Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic help again Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]xPicturesOfYou3[/m] at 7:35 pm on Jan. 6, 2009[quote]Well, she's not your girlfriend, so she can really chill with and have sex with whoever she wants.  You guys technically aren't in a relationship, you're just hooking up friends.  Give her another chance.  Don't seem so uptight and stressed and mad about it cuz it might remind her of her boyfriend who hit her.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post jamiacansun Posted at 7:29 pm on Jan. 6, 2009 ok so a while back i posted about a girl in high school that i liked. here is my initial post. ok, i need some help here. myself and this girl have hung out 4 out of the last 5 days. we kiss, hold hands, hug, i hold her, and weve just seemed to get along great. she has only had one boyfriend throughout high school, shes a senior this year, while im a freshman in college. this guy was a total jerk to her, hit her, did some other things bad enough not to say on here, and she cannot stand him anymore. i asked her to be my girlfriend the other day after date number 4. she said she isnt ready for a relationship right now. is it because she is scared im going to be like the last guy and she doesnt want her heart broke again? any and all help would be appreciated..is there anything i can tell her to reassure her ill be different and take care of her? well a week or two has passed and here is an update. we hung out for 4 days in row, made out a bunch. some touching and feeling and licking and so forth. nothing huge just a little messing around. then day 5, we didnt hang out because her and her friends were hvaing a girls night. we hung out the day after for new years eve for a couple hours then she had other plans with her friends that she had made about a month prior to us talking. then on the 3 she tells me she isnt quite ready for a relationship and says we need to just chill for a couple days. the 4 i went to a basketball game and she cheers, she walks by and doesnt say hi all night. then the next day i find out the night of her girls night they went to a party and the girl i had been hanging out with has sex with another guy. i am pretty pi$$ed about the whole situation but we have talked a few times since then and things seem to be a little better than when i found out. i leave to go back to college in a week. and tonight she texts and says she wants to hang out some more because she still likes me and she could see us together down the road. my question is, should i give her the opportunity? i was absolutely crushed when i found out she had sex with another guy during a week where we spent 5 of 7 days together. but i like her soo much. do you think i should give her another chance? does she deserve another one?? thanks for all help.

Replies jamiacansun Posted at 7:52 pm on Jan. 6, 2009 i talked to her a little last night and she says she regrets it and wishes it never happened, it just hurt that she didnt tell me, i heard it from one of her best friends. but even though i was extremely hurt its so hard because i have such strong feelings with her. everyone im sure has had a relationship with someone that they feel so comfortable aorund they can just be thereselves and thats what she was for me. i didnt have to try to hard it just came easy. i want to be with her because i had more feelings for her in 5 days then i had in 2 different relationships that lasted 2+ months. i just was looking for some help and advice from maybe people who had went through something similar. Soccerchik107 Posted at 7:38 pm on Jan. 6, 2009 For the first part, I don't think any girl would be ready to get in a relationship any time soon after that, so I think the best thing to do is just give her some time. And for the second part, I think you should give her a chance. It's not like you guys are in a relationship or anything, so.. yeah. I would talk to her about that, though. Mikayla007 Posted at 7:37 pm on Jan. 6, 2009 I think you need to talk about it 1st, and then make your descion. try to talk to her about it, and I would say try, if you don't like where it is going break up. after all recjection always hurts nack Posted at 7:36 pm on Jan. 6, 2009 If you honestly like her and would put ur whole heart into bein with her i say yes. give her a chance. but dont be to physical with her let her know what she did hurt u. but also let her kno that u still like her just as much but the trust is gone and u want to rebuild it xPicturesOfYou3 Posted at 7:35 pm on Jan. 6, 2009 Well, she's not your girlfriend, so she can really chill with and have sex with whoever she wants.  You guys technically aren't in a relationship, you're just hooking up friends.  Give her another chance.  Don't seem so uptight and stressed and mad about it cuz it might remind her of her boyfriend who hit her. All 5 previous replies displayed.