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Anonymous Posted at 10:55 pm on Jan. 7, 2009
So this is kind of long but here goes nothing.

I have been really into my guy friend for a while. We've been friends for about 3 years, and I've had a thing for him off and on the whole time. I'll like him, then I'll decide I'm not good enough to be with him and move on. He's one of the most awesome guys I've ever met in my entire life, and I'm completely comfortable around him. I would love to be his girlfriend but I don't know if he'd ever see me as more than a friend. Sometimes I think maybe he could be interested because he'll be all touchy-feely and hug me a lot and put his arm around me and all that. But then again, he can be touchy-feely with other girls too, so I don't know what to think... But then last night I went out with him and some of our friends, and he was super touchy feely, putting his arm around me while we ate, putting his head on my shoulder when we were talking, saying that once I graduate this May, he wants to make sure we still see each other all the time and stuff.

So Guy 2 is a guy who transferred to my school last year. When I first met him, we did not get along at all. We disagreed on everything, we argued all the time, it was awful. But as the year went on, we found out we actually had a lot in common, and by the end of the year, I found myself being interested in him and thought the feeling might be mutual. Then school ended and I didn't see him for a while. Now we've been back for a semester, and those feelings have started to creep back in for me. We get along well now, although we still disagree quite a bit. He keeps me on my toes. I'm not sure he feels the same though. He usually has some smart ass thing to say to me, and we've been known to argue over stupid stuff. For example, we were at a basketball game at our school one night and we were arguing about something stupid, and all of a sudden he stops and says, "Fine...let's just go make out then." Caught me completely offguard and I didn't know what to say. And even though we disagree sometimes, for some reason, I still find myself looking for reasons to be around him. And lately, it seems like he might be doing the same...finding me in our school's dining room and coming to sit with me, coming over to talk about nothing in particular in the library...

So I guess my problem is this...I don't know who I should go for or if I should even make a move for either one. Both are great guys, and I'm really having a hard time figuring all this out. Any suggestions?

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cowgirlyehaa Posted at 8:36 pm on Jan. 8, 2009
I think the second guy may be a good fling, but nothing serious will happen. He seems like the type to date for 2 months, but thats it. He sounds like an awesome friend though, so if you want a fling or just get some dating experience, go for guy 2.

But as for guy 1, I think the feelings you have for him, will never truly go away. I think you should tell him how you feel, and see how he responds. If he is completely turned off by the idea of dating you, forget it and move on. I just feel if you try to forget guy #1 then youll always wonder what you coulda had, what could of happened. Sometimes you have to take risks to see if its worth it. Even if you two dont happen to be "soul mates", I think the relationship (friend wise) would deepen and you would have a life-long friend.

That's just my opinion.

Anonymous Posted at 8:27 pm on Jan. 8, 2009
Anybody?
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