Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Why must things be complicated Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]MusicArtLife[/m] at 7:05 pm on Dec. 1, 2008[quote]So I've been in a relationship for the past 3 years, almost 4. We've lived together the last year and a half, and after the holidays, I am moving out, but have made it clear I still want to date, I just rushed things moving in so quick. We are different stages in life (Im 20 and he's....lets just say older) While I still DEEPLY LOVE him, he wants to settle down, I still have things in life I need to go do. So while I say I still want to date, I fear that this marks the beginning of the end for us, though I think we'll stay friends. What complicates things though, is my best guy friend has been txting me a lot lately. He's out of state in the coast guard. We've been friends for, like 6 years. right before I met the current beau, I had told Best Guy Friend that I liked him. He wasnt interested in anything more than friends at the time and thats where we have remained. I took it well, I dont usually let things "get weird" and we've become closer friends still. I'll even help him get dates and joke with him about whichever girl he may be chasin at the time. Last night we were just chatting, he was talking about a mutual friend of ours that he's been obsessed with forever. And he randomly spurts out "Y didnt I fall in love with you?" I replied "Dont know, Havent quite figured that one out either" He says "Thats why, because Im stupid. Me not so smart" And today he's insinuated it again, turning non-specific conversation into insinuating comments. Saying "All you'd  have to do is keep me in line and cuddle" etc. Its just complicated! He doesnt even know Im moving out from my BF's... so the timming is just weird. It just further complicates my emotions right now. Having to come to terms with NEEDING to move out and continue with the life I once dreamed of having was very difficult because of how much I love my bf, but apart of that thought process WAS thinking about slowly distancing myself to start dating guys my age....but I didnt want it to start soon. Im just debating on how to handle this. Keep changing the subject with the BGF and shrugging everything off as joking, or sit him down and be straight forward and tell him whats on my mind?[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post MusicArtLife Posted at 7:05 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 So I've been in a relationship for the past 3 years, almost 4. We've lived together the last year and a half, and after the holidays, I am moving out, but have made it clear I still want to date, I just rushed things moving in so quick. We are different stages in life (Im 20 and he's....lets just say older) While I still DEEPLY LOVE him, he wants to settle down, I still have things in life I need to go do. So while I say I still want to date, I fear that this marks the beginning of the end for us, though I think we'll stay friends. What complicates things though, is my best guy friend has been txting me a lot lately. He's out of state in the coast guard. We've been friends for, like 6 years. right before I met the current beau, I had told Best Guy Friend that I liked him. He wasnt interested in anything more than friends at the time and thats where we have remained. I took it well, I dont usually let things "get weird" and we've become closer friends still. I'll even help him get dates and joke with him about whichever girl he may be chasin at the time. Last night we were just chatting, he was talking about a mutual friend of ours that he's been obsessed with forever. And he randomly spurts out "Y didnt I fall in love with you?" I replied "Dont know, Havent quite figured that one out either" He says "Thats why, because Im stupid. Me not so smart" And today he's insinuated it again, turning non-specific conversation into insinuating comments. Saying "All you'd  have to do is keep me in line and cuddle" etc. Its just complicated! He doesnt even know Im moving out from my BF's... so the timming is just weird. It just further complicates my emotions right now. Having to come to terms with NEEDING to move out and continue with the life I once dreamed of having was very difficult because of how much I love my bf, but apart of that thought process WAS thinking about slowly distancing myself to start dating guys my age....but I didnt want it to start soon. Im just debating on how to handle this. Keep changing the subject with the BGF and shrugging everything off as joking, or sit him down and be straight forward and tell him whats on my mind?

Replies MusicArtLife Posted at 7:15 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from maceyface at 10:13 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from MusicArtLife at 7:11 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from maceyface at 10:10 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 i'm going to solve this for you right now. any person, any male in particular, who says to you: "me not so smart"   is not worth any time, effort, trouble, et cetera.    Haha, he's a joking sort of guy, so he was saying it like that to be silly. Trust me, he's very intelligent. the phrase is so typically thrown around by immature and boring people. just take that to heart. While I know this advice is given with the best of intentions, and is appreciated, its one of those things where you just dont know him. Im sure most of us have friends who say cliche things who are not the stereotype. LoveKay Posted at 7:14 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Just get it out of the way. This way, it won't constantly be on your mind while you're trying to accomplish other things and get around. Ask him about it and be straight up. You'll feel better--whatever outcome happens from it. maceyface Posted at 7:13 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from MusicArtLife at 7:11 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from maceyface at 10:10 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 i'm going to solve this for you right now. any person, any male in particular, who says to you: "me not so smart"    is not worth any time, effort, trouble, et cetera. Haha, he's a joking sort of guy, so he was saying it like that to be silly. Trust me, he's very intelligent. the phrase is so typically thrown around by immature and boring people. just take that to heart. MusicArtLife Posted at 7:11 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 Quote: from maceyface at 10:10 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 i'm going to solve this for you right now. any person, any male in particular, who says to you: "me not so smart" is not worth any time, effort, trouble, et cetera. Haha, he's a joking sort of guy, so he was saying it like that to be silly. Trust me, he's very intelligent. maceyface Posted at 7:10 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 i'm going to solve this for you right now. any person, any male in particular, who says to you: "me not so smart" is not worth any time, effort, trouble, et cetera. cowgirlyehaa Posted at 7:09 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 I think you should take a break. If you are imaging yourself with other men, you need to get out and explore. Not that thats a bad thing, you just want to make sure you have made the right decision on your man. MXfreak Posted at 7:07 pm on Dec. 1, 2008 its simple - because you touch yourself at night All 7 previous replies displayed.