kissed who because you weren't there. Both of them are going to try to cover their asses and all their bases so in reality if you really want to make this thing work with your boyfriend you need to take a real break from. A break that will let him know that you mean business. He needs to hurt so he knows that sort of shit is not acceptable at all. The a longer the better. If you can stay together after all thats happened and that break its worth it. error Posted at 3:50 pm on Nov. 21, 2008 i would give him one more chance but if he does anything again then u should break up with him. HardToBreathe Posted at 3:49 pm on Nov. 21, 2008 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations All 4 previous replies displayed.