-Is it your birthday

I flip out.... are you kidding we have been together for 2 years and you don't know my birthday. He is horrible with dates we both know it. We get in a big fight about how he should know it and this that and the other and he tells me he can't take the stress any more and we need a break.
He later apologizes and tells me he knew it was coming up but felt that he would look like an idiot for asking so he was going to wait until myspace or facebook or something sent him a reminder. Problem is i never store my birthday in those things, at least not publicly. He says that i never gave him a chance to explain that but over reacted and caused a bug commotion and it really needs to stop.
So we took a while to work it out you know. We had a great week and everything felt so right so we decided to end the break. Problem is we had nothing to show that anything had gotten better (over reacting wise). Last night we discussed going on a date tonight.
This morning he told me he was stressed so i say lets go shopping. I was going anyway it might help. He says if he can take a nap sure. I said well Im gonna get an outfit for our date so we will just get together later.
So im shopping lalalala i get a txt. So what are you gonna do?
Huh?
Well you mentioned shopping
O yeah I am
O well where are you?
The mall???
ok because I was going to go grocery shopping with my parents later tonight and i thought maybe id run into you..
I thought we were going out
Well this morning it didnt seem like it so i made plans to spend time with my family

Of course i get angry and tell him to call me when he wants me and this that and the other and... OVER REACT... and then he says I seriously can not take this any more... There was no change what so ever.

My thing is I wasn't given a chance to prove it and when i was i fell flat on my face. We aren't together again! but we are going to hangout and talk and i'm supposed to prove myself and that i really want to work on this.

My question is how? how do i prove that i can control that if im not given another situation... if hes not my boyfriend then why would i care what hes doing? i mean i do but he has no ties to me so i cant say anything.

How do i control myself in the situations anyway?