Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Taking back a cheater Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]A6stringpoet[/m] at 10:15 pm on Jan. 11, 2009[quote]Nah I'd say once a cheater, always a cheater. I would like to think the best in people but honestly, if you can't be strong enough to keep up your guard the first time, the second time will be too easy. This isn't to say that a person can't learn from their mistakes, but imo, if they cheat they've cast away what is valuable in a relationship and that is true unbridled trust. [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post hazeleyedangel Posted at 10:10 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Let's say that your significant other of well over a year cheated on you once. They feel extremely regretful and are incredibly sorry and willing to do anything to make it up to you. If you take them back to try and work through things, does that tell the cheater that it's okay to cheat?

Replies InnocentTears Posted at 8:15 am on Jan. 13, 2009 I took my boyfriend back. At first you will have major trust issues, but after that things should get back to normal. Also you will have the say in the relationship from now on which is always a bonus AND if you love someone that much it's stupid to throw it away over a simple mistake. And believe me if he's that sorry he WONT do it again. MoZ Posted at 2:15 am on Jan. 13, 2009 everyone deserves a second chance - especially if they show remorse. rijames99 Posted at 8:40 pm on Jan. 12, 2009 I don't believe it means that, but I do believe before a couple reconsiles in that situation that they both come to understand what was lacking in the relationship that led the guy to look elsewhere. It requires both parties to be open and take responsibility. Shaknbake Posted at 11:02 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from HazelEyedAngel at 10:10 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Let's say that your significant other of well over a year cheated on you once. They feel extremely regretful and are incredibly sorry and willing to do anything to make it up to you. How do you know what they feel? They say they're sorry, so they are sorry? If you take them back to try and work through things, does that tell the cheater that it's okay to cheat? Not if they think like a normal person, but I've met people, and I'm sure you have to, who seem to come to pretty stupid conclusions. hithere Posted at 10:33 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 it does if you don't hold them to what they said about doing anything to make it up to you Erebus Posted at 10:26 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Take them back, but I wouldn't trust them nearly as much. If it happens again and they feel "extremely regretful" again, Don't take them back the second time. If the feeling was so bad the first time around, why go through it again, if they really cared? blufindr Posted at 10:16 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Not at all. However, I'd have my suspicions about their faithfulness in the future. Clara Bell Posted at 10:16 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 I don't it tells them it's 'ok' to cheat, but it tells them "if this happens again, she'll take me back." A6stringpoet Posted at 10:15 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Nah I'd say once a cheater, always a cheater. I would like to think the best in people but honestly, if you can't be strong enough to keep up your guard the first time, the second time will be too easy. This isn't to say that a person can't learn from their mistakes, but imo, if they cheat they've cast away what is valuable in a relationship and that is true unbridled trust. meat pole Posted at 10:14 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Quote: from PrideAndJoy at 10:11 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 No. People make mistakes. To err is human, to forgive is divine. http://www.golivewire.com/forums/profile.cgi?action=a&member=divine judgement Divine Judgement? AcidSilence Posted at 10:12 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 Forgive them. If it happens a second time tho? No way. PrideAndJoy Posted at 10:11 pm on Jan. 11, 2009 No. People make mistakes. To err is human, to forgive is divine. All 12 previous replies displayed.