Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic So, my friend is mad at me, because I'm dating the guy she led on... Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]SparklingFlower[/m] at 12:19 pm on July 3, 2009[quote]Grr, I never realized how much drama that relationships cause... Anyway, so I have this friend. She flirts with almost EVERY guy we know... She isn't seriously interested in any of them, but flirts with them to the point where they REALLY believe she is. Then she uses them... then breaks their hearts later on... Anyway, so she did it to this one guy we knew... I told her that he liked me.. Then she rubbed it in my face that he liked her now.. I wasn't sure if she totally did that on purpose, but I got sad over it... Well, she led him on for a little while, then messed with him big time... They stayed friends for a bit, and he eventually told her that he really wanted me, and was just too scared to do anything about it... After talking a lot and making sense of the whole thing, he and I are now dating <3 She doesn't know for sure yet, but she totally suspects it.. and she is MAD! Does she have any right to be mad at me? Did I do anything wrong?! People keep saying "How could you do that to her?!" but she told me that she NEVER liked him like that... she even told him that! So, I don't get what the problem is... [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post SparklingFlower Posted at 12:19 pm on July 3, 2009 Grr, I never realized how much drama that relationships cause... Anyway, so I have this friend. She flirts with almost EVERY guy we know... She isn't seriously interested in any of them, but flirts with them to the point where they REALLY believe she is. Then she uses them... then breaks their hearts later on... Anyway, so she did it to this one guy we knew... I told her that he liked me.. Then she rubbed it in my face that he liked her now.. I wasn't sure if she totally did that on purpose, but I got sad over it... Well, she led him on for a little while, then messed with him big time... They stayed friends for a bit, and he eventually told her that he really wanted me, and was just too scared to do anything about it... After talking a lot and making sense of the whole thing, he and I are now dating <3 She doesn't know for sure yet, but she totally suspects it.. and she is MAD! Does she have any right to be mad at me? Did I do anything wrong?! People keep saying "How could you do that to her?!" but she told me that she NEVER liked him like that... she even told him that! So, I don't get what the problem is...

Replies Thriftweed Posted at 8:33 pm on July 3, 2009 oh my god what a bitch for having feelings Andie2323 Posted at 7:31 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from ToyJetpack at 12:20 pm on July 3, 2009 She's being a jealous bitch, tell her to fuck off. agreeeed. Chiefette Posted at 3:28 pm on July 3, 2009 She has no right to be mad.  She had her chance to be with him and she blew it.  That isn't your fault and you have nothing to be sorry for.   Relationships are always going to be filled with drama, but never let anyone scare you out of a relationship.  She may be jealous, and perhaps she does like him and was just afraid to let you know because she would feel like she was stepping on your toes.  Either way, she doesn't sound like the type of friend I would want.  If she tries to get in between you, you may be better off just not talking to her.  It may hurt both of you for a time, but if she comes back you will know that she is a true friend.  If she doesn' come back it is for the better. When a girl like that loses the attention of a guy that they were playing with they get jealous.  They typically don't like the guy, but they often try to take them back, or feel inferior because they could not keep the guys attention.  Just be yourself.  Enjoy your relationship and make the best of this.  Don't let a "friend" get in between you and someone you care about.  A true friend wouldn't.   You also have to remember that your friends should always be there for you, no matter what it is and you should be able to talk it through.  You should tell her, before she just finds out from someone else.  It may seem like it would make it worse, but I am sure she would rather hear it from you.  Don't however try to turn anything around.  Regardless of her feelings toward him she is still going to be hurt.  Try to balance friendship with relationships.   Make sure you let her know how much you care about this guy.  Reassure her that you are not dating him because of her, that you have wanted to date him and things have finally worked out.   Mimic Posted at 2:03 pm on July 3, 2009 I think she has no right to be mad with you at all. She led this guy on when you two really liked each other. If anyone should have been mad it's you when she was leading him on. You've done nothing wrong at all, and you should stand your ground if she or anyone else tries to say you have. She said she never liked him in that way, so you're not stepping on anyones toes. You liked him, he liked you and you have now come to the conclusion to date. This is entirely natural and you should not feel guilty for going after something you want. Let her know you and this guy have talked it out and want to give it a chance, remind her that she was never serious about this guy, but you are, and could well be into the future. You just want to give it a chance. Remind her of all of the other guys she flirt with if you have to, distract her attention. Say something like "oh so and so is much better for you anyway!" She's only acting this way because she's lost/losing some of the attention she has received from this guy. Do not feel bad about this, you need to put yourself first sometime and this seems like the time to do it :-) gief Posted at 12:31 pm on July 3, 2009 oooh, so she like a woman who likes attention, but dosnt actually want to give anything back, and now that some of the attention that she once had is gone, i get it, because 90% of girls act this way. ApatheticKiller Posted at 12:24 pm on July 3, 2009 The only reason I see for being mad is that you didn't tell her...but otherwise, no RosabellaRai Posted at 12:22 pm on July 3, 2009 Quote: from ToyJetpack at 12:20 pm on July 3, 2009 She's being a jealous bitch, tell her to fuck off. ha. exactly that. Total Destruction Posted at 12:22 pm on July 3, 2009 She's just a jealous scandalous hoe and she has no right to be mad! ToyJetpack Posted at 12:20 pm on July 3, 2009 She's being a jealous bitch, tell her to fuck off. All 9 previous replies displayed.